Messages By: heather175

Quote From: bzbluiii

 Remember decisions aren't one size fits all just like shoes are not. So shop around so you find the right fit for your family 

 

I just saw this that Sea wrote to someone else and thought it was such a good message.  I have never really looked at it quite that way, but she is so right.  I just saw what you wrote on another board and it really stirs up emotions for me, cause I have seen so much alcholism in my life and know what you must be going thru.  I could tell you all the things that I felt growing up living with an alcoholic father, but you probably already understand what it is doing to your family.  Hope you can find the answer that is right for your family.  Know that I care. 

Quote From: nekocats2

Hello. 

  

Wishing you all the best. 

  

Neko 

Quote From: bzbluiii

You are right maybe at this age your kids haven't had any negative experiences and I hope they don't.  I didn't have any bad feelings til I was a teenager then you get outside influences telling things aren't right and also for me my dad got worse and it effected things like his job, driving, my mother was unhappy, lots of stuff.  So for me it was good times til I was a little older.  You are good to want you kids to love him and I am sure he is a good man, just has a problem. Hope you can resolve this and maybe get him some help.  I always felt there must be something really troubling my dad for him to use alcohol to solve it.  I always wished I could help and tried to make things go as smooth as possible in the famil, and covered up the best a kid can do.  Hopefully one day he will decide he doesn't like what he is doing and will have the strength to get help.  Stay by his side and keep trying as long as there is hope.

Quote From: wrenn13

Sometimes I'm really glad that I came from a very modest upbringing (in other words poor..lol) When my husband and I married last April we had the ceremony in our yard, with all of our friends (over 70 people attended)  no gifts were required, and afterwards it turned into a poker party (we played till 5 a.m the next morning).There were no bridesmaids, just my 9 yr old daughter and her friend were dressed in frilly little girl dresses. I made my own bouquet and my wedding dress cost about $20.00. The officators were a non denominational lady pastor that traveled 3 hours to get to our house (because no one in our area would do our ceremony the way we wanted) and a native american medicine woman that my husband has known for years. The only thing I asked my guests to do was to bring a covered dish or something to throw on the grill to feed everybody.  The only stressful thing about my wedding was my bare feet were freezing as I walked across the grass to my groom...lol. Everyone in town talked about our wedding for weeks....I couldn't go to the store without someone telling me mine was the most beautiful wedding they had ever attended.  

 

p.s My husband and I had been together as a couple for over 5 years when we decided to marry......I wouldn't change a thing! 

Quote From: nekocats2

I know that I have not been on much tonight.  I was trying to clean house and make it smell nice before hubby got home.  I did it!! I have just been in a funk.  I am sorry. 

  

I just wanted to say to all of you, that I hope you have a very restful sleep and peaceful.  I have read some of the posts and my heart hurts for those in pain. Remember, my thoughts and prayers will always be with you. 

  

Again, thank you for your care and concern you have given me in the past.  I will check back and forth on the posts in case anyone responds.  But, I doubt it.  It is late for many, and me, I am not worth a whole heck of a lot.  Sorry.  I just hope you guys are going to be OK.  And yes, still in a bit of a funk.  Hey, I will be just fiiiiinnnnneeeee,    ((( Hugs )))) to all. 

  

Neko/Vickie 

Quote From: sea_shells

I think it was you that was looking for a pic of Dopey (seven dwarfs) I hope this works for you.