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Dear Christine, 

  

I could hear and see your love for your son.  My heart truly goes out to you.  There maybe something there that you have instict about and it may all turn out that your gut feeling about Carla was right.  I could see a little devious side to her.  I would have loved to have a MIL like you.  To me if you want your future wife and mother to get along, they should get along from the beginning.  I've been married to the same man for 30 years and my MIL and I never got along, not because of me, she never had any motherly instict so how could she even begin to have MIL instinct.  I never had a good realationship with my own mother and was really looking forward to having a very close relationship with my MIL and that didn't happen.  My husband doesn't even have a good relationship with him mom, but I never and I say never stopped my husband from having a realationship with his mom.  And now after 30 years and she has gotten a little feeble guess who has been taking care of her on a part time basis,  your right ME.  I do it not because she get the MIL of the year award but because I love my husband so much and I do it for him and for no one else.  I know it makes him happy that I help take care of her.  So when I had my children they got cheated out of both their grandmothers.  I believe that my relationship with my own mother as well as my MIL, made be a better mother, MIL and grandma.  I love my grandchildren very much, like my own kids.  My DIL and I get along well too.  Dr. Phil, said something along the lines, about in the future you're going to have grandchildren,  don't  take it to heart, something tells me Carla is not going to let you get to close, but I can almost bet her mother will be the center of attention at the wedding, in their life and when the grandchildren come along.  Just make sure you remember birthdays, christmas, valentines and other special occasions.  Because when they get older the grandkids will always remember those little things, and that even if Carla give them the gifts if you don't hand them to them yourself.    The reason I make that statement is because my own two kids say they can never ever receiving the gifts that I give my own grandchildren from their grandmas and their right.  They never received anything for any occasion.  I don't even think either grandmas know their birthdays.  Sad huh.  Their 29 and 25 now, but we still talk about stuff like that.  I want them to be good parents and in laws and grandparents.  Step aside Christine and just be your sons mother for now and nothing else.  You can't beg them for a relationship with Carla, but I think Carla needs to earn a relationship with you.  I think everything you do you do for the love of your son, I do too.  I love my son dearly and if things were the way they are with you and Carla, I would step aside for awhile.  I know it would hurt on a daily basis, but you have to be the strong one and wheather out the storm to see what becomes of it.   

Anna-Laura has problems that she is not owning up to.  What kind of mother puts her kids in foster care over the mother-in-law, no one could make a mother put her kids in a foster home under any circimstances.  If that was the case A.L.  would have taken her kids that she claims she loves so much and leave town.  I have been married to the same man for 31 years and his mother has never like me, because she felt I was taking her son away and I new she didn't like me, we had many quarrels, in the beginning of my marriage, she said some pretty bad things to me, but I chose not to associate with her, but I never and I mean never stopped my husband and kids from seeing her or talking to her.  I didn't speak to this woman for over twenty years, but after all she was still my husband mom and my kids grandma.  On all the holidays I was the one that told my husband to call his mom  and on Christmas and her birthday, I was the one that went out and bought her something for him to give to her.  There was a point in my husband's live that he disconnected with his mom, but it was not because I ever told him too, it was his choice.  It is because of me today that he has a relationship with his mom, after all she is getting older and she is still his mom.  Morgans' mom will always be his mom, but will A.L. always be his wife, it doesn't look like it.  She shouldn't  make him make a choice between her and his mom.  She could leave him today, as it seems she has, and be history in his life and where does that leave his relationship with his mom.  I once told my husband don't ever make me chose between you and the kids because you will lose in a heart beat.  My kids will always be my kids, but you may not always be my husband if we divorced down the road, and I will not jeopardize my relationship with my kids for him, even today after 31 years of marriage.  So I as a mother would never and could never keep him from his mom, because after all she will always be his mom and I could die tomorrow or leave him tomorrow and he should feel comfortable enough with his mom to talk to her or turn to her.  And as far as the grandkids are concerned, for a mom like A.L. to keep the kids from their grandma is wrong.  I love my four grandkids so much that I could not imagine my life without them.  Why would A.L. put her kids in foster care, that grandma is not going to do anything to hurt her grandbabies, in all the years that I didn't talk to my mother-in-law, I still let my kids see their grandma, even when she threatened to kill me, I know she only said it out of hatred for me, and would never do anything to hurt her son or grandkids.  A.L. needs to get a grip on live and quit making this issue all about Morgan's mom, there is somthing more that Dr. Phil did not touch on.  And when Dr. Phil was asking them to see help that he would do for them and Morgan's mom said she would do it so that she could see her grandkids, right away A.L. had to interrupt and say, "even if it traumatizes them", how does she know they will be traumatized, sometimes kids will only act one way because they don't want to hurt the parents feelings because of the circumstances that are going on.  But like I said Morgan's mom will always be his mom and A.L. may not always be his wife and he should try to have a relationship with his mom of some sort.  But you can tell on T.V. that Morgan was being controlled by A.L., he thinks he is saving his marriage by defending A.L. and saying whatever she wanted him to say, but I doubt his failing marriage has anything to do with the mother-in-law, there is something else there.  That is so stupid of her to let this woman take so much control over her life.  If i would have let my mother-in-law have control over me after all these years I would probably be in a mental institute.  There is nothing saying that A.L has to have a relationship with her mother-in-law, but don't stop Morgan or the kids from having a relationship with her.  She needs to be the bigger person.  How would she feel if it was the other way, would she cut off all ties with her mom, never.  She would divorce Morgan in a heart beat if he made her make and choice and she shouldn't do it to him.  To you Morgan I say, that your wife is not always going to be your wife and you need to start trying to make amends with your mom soon, it's apparent that A.L. is divorcing you.  She could put up all the front that she wants to on national T.V. by defending you when your mom called you a wus, but that was all show, didn't you see it right in front of your face, well maybe when you see the tape you will she how fake she was.  I think Dr. Phil needs to dig deeper into this matter, and find out more as to why the kids are in a foster home.  That is the stupidest thing to put your kids that you claim you love so much in a foster home, I could only imagine the trauma that they are going through now, because of their mothers action.  And she claims she loves them, if she did, she would not let anything come between her and her kids.  Dr. Phil you have to difinitely do a follow-up on this and get to the real problem here.

