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January 19, 2008, 7:42 pm PST
 Quote From: ialac2 Women need to be more fearful of losing their self-respect and peace of mind than losing a partner who imposes his desire for a threesome or multiple sex partners. When sex is used as a sport it may seem exciting until the reality of sexually transmitted diseases sets in -- chlamydia and cervical cancer (research confirms multiple sex partners are a leading cause of this cancer). My husband threatened to leave if I did not participate and I agreed. I didn't realize the impact it would have on my sense of self worth. I felt sickened and ashamed and while I once loved sex with my husband, I now avoid and hate it. I wish I had told him to leave. I did finally tell him what the experience had done to my self image and the damage to our relationship. I realized too late that he did not love me or he would never have asked me to engage in an activity that violated my mental health and physical well-being. Ladies, don't do it to please your partner. Sorry on the wrong site but not in my books cheating is cheating. BB |
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January 19, 2008, 8:16 pm PST
Quote From: fabulousbeauty My mother, who adopted me at 3 weeks old when she was 60, suffered a heart attack 2 days after she turned 88, but she didn't know that she'd had a heart attack until 2 days later when she was rushed to the hospital early that morning complaining of shortness of breath. So I rushed to the hospital, where we found out she'd had a mild heart attack and that a lot of fluid had rushed into her lungs, which would explain the trouble breathing. So I spent 95% of every waking moment with her at the hospital, til she was moved to a hospice. Now she's back home in a hospital bed, still hooked up to an oxygen tank. I admit, I haven't been the same since she's been in the hospital. I've had to come to grips with my mother's mortality. I now know that she's going to die someday...and it scares me to death. Mom and I are very close, and to see her going through this has made me sick to my stomach at times. I'm very scared to see how I'll be when she does pass on. I'm not ready to let her go yet. Any advice on how to deal with these feelings? Denise Lost my mother very quickly. Dr. told her she had 2 months to live. Asked her what she wante to do and she said she had done it all. She was never really happy, never travelled far, never had true happiness in her life but said she was happy. Weel she has it now. The ultimate happiness . I hope for the ultimate happiness for your mother and her happiness too. Being with the lord is the ultimate happiness being home where we came from. I believe my mother was happy in some aspects but not all. She did what she had to do to make everyone else happy. She died 30 days to the day she was diagnosed. We were lucky she and we did not have to suffer long. She was ready to go. My mom was so close to me and we talked every day. I miss her so much. A major piece is missing from our lives but we remember the good times, the sad times too because that was our life with her. So don't let go. Pray! Talk to her even if you think she's not there - SHE IS! Lintening to every word. She is with you no matter what. In all the ways you don't see or acknowlege righr now you will see someday and realise she was and is with you all the way! I have questioned this many times but then look back and remember all the little things you can't explain then know she was there. The door bell ringing and noone there. The candle that goes out when the wick is still strong and fragerant on I did'nt blow it our. The smell of her in the room. The butterflies that land very close to you. I believe in the everlife. They are so happy, free of pain and so at peace. I wathed my mother die in the hospital and it was the most comforting and hardest thing I ever had to do but she was at pease and had nothing in this cruel world to worry about ever again. So please be at pease with her passing and tell her to go to the light and the freedom from this world. She deserves it. She lead a long life. Knowing life and living it now and hearing how my parents and grandparents lived their lives, the struggle the let downs the triumphs it's her time to shine in heaven. No more suffering just pure bliss. Don't feel guilty about wanting her to go to the heavens.. That is paradise. I look forward to that when my time comes. She will be with you and watch over you no matter what. She is watching over you now as is everyone who loved you who is on the other side waiting for you. They are there as are your angels. I am waiting to see or feel my angels but haven't yet but I know my mother, father and grandmother, grandfather, the man i loved with all of my heart and all of my friend that have passed are there waiting for me to join them when my time is due. So please believe what i say to you because it is from the heart. We are never ready to let go but when you are there and see the peace on their face after they see the light it is the best feeling ever.. To know they saw the light and the peace that comes over them and to feel the spirit has been lifted to heaven! Just where you want them to be and the place you know you will meet again.
Good Luck and I hope this helps you!
God Bless BB |
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