Messages By: carilou

     I watched todays show!  The 2nd family look like they will make it and will be happy! 

The first family ..has problems.  I'm taking a guess here.. hear me out! 

the husband treated his daughter like a wife for 2years.  there needs to be some space.  I could see this daughter having a sexual relationship with her dad.  I'm not saying anything like that would happen or the dad being a perve but, the daughter and the dad have taken the daughter's role so far that its natural to think about the next step.  I also think that this dad likes  having to women fight over him.  How he sat there and smirked and says I spoil the daughter. i feel as if he doesn't want to change it.  Also, I think its going to be hard to change the daughter.  If the daughter does get less attention with dad ..she might act out 2 try and get that attention back.   

this is a messy problem.  I hope they have an update show on the first couple.   

I was reading through alot of the posts and am floored that this many families have this kind of a problem to this much of an extreme! 

My two daughters are good friends four kids from the same family.  Dad has five kids from the first marriage, four of which live full time with him and his second wife (he's 36, she's 26).  They have one child together.  Fact is, I don't know what their secret is (they should write a book!), but these kids ADORE their stepmom.  All of the kids are well adjusted, happy, respectful, and well behaved.  Stepmom (they don't even consider her to be anything other than their secondary mom, and the kids still see their bio mom all the time) has been in their lives since they were very young.  Both parents are strict but balance that with alot of love and understanding.  I think these people should have been on the show to demonstrate the right way to make this work.   I think partly why this works so well for them is that bio and step moms are friends.  Bio mom has said many times that as far as she's concerned stepmom is mom to them because she does an excellent job.  She says this in front of the kids, showing support for stepmom.   

I think it's great that these people have made this situation work so well.  It's not easy to get along with your ex.  But it's best for the kids when the parents put their differences aside and show a united front in raising the children.  It's a shame that more people aren't able to do this! 

I have from day one tried to get along with her for the sake of the kids....I know we'll never be friends but we should be able to get along for their sake.  She tells me that my job as stepmom is hard and she wouldn't want to be one.  She says she agrees with what hubby has decided to do to discipline the kdis etc and then she does the opposite (who are we to rule what she does?).  She creates problems that don't need to be there at all.  The kids are 13 (boy) and 15 (girl).  She has three other children -- 10 year old boy by second husband who lives with his dad but she never sees him and then she has two boys ages 2 and 4 months old that live with her and her third husband.  We have two other children -- a 4 year old boy and a 2 year old girl (our daughter is three months younger than her son).   Everytime the kids go there for a weekend they come back with major attitude and sharp tongues...but we try and give them a break as we know it isn't easy on them...Her 13 year old son wants to live with her and we did everything we could to help this to happen but the next step was his mom's and she hasn't done anything to help it to happen since September (although she tells him that he could come and live with her...she won't notarize and file papers with the court).  I agree about the classes idea but I know she wouldn't go!