Messages By: ihvnoidea

I'm trying to understand what exactly does everyone mean by "addiction" to porn? Does the guy go through the shakes and get delusional when deprived of his fix of porn? Okay - just kidding, I understand there is such a thing as psychological "addiction" (though it's more like an obsession)and it can happen with ANYTHING - not just naughty things like porn. That's a fact - I've known a few "hunting and fishing widows" and their partners are obsessed to the point of pathological selfishness. What I just don't get or understand is why the over-reaction? I don't have any issue with my husband looking at porn, he's had a collection of Playboys ever since I met him, and he's even been known to go to a strip club now and again - with me as company now and again - tho' certainly not more than a couple times a year these days and even back when it was a 4 or 5 times each year, I don't automatically assume that he doesn't find me attractive - I'm just not that self-centered and my self-esteem isn't attached to his behavior. I am an attractive woman (he says I'm a hottie) but I'm no skinny Minnie either, and I definitely don't look much like the images he has shown me but I take it for granted that he's a smart fellow and realizes that the pictures are fantasy and he's very happy that he's married to a real-life hottie like me. 

More than  that I cannot imagine why anyone who has such a strong reaction to their partner looking at porn would even so much as consider marrying someone who does. If I were the man I would be wary of someone so totally opposed to viewing porn who would be willing to marry me anyway.

Certainly there are people who are dangerously obssessed with porn ("addiction" is a term that is WAY over MIS-used when it comes to bad obsessions.)

One more thing: If Dr. Phil thinks that ALL of the women involved in porn are nothing more than victims, he's totally out to lunch and completely disconnected to reality. Big suprise though - that boy is so narrow-minded at times I swear he could see through a key-hole with both eyes at the same time.

I would NEVER NEVER NEVER allow a man who had so little regard for his own kids anywhere NEAR my children. Masturbating in front of the children is sex abuse!

- holy cow! To quote the venerable doctor "WHAT ARE YOU THINKING????"

I don't swim in cash but I'll be more than happy to donate to a "Help Rachel Dump the Loser" fund.  

   

Grrrrr - I hate to see a good woman waste herself on a guy that could sit there and say his wife and son aren't motivation enough to step up and be a man. ON TV.   

   

Lose the loser Rachel - you deserve so much better.  

Seriously. Not nice at all.

My middle son is allergic to tobacco (among other things) and exposure to tobacco was an out and out guarantee of a vicious athsma attack. I cannot begin to describe the kind of hostility our family encountered from people who smoke  when we asked for accomodations from our son. It wasn't every time but it was the majority of the time. The mother in law said the she didn't smoke in front of her kid when they are at her house but does she smoke in the house when they're not there? Does she realize she's basically turned her home into a toxic waste dump if she's been smoking in her house? I applaud Angee for insisting that her children aren't exposed to second hand smoke. They are her kids. She has the right to keep them safe from harm. 

  

I cannot fathom the vicious nature of some of the posts regarding Angee. Meow, what a bunch of cats are  posting on here. Bear in mind, the things that bother you most about other people are probably things you don't like about yourself. 

She deserves so much better. He basically said, on TV, in front of the whole world that his kid and his wife are not enought motivation to step up and be a man...thats WAY cold. Like I said - Rachel deserves better and if Tyler can't put out he needs to be put out.

Bill backed his mother up when she said that she believed Angee was not in it for love but for the security - whoa! Did you see the look on Angee's face when he said that? Even though she's got her part in the mess - a big one - she didn't need to hear that from her husband to be. It would be a huge red flag in my world if my fiance said something like that to  me - let alone in front of the whole nation. I'll bet dollars to donuts that this family comes from a small town. With 3 failed marriages behind her Angee will have a tough row to hoe getting any respect from judgemental people who should spend more time self-evaluating rather than kicking someone when they're already down. I'm glad that Bill and Angee going to get pre-marital counseling, hopefully both of them will be able to be open enough to see what they need to change and have the will to change it.  

  

  

Hello folks, I've been reading the posts about fibromyalgia on here and thought I should share some very important information regarding fibromyalgia and the need to look at Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) as a possible diagnosis as well. EDS a genetic disorder that affects the collagen and thus the joints, bones, skin and other major organs; depending on the type - (there are currently 9 types of EDS that have been identified.)EDS is an inheritable disease, so it's important that folks who've been been diagnosed with FMS to at least look up the symptoms of EDS to make sure they and their children are getting proper care. It's very important to keep in mind that EDS is rare - it only affects around 50,000 Americans but most of these folks have no idea.  

  

Good luck folks! 

It's so nice to read your post and the replies describing the suppport of spouses through grave and chronic illnesses of their wives or husbands. When my husband and I got together I felt healthier than I ever had in my life, I was fit and active and seriously reveled in how good I felt. What I didn't know was that I had a genetic disorder that affects the connective tissue and after a rough pregnancy during which I broke my foot at 8 months and then did the same thing to the other foot when our son was just a few weeks old and then a long period of being obese for the first time in my life my body began to show signs of wear and tear and for the next 10 years or so I experienced an unexplained decline in health. I also was suffering from chronic Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which unfortunately (in my opinion, at least) hastened the decline of my health. Through all of it my husband was there - supportive, loving, forgiving (very important when one has PTSD.) Instead of getting angry when I had a fit of anger myself my sweet, loving, dear man would look me in the eye and say "Honey - is there anything I can do for you? Anything?" Even at my very worst he still saw me with loving eyes and instead of jumping on my bandwagon he saw my pain and responded to that instead. The man humbled me with his patience and kindness  and I mean that in the best way. He works harder than anyone I know - puts in his 8 hours at his job and comes home and cooks, cleans, does the laundry, anything I am unable to do - I've got good days and I've got bad days - I believe you understand...hehe. I have seen the opposite of this situation and I know how fortunate I am to have such a kind human being for my husband. Anyway - just wanted to say how nice it is to see folks describing their wonderful spouses!

Somehow I don't think that Dr. Phil's show is encouraging young men to "dress up as homeless people" and hit the streets begging for change.  I think we can give our young people a bit more credit than that - don't you think?