Messages By: momofbrw

Yes, women should feed their babies without exposure of breast!  

 Personally, I have never seen one that didn’t, however it appears that others have.  

Do some people get offended simply by the act of  breastfeeding?  Are they equally upset with the nursing Mom who does expose her breast and the one who never allows a breast to be exposed?  What are we talking about - sexual hangups or feeding a baby? 

Formula is made by man, formulated in a lab with ingredients made from what was once a plant or food item before it was processed to death in a factory.  Breastmilk was created by the very one who created man/woman. (It was designed to feed little miracles.) 

Those who are simply upset over the thoughts of someone feeding a baby in public are just uncomfortable in their own skin.  Americans and Canadians are so obsessed with commercialized sex that they never stop to consider that there is a reason why women have breasts.  Because men don’t have babies and therefore don’t need lactating breasts.   

Do you people REALLY think they were put there for any other reason?  Then why are you so freaked out over the act of using them as they are intended?  All you folks with breastfeeding phobia  should not travel abroad if you don’t want to see it. Maybe you can pass a law where the cows in our neighborhood should refrain from sex because I don’t enjoy answering a five-year-olds questions about this when he sees it almost daily some months. It makes me much more uncomfortable than seeing a mother feed her baby. 

It's nature people, get a grip. 

I agree, women should not bare nipples or breasts in public but from what I have seen – it’s been a lot more of both on women who are NOT nursing babies. I have never seen a nursing mother expose herself and probably never will. I don't think most of the ones complaining have ever really seen much of a breast if any! 

You said: "The only way for us to be capable of doing that is to educate us about it before we get the chance to make stupid and UNeducated decisions. " And I couldn't agree more - EDUCATE! 

Why does educate have to mean supplying you? If you want to be smart then be smart, plan the event, go to the drugstore and buy them yourself. If you are old enough to buy them without snickering then maybe you are mature enough to handle the emotions that go with.  

Just because you and your friends convince one another that it is GOING to happen - that don't mean that it happens for every single kid your age. Some of your peers are being smarter than you and your friends can ever imagine at this age.  (But you will when you get a little older.) You will soon realize that saying it don't  make it so. 

Amen! 

I think  a kid would have to do a whole lot of pretend practicing to get good enough to not bare her breast. 

Just like a nursing Mom gets plenty of experience and knows how to cover herself well. 

I don't know...I guess I would have to tell my young daughter that until she got real good at it - she would be disallowed to pretend to nurse her baby doll in public.  

Think about it people --- how often have you actually SEEN a boob on a Mom who was feeding in public??? 

It's realy hard to raise kids in this sex obsessed country but PLEASE don't let your girls grow up to think that their breasts are there for the purpose of sex!!! 

We live in the country too and I am the queen of  setting boundries.  The country is actually a little more dangerous for little ones than a subdivision (in my opinion).  My kids won't get a time out for crossing boundries until they are four years old.   As you said, a two year old only knows that to fullfill his curiousity, he must touch, hear, smell, taste, pick-up, drop and drag so boundries are the last thing on his mind.  I have to say that a two year old has no clue when it comes to boundries and any adult who thinks otherwise is just as clueless!  My 16 month old will not be outside without an adult until around 4 and by then, she will fully understand boundries and time-outs. 

I think lifestyle has a little to do with parenting and sometimes we do what we have to do instead of what we think is best.  But even so, people should not be critical of others because they don't know the personal situations.  There are those who simply don't parent and it's sad that they cannot see what it's doing long-term.  It's those who should not be criticized, but instead, someone could help them to see what they're headed for.  What gets to me is that mostly the ones who are so critical don't have children or don't have young children at the time and don't remember what it's like to be a Mom with young children. 

As parents we are all overwhelmed, but some get off their butts and do their jobs, others sit and yell!  That's the difference.  The ones who judge you would be judging you for something else, if not your kids - it's just their nature to talk about other people...it makes them appear a little better a person!!!  Notice I said "appear" to be a better person.  Only in their minds, lol. 

I agree and am living proof of what you say is right.  We have been remodeling our home so our already chaotic lives were upside down for about three weeks.  I found myself giving in and letting things "slide" over and over...just because I was tired.  Now that things are getting back to normal, I am working twice as hard at descipline because my 6 yr old had enjoyed his bad-boy days so much that he continues to try to wear me down and I mean he's trying REAL hard!!!  I just look back and think "wow, I've created a monster in just a few short weeks!" 

We go through this same thing everytime he spends the day or weekend with grandparents.  It's like he's enticing me to find out just where my breaking point is.  He seems to enjoy hearing me say no because he will ask to do things that he knows is not allowed... WHY?  Why does a day with Grandma do this to my kid? 

I agree somewhat but not totally.  If my kid doesn't know someone well then he/she should address the person formally.  But I don't want him or her to address family friends with formality. 

Everything we talk about on this thread goes back to the same answer...some parents are lazy.   

You have to consider that the way to teach a child how to act in a restaurant, airplane, store, church, etc. is to TAKE THEM!  But of course - parent while you're there! 

My kids go to funerals, weddings, wherever we go.  I have taken my child to work with me (quick, mindless task). They know how to act.  I am not saying they are perfectly quite when need be but they do mind because I DO parent. 

Getting pregnant IS a choice MOST of the time.  You are young and ignorant and make the choice at the wrong time maybe, but it's still a choice. 

It is not ignorant of her to clearly see that a lot of people on this board are hoping for a handout, wishing to get rich, praying to find a job where they can make thousands from home, winning the lottery, etc, etc.  People spend their entire lives hoping, wishing, praying for something magical to fix all their problems and they never even realize they're doing it.  There is no need to know the "details" of why they think this way to know they do.

Without a plan, I don't see how anything can work or "happen" the way we "want" it to.

Get a plan and stick to it, if I can, anybody can.  Something many don't consider is once your *plan* has been established, things become easier.  Time passes, your income grows, your mortgage doesn't.  If you PLAN not to have credit card debt in 10years, then in 2 years, you won't have those monthly bills.  It would be at that time that you can reward yourself.   We all think we DESERVE what we all think "God has planned for us".  That is NOT how it works.  God wants YOU to work hard to ATTAIN what you want.

<<<Divorce, death and even pure ignorance can bring us to a place that we would have never have thought possible. >>>  That is all a part of life, expect it, get used to it, plan for it. 

It won't happen over night, don't expect it to be easy.  Don't get into relationships if you think you can get to *know* a person overnight either!  Fix your own problems before co-mingling with another's problems!

Responsibility is such a foreign concept in this country!!!

Call me mean-spirited if you want, but I'll see that as you can't handle the truth.  I am not a regular on this board but what I have read here shows that everytime the truth is spoken, it is met with name calling like "mean-spirited".  Think about it, how can you put it into words otherwise when you are trying to get someone to believe something is hard when they prefer to think it's easy (ie, handouts)?  There are not many *nice* ways to get people thinking. 

I would rather my kids have high self-esteem and KNOW for a fact that his/her clothing is not a reflection of who he or she is.  I would like for my kids to read comments like that and think "oh, she's talking about  people who place value on another human being according to what he or she is wearing".  My kids won't follow the crowd but yet their self-esteem will still be high and they will still be good in sports and other competitions - that's what I want for my kids.