Quote From: blazes06My adoptive mom after i got out of the mental hospital told me she wished she never would of adopted me. Growing up she never told me she love me. She was distant and very cold. i started babysitting at age 11 in order to buy clothes or what ever i needed. I never asked them for anything. they think the depression ect. is all in my head. i wish it were.
They are hurt because my husband and i chose not to tell them that i went into the mental hospital. they dont belive in that. my meds messed up on me and i was cutting and truley wanted to kill my self. i needed to be in a safe place. they got my meds on track.
i hadnt talked with my real mom in over 12 years and in july i drove to calif from idaho and suprised her. its was the best thing i could of done. i found out alot of answers that had been bothering me. why she gave me up ect. Lots of abandonment issues. we talk atleast twice a month. and email each other. My biological dad i found him when i was 25 and have a relationship with him. He wants me to talk about my depression ect. he said he has me now and wont give me up. I know growing up my adoptive mom didnt care for me. we butted heads all the time. She is really my aunt. i told her i hated her when i was only 10. I needed lots of love and didnt get it. and then they moved near my husband and i and things went haywire for me. i flipped out. i never lived near them and they are retired as my brother says and they have nothing to do. So lets pick on a mentally depressed person. who knows. the hurt she has caused me is nothing short of what i caused her. i was a people pleaser. always wanting to do the right thing and never cause waves. well i am now 39 and have i caused some tidel waves.
My husband says we have done nothing wrong. I belive him. Had more to say then i thought. sorry for that. anyway thats how it went down. I got my Biological parents back and lost my adoptive parents. How wrong is that??
I am sorry to hear they aren't acting like parents at all. It's great news to hear that your biological parents sound supportive.
My mom gave my oldest sister up for adoption. I found out about her about 51/2 years ago. My moms step-mom wouldn't talk to my mom any more because she made contact with my sister. Plus my sisters adoptive mom didn't want her to find my mom so she had to wait til her adoptive mom passed away to find my mom. Her adoptive father was very supportive of finding us.
It was great, I got a sister, a nephew, & 2 nieces.
Your husband is right. It's not your fault or anything you guys have done. Depression is so complex I don't think Dr's even have a grasp on it. I think they can only try the best they can to help control. Not cure it. But the best therepy is a supportive & loving family. I would try to build on the love & support from your husband & biological parents and hopefully your adoptive parents will follow their suit.
What do your adoptive parents say about your realationship with your biological parents?
