My significant other has been with me for 9 years and has a problem with getting along with people. He gets a job and keeps it for about 3 months. He is a sweet man and makes up tasks that, to him, are a contribution to the relationship. And although it is, such as taking mail to the PO, picking up groceries, taking the car for service, cooking an occasional meal, and listening to my BS, the fact that he does not contribute monetarily is really tiring.
My friends pity me and people who find out that he does not work, immediately go into a lecture about how I have no self esteem and that I deserve better, etc. etc. I do agree with them, but this dependency is so deep, meaning that if my friend does not find another host, he will be homeless, without a car, without money, etc. I feel responsible for letting him get so dependent and am reluctant to cut the cord without some sort of effort to make sure he is OK.
What do you all think
