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November 6, 2006, 3:48 pm PST

I hate to see Dr.Phil being wrong
 
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November 6, 2006, 3:52 pm PST

I hate to see Dr.Phil being wrong

This Twice now I've seen Dr.Phil Accuse a mother about lying what children services did not do. But for once he is WRONG!!!I have worked with children services and have seen them over and over again not investigate or let cases go that the child needed help.  Dr.Phil Maybe you should do a show on children services and see this is one place that you are wrong! I have all your books and have never missed one of your shows but this is one thing I think you need to research and the learn the truth about before youy accuse mothers of not being truthful.  I have witnessed it time and time again.....
 
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January 12, 2007, 4:22 pm PST

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Erica-my mother was killed when I was 4 years old.  Though my dad did not pull the trigger  he did kill her.  He found her young and with no self esteem and turned her out. and into the gangs.   He led her to her death.He was already in prison for murder by the time my mother was killed. I grew up not remembering much of my mother just little flashes here and there. In my house(my mothers sister) You never talked of my mother it was not aloud. I grew up  hearing how horrible my father was.  When I turned 18 I went in search of him and found him thinking that confronting him would make all the pain go away.  I wish I could tell you that it changed every but at 33 years old the pain still haunts me when I allow it.  I met a man who didn't know the truth if it smacked him in the face.  He still continues to lie and has yet to give me the answers I so desperatley need.  I guess I keep writting with him hoping this time he is going to say what I need to hear to let my mother rest in peace, but with each letter my heart just breaks all over again.  I have three beautiful children of my own now and try not to let the memories the thoughts consume me but there are some days you can't just let it go.  I have foriven my father but not for not what he did but for not being what i hoped he'd be.   I forgave him as dr. phil told you for myself not for him and the hardest thing was forgiving my mother for allowing such a man to control her life. One thing I have learned through it all though is that everything happens for a reason .  I would not be able to be the person I am today raising three kids with disabilites and being there for children without parents if I hadn't gone through what I did.  I try to look at the postive side and not dwell on the bad.  if you ever need someone to talk to email me anytime. I can share more with you about what it felt like and does when confronting your father.  I will pray for you a nd hope you find better answers than I have.

 
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September 5, 2007, 11:31 am PDT

thank you

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As much as I really wanted to watch this entire episode....I couldn't...I LIVE IT EVERYDAY....my 12 yr old has been this way since he was 6....and yes I have done doctors...meds...temp. psy lock up for stabilazation....you name it..I have done it....

 

yea I have heard for years...all he needs is his a** tore up and he will behave...

 

And have heard that its all "my fault" even though I have 2 other children who don't have these problems and are usually very well behaved.

 

YOU HAVE NO CLUE!!!!!!!...sorry....but you don't...and I don't mean to offend...any kind of corporal punishment usually results in MUCH WORSE violent behavior.   My son was just turned down to attend the OUTDOOR THERAPUTIC PROGRAM and honestly at this point I don't know what I am going to do.....his therapist has pretty much given up and his psy doctor doesn't know what else to do since he will not swallow his meds and if he does he can hold them in his throat and throw them up......so you know what choices I am getting now from the so called 'PROFESSIONALS'....well you need to sue the state of GA for not pressing charges against you for all the "domestic violence" he commits.....and you need to press them to lock him up...or you just need to go to DFACS and turn him over to the state....

 

I am scared my son will get their attention for sure one day when he kills me one night or walks into a school one day and kills a lot of people....

 

SPANKING DOES NOT FIX THIS!!! AND IT DOESN'T CHANGE IT

thank you for stepping up and saying something. for all you clueless people out there.  I too live this on a daily basis.  You are right they have NO CLUE!!!!!!!! my son is eight and we have been seeking help since he was 4 yrs old.  I am amazed after watching that story the only thing some people caught was the abuse on the animals.Then the others who blame the parents that they don't disapline enough.. I would like to see them live my life for one day or better  yet my sons. He suffers as much as we do.. .
 
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September 5, 2007, 11:43 am PDT

God Bless You!

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I am Cole's mom. I have read the messages posted and wanted to thank you for all your helpful comments, ideas, and suggestions. Since the show things with Cole and the family have gotten better now that we have more of an understanding. I wanted to answer some of the questions in the message boards. 1. We have sought help for Cole, he has seen many professionals from the time he was three and not one of them did the tests that were facilitated by Dr. Phil. We now have more answers and a direction. 2. The reason the animals were not addressed on the show was because those incidents with animals happened when our son was 4 years old and we did remove those animals to good homes. We have just in the last year brought the pug into our family (Cole is now 11 years old).  The incident with the pug cowering...she is not cowering from Cole, in fact she adores Cole, she is cowering from the camera that was being put up close to her to film her. Please let me assure you all that the Pug nor the cat are being harmed, in fact they are very well loved parts of our family. Once again thank you for your kind words, especially from those that are going through the same things in your own lives. Our hearts and prayers go out to you.
 I saw so much of my son in Cole today.  Ignore what uneducated people have to say.  I know how hard your life is.  We have been seeking help for my son since he was 4yrs old he is now eight.  His medication he is on at this time is helping.  He saw your show yesterday and when Dr. Lawless came on he looked at me and said I'd like to meet him maybe he could help me , don't you think mom. What do you say to that. So as angry as they are they don't like their own behavior any more than we do. I'll keep you in my prayers...
 
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September 6, 2007, 11:10 am PDT

ignorance is bliss

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I do feel for anyone who has a child like this, but yes, many of us watching would naturally zone in on the abuse of the animals because it it obvious to a civilized person that you don't let your child harm defenseless animals-- no matter WHAT their psychological problems are. If parents know that their child has exhibited physically abusive tendencies toward animals, then why would they continue