Messages By: cijaym

I came in late or dead last in just about everything I did when I was a kid and my mother never once told me I couldn't do something...or even "yeah, you're good but you know you're up against some stiff competition." As a result, I tried just about everything once...failed...sometimes miserably but I either HAD a good time trying or had a crappy time but the thing is...I did it.

Just what it was that Kelly said that was 'disrespectful' that warranted a slap across the face. Exactly how was it that she was talking to her with a tone of voice or attitude and where oh where does Mummy Dearest think she learned how to be disrespectful and rude?  It may be addressed on the message board already, I'm going to go through the responses but I'm just DYING to know. Will I ever? Do tell. 

  

Kelly, you're beautiful. Anyone standing on the outside looking at you can tell you that. When you lose the weight and feel better about yourself, you'll see it to but many of us are seeing it already. 

I was a cute baby but an ugly kid and I'm not an attractive woman...but I am absolutely wealthy with a mother who not only loves me but thinks I'm beautiful. (I'll allow her that 'coz like, she's my mum!) 

  

Not only can I not believe the inexcusable way those mothers were behaving but that they were so oblivious that there was anything wrong about it. I don't believe they went to help themselves, I think they went to show their beautiful selves off on TV. How can such pretty women be so venomous? 

  

I would like to send Victoria my bed, if not the dresser and night table but somehow I don't think that's possible, nor would it be appreciated by her mother and Victoria wouldn't ever see it. Perhaps her mummy dearest will clear out a spot in the corner of the garage to set it up in. I think that darling little girl could be so wanted and loved by so many foster parents.  

While I know that Jay was treated differently by clerks and the concierge et.al., I don't know that buying a girl a drink or even offering to buy the lady chocolate (or whatever that was) would fall into the same category.  Accepting drinks from strangers (even if it's brought by a waiter) is very dangerous. I know, for a fact that I'd be just as refusant to take it if it were sent by someone well dressed and well coiffed. Mostly because I don't date and accepting the drink would be asking for him to come over. The chances of me sitting in a bar on my own are slim to none anyway but there used to be an oldies bar here I'd go to all the time and write letters because I liked the music. Eventually I got to know the other regulars in there and it was more of a social thing but I really did enjoy my time in the bar with my penpals. So for me, don't send me a drink and hope to get to know me. Get to know me THEN buy me a drink. 

  

Just goin' on the record for if the experiment was done in Edmonton (and it'd be really cool to do!), it wouldn't matter WHO the guy was who sent the drink, the answer is still 'no'. 

When I was in 6th grade (1973) we played this game...so for those who ask "what is the world coming to?", it's not a new trend.  

  

Alyssa - of my school mates who went on to do drugs in high school, two died, I see a few others walking around pretty destitute but in a school of 500 kids, most of the people I know came through it. (THIS is not to condone the drugs because those who came through are just plain lucky!) Of my elementary school mates who played this game, I have epilepsy, two are worse off than the biggest acid head from highschool and one died while playing the game.  

  

If your friends still want you to do this...show them this message board and tell them to kiss your butt. 

Consider the hundreds of thousands of people who made the transition from kid to grown up without a phone...isn't the "cure" obvious with the cell phone addiction? We survived, the world was just as dangerous (oh yes it was...not in the news but oh yes it was dangerous) and when someone rings up a $399 bill just talking to his friends, obviously he doesn't need it for emergencies. I don't own a cel phone so I don't know but in all this high tech stuff, is it not possible to restrict a phone from just his number to his mum's and the police or something?  How about taking the phone away for good, not just a few weeks? He's obviously not mature enough to have one. It's not child abuse to deprive them of a cel phone.

First off, I'm childless and don't really HAVE an opinion on breast feeding. Like everything else, if it's done with discretion, I really don't care one way or the other. 

  

I think both of the ladies were incredibly dramatic. One saying "I don't give a rapp what you think you're wrong" and one saying "don't wag those things at me" and "I don't want to watch it across the table and YOU'RE wrong".  

  

I've never been in a restaurant and had a woman stand in front of me breast feeding...which is basically what she'd be having to do in order to affect me at all.  And what's a woman on an 8 hour flight to do? Is she going to have to go to one of those biffys where NOBODY fits and the chemicals are nausea inducing while there's a line up of people pounding on the door because 5 biffys aren't enough? 

  

To me, it's all about discretion. No I don't want to see a bare boob any more than I want to see a butt crack (granted, what I find most offensive is underwear hanging out either the top of pants or bra straps with spaghetti strap or halter tops - everyone has their "ism".) but I've never seen a woman nurse without manners.  

I asked my mum if she had empty nest syndrome when I moved out. It was a bit different because neither my brother nor I went to college (real life took presidence) but we moved out fairly early at the invitation of my father to go. Anyway, I asked her if she felt it when I moved out and she said "well, it was tough because the day you moved out was the same day your brother got married so there were all these changes and 'next chapter' markers so I was a bit weepy...but I was okay the next day." NEXT DAY?? I thought it'd be at least a week! 

  

  

But...did I see The McGraws playing the marshmallow stuffin' game? Didn't Dr. Phil do a show on that a few years back about a girl who suffocated? You don't have to be a child to suffocate playing the marshmallow game. 

  

Also...what's this "I didn't have to get home and cook his dinner" stuff? Do kids not cook for themselves 'til they go to college? Sorry, like I said, the college life got by me but I'm always surprised to hear about adult kids bringing laundry home and living on baloney sandwiches and Kool-Aid while they're at college.  

  

But y'know what would be a good show? To get the mums who can't let their kids go on the same show as the mums with deadbeat kids. They'd be the envy of each other LOL 

  

Anyway - I hope all the college "kids" and students this year have a good, safe year.  

I'm glad there were enough replies to this to show the irrelavence between homosexuality and paedophilia and the antiquated idea that the two are connected. (Wake up and smell the century, folks! We don't burn witches or lobotomise epileptics either.) 

  

I would like to know why so many PEOPLE go ANYWHERE to have sex with ANYONE underage. (It's not just men, it's not just married men) but then on second thought, maybe I don't want to know. If I asked, they'd have to tell me and to be truthful, I would probably get sick. 

  

I DO agree with "I don't care what your orientation is, I just don't want to hear about it and that goes for heterosexuals. So many straights say "I don't care if you're gay but I don't want to hear about it." I don't want to hear about anyone's, straight, gay or otherwise. I'm of the mind that sex is a private thing, in spite of it being everywhere.  

Perhaps your sister  isn't sinning at all. Is it a sin to live with another  woman? Or is it only a sin to have sex with her? Does she tell you they're sexually active? Or is the woman her partner and companion in life but no sex?  I don't know what's a sin, because I know I'm the way God made me, He doesn't screw up. He gave me the best mother, the best brother, He has given me so many gifts, my orientation isn't a 'choice' but my lifestyle is. (I could have faked the white picket fence dream and be a grandmother now but I tell ya'...it wouldn't be really who I am and...it doesn't look like a good time) but it wouldn't change the way I'm wired. It'd be just...living a lie. 

  

There are a lot of couples (m/m, f/f, m/f) who are in asexual relationships. There's only one way to tell, that'd be to peek into their bedrooms and that's really rude. Unlike celibacy, these people are not sexually attracted to each other but romantically and emotionally they are two peas in a pod. They don't have to "ward off sexual thoughts" of eachother because the sexual attraction isn't there. Is it a sin to want to be with your best friend forever. Isn't it a shame to not be allowed to live a full, loving life with them just because of their plumbing? Think of all of the people who can't marry his/her best friend, or second or third best...had to settle for 4th best just because the 4th was the one with opposite plumbing.