Just remember one thing, you will always be his mom and dad, but she may not always be his wife.  Read what I wrote early on.  The quote is THE MOM WILL ALWAYS BE THE MOM BUT WILL THE WIFE ALWAYS BE THE WIFE.  Your son should think really hard about what he's going to lose.  I think the posted time was between 4 p.m. and 4:30 p.m.

I'm not saying that these things did not happen to these girls, but I have traveled numerous times from Las Vegas, NV. and back and have seen, teens and women with hardly anything on fly out of and into Las Vegas, and have not seen them treated any differently.  There have even been Stripperscoming in to work for the weekend or leaving and are barely dressed, and I have never seen an attendant treat them any different.  On the other hand I have seen some barely dressed teens and women, enibriated and making an ass of themselves, and have heard the flight attendants ask them to "please tone it down:, or "clean up their language", or "their are xhildren on this flight".  I've even seen these enibriated girls go as far as trying to get elderly mens attention, and then when they do they would start flashing thier boobs and then laugh and say "don't you wish you can touch these or suck on these", sit with their mini skirts on and have thier legs wide open. I could go on but I will stop with those two incidents.   I've never heard a flight attendant be rude, but who's to say they are not out there.   I'm sure there are plenty, but I have yet to experience it.  But like I said in the beginning I'm not say that these things did not happen to these girls.

 

The best thing the mother could do for Pierre is to quit giving him money.  And Pierre needs to quit asking for money if he doesn't want his mom to control him.  I don't blame the mom one bit.  He and Amanda should have stood on their own two feet, and not taken a dime from the mother.  As long as the son keeps taking money and the son keeps taking money, the mother will continue to try to control.  I would probably feel the same way, but the mother needs to give him a time frame and stick with it and cut him off, financially.  The son needs to quit using his mom,  that is exactly what he is doing, using him mom.  I feel sorry for her, she really loves her son and it pains her to have to see her son fail.  She wants him to be financially successful as she is.  Pierre, grab your balls and grow up and stand on your own and take care of your own.  And, mom,give him a date and cut him off financially.  You can still love him, although once you cut him off, he will probably have nothing to do with you, so make sure you prepare yourself for him not calling you or even seeing you, that is going to be his punishment to you for cutting him off.  Amanda, you took this poor womans money too, you married Pierre thinking he had the money when all along his mother was the one with the mother and had control of the money.  That is why you divorced Pierre not just because of her meddling.  Good luck to all of you.  Mom June 30th, the end of half of year is a good date to give your son a date for cut off.  Pierre, get a full time job or get two jobs.  Dr. Phil, I think you were to hard on the mom, because you feel she is prejudice.  I would have to say that I would feel the same as the mom, if I was supporting all involved.   Again  GOOD LUCK TO ALL.