Quote From: kovucat8 I watched part of the Dr. Phil show the other day (wanted to see the whole thing, but the station pre-emptied part of it for the bombing in the middle east), and I must say that I don't like being called a moocher just because I am an adult and living with my parents. As peepinbud said today isn't the same as it was 20, even 10 years ago. I will relate my story. I graduated from highschool in 1997 and went straight to university. Received all A's and graduated with honors in 2001. I then went on to vet school, which I just graduated from this past June. I have absolutely no money (8 years of school with not working can do that to you) so I had to move back into my parent's home (not that I wanted to).
It has been 7 months now and I still haven't found a job (due to being a new grad and having no experience as well as living in a very competitive area). So I am right now 27 years old and having to rely on my parents for everything since I don't even have 10 bucks in my bank account.
If giving the choice right now, I would leave, but I can't until I get a job and start making some money.
And before anybody says just to get any job, it doesn't really work that way. My education makes it impossible for me to get hired anywhere except for what I trained for. Places don't want somebody that will continue to look for work, but rather somebody that will stick around for years.
So before you make judegments on some people, maybe you should look into the circumstances they have in their life. Yes, some people have it easy and find a high paying job right away, but not everyone is that lucky, especially in this day and age, when there are more workers than ever.
How did you get through 8 years of college without working? Even if you had a full ride scholarship because of your academics, what did you do for spending money? My oldest is a senior in college and works 20 hours a week for her spending money, and she's footing the bill (loans and money from her summer job) for the small portion of her tuition that isn't covered by scholarships and gift aid. She's also on the dean's list and does practicum in her field 2 days a week. 8 years of college without working? That's a totally foreign concept at our house. Both my kids have worked since they were 13 or 14.
Are you telling me that you're 26, owner of an advanced degree, being totally supported by your parents, and you're not even working at a convenience store or sacking groceries?? When I got out of law school I couldn't find a job in the field for several months either, so I signed up with a temporary service and did all kinds of office work -- typing, switchboard, whatever paid the rent -- while my JD sat at home gathering dust. That's how I took care of the "not even 10 bucks in my bank account" problem. I then took the first job I was offered in my field, which was part-time and paid only slightly better than unemployment compensation. But it opened doors for me and eventually led to the job I have today and have had for the last 17 years.
If the area you live in is so competitive with respect to finding a job, why not look -- notice I didn't say "move" -- somewhere else? First you go look, then you find a job, THEN you move. That's what I did 32 years ago, and yes, it does still work that way if you really don't want to live with your parents..
If you don't want to be called a moocher, quit whining, go out and get a job of some kind, and support yourself. You're 26 years old, for heaven's sake. How are you going to explain this to your kids (if you ever do move out and move on, that is)??
