Messages By: skbruning

"There by the grace of God".....anything can happen to any of us at any time is what I think.  

This is truly a tough one.  

I do not judge you and I usually tend to judge situations right off the bat because all one has to do is hold them up to the light of Scriptures like holding up the old "Dance Cards" to the light to see if the punch outs matched!  Your case has several "qualifiers"!  Your health issues, for one.  I, too, have those to consider, so I understand bigtime.  

Your kids and their ages matter as well.  It is easy to just scream, "Kick all bastards to the curb" but I don't do that.  And neither does Dr. Phil...he usually mentions...."Don't replace YOUR judgment with my judgment."  He just tends to not let someone get all walked on without at least a separation.  Are you SAFE??  How fast can you save for the bloodsucker attorneys?  Can things be worked out FASTER?!  (I was shocked @ how costly divorce was and how COLD attorneys were when I first looked into divorce some years ago.  Being an ex-legal secretary, I did it MYSELF!!!  We had assets, 2 kids and the courts were so stupid, they just rubber-stamped financial figures I had pulled out of you-know-where.  I basically gave that bastard EVERYTHING just to get out alive. My story would stand people's hair on end.  Man, do I know about courts so it gives me great compassion for you and others.  You know what they say................"INVOLVE AN ATTORNEY AND YOUR TROUBLES DOUBLE.")   Stay safe, sweetie and my very best to you and yours.  Pray! 

Just kidding.  (Muslims have up to four wives and I can imagine all the screaming, sadness and mayhem in THEIR homes just for his sexual pleasure and Allah's gain.  Sounds NUTS to me) 

However, you make many valid points. 

It is also one of the reasons I cannot stand Charles and took so much flak from him today with him calling me a "venomous woman"....poor Charles   :O(      always the victim instead of the rotten victimizer he REALLY IS.  Tracy is the one who deserves the credit on this board, not him. 

"Why should it be wrong to have TWO women?"  I'll tell ya why.  

Because the Lord says it is wrong, that's why.  

It is meant to work intimately with one man and one woman.  You act so smug and smart.  Charles should have called you first!  Dr. Phil should let you hold seminars on enlightening America.  It's not like we haven't lost our moral compass enough, let's let folks like you give us the FINAL FLUSH!  

One man and one woman....best thing in the world.  Sweetest, most intimate thing there is.  Throw another human being into the mix and you mess it all up, I don't care what YOU say.    

I said it all day..... 

And what did I get?  Chuckie Doll telling me I was "venomous"....awwww, bummer. 

I clicked the dude.  I refuse to speak to the ....well....refuse.  By his choice, he has reduced himself to human refuse in my book.  You are so right....his behavior is absolutely sociopathic with little to no hope for change and I totally believe PEOPLE CAN AND DO CHANGE.  (Look at St. Paul in the Scriptures....went from killing Christians to being one!)  Time will tell. 

I watched that show with my hands soon over my face with me watching through my fingers.  I started crying and was soon almost sobbing.  I was shocked at Joani's boldness.  That demon almost crawled right out of her onto the screen!  What a grip!!  

THIRTY YEAR ADDICTION?!  Unreal.  And the rest of the program was just as gripping.  "There but for the grace of God go I"....but now I see family members going through this and denial of some other members.  What a wake up call time, even for me.  I call one member "The Puppet Master" because even though there is fresh evidence of use all he has to do is deny it and everyone believes him!  Drug test companies have spent MILLIONS to make sure those test kits are fail-proof, haven't they?  Who am I to believe?? (Not 1 but 2 brand spanking new pieces of evidence of using again.)  

I am going to stand strong and let the words ring in my ears...."If you are an addict, you are also by default also-A LIAR."  

Any thoughts? 

PS....thank you to the facility in Florida!  I thought my heart would pop when news of the "waiving the fees" was announced.  Makes the heart just swell!  Good people out there.  :O)  

I agree.  I know of some of this through first hand knowledge and then plain COMMON SENSE.  If you have a gabillion cases, give or take a few....it is IMPOSSIBLE to do a good job on all the casework. 

Also, I was stunned that Dr. Phil was so seemingly capable of talking out of both sides of his mouth:  "If a child tells me 'Someone touched my peepee', WHAT DO YOU EXPECT ME TO DO?"  (Almost hollering at the person....the man)  THEN.........................he turns around and interrogates the mom like she is just pulling this stuff out of her....ear.  Come on!

I do not think that mom did ONE THING WRONG.  No, I do not think she "feeds the drama, power, emotions of the child" at all.  The kid feels what she feels, says what she thinks, acts like she acts..........Dr. Phil....it is what it IS.

If the guy is snarling at his ex, "KISS MY ASS"....(it dawned on me that he is saying it because HE IS/WAS CLEARED OF ALL WRONG-DOING BY THE POLYGRAPH!).....if he is cleared, he's cleared.  The little girl can also misrepresent "her peepee"....ANYONE CHANGING DIAPERS KNOWS YOU HAVE TO CLEAN ALL OF THAT AREA AND THAT IS WHY I AM AGAINST  M E N  CHANGING LITTLE GIRLS' DIAPERS.  Just on principle.  I don't like it, never have, never will.  (The little girl is saying he touched her peepee and she is telling the TRUTH, because HE TOUCHED HER PEEPEE WHEN HE CHANGED HER DIAPER, forcryinoutloud!  Why didn't Dr. Phil think or consider that THIS might be the case???)

And don't anyone tell me to get my mind out of the gutter because it isn't there.  I just don't think that is proper.  Same DOES NOT GO for a mom changing a baby boy.  Like I said...

I totally disagree.

If he ever changed her diaper (AND HE DID)...in order to be thorough, especially in the case of wet feces or diarrhea, then he would have to clean all areas of her genital area and the little girl is, indeed, telling the truth as she sees it....He "did" touch her peepee but in fact, the context makes him also a truth-teller....there was nothing inappropriate ABOUT IT.  He may have been thinking in that sense and also, he was sOOOO UNDER THE MICROSCOPE, he may have wanted to weigh every word. 

I run my mouth without thinking and don't know of ANYONE who "thinks before they speak."   At least not at the time of speaking.......IOW, they may THINK ABOUT THE ANSWER while daydreaming, thinking, polishing the silver, etc...just I don't know ANYONE who takes alot of time in answering questions, thought bubbles galore, looking up and going "hhmmmm"....we all pretty much just blab.  Don't you?  Do you sit there AND RUMINATE???!

Oh, come on!  NO woman deserves that man.

And no one is more in love with him than HIM.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder, if ya ask me.

....desperate times makes desperate people.  Yes, it is sick.  THEY make the wrong choices, regardless of the times, though.  They would do it ANYWAY.  Haven't you heard people say to criminals...."You could have MADE this money in a legal way and avoided the slammer!"?

They probably put a lot of time and effort into it and even if they had flipped burgers at McD's they would at least be making HONEST MONEY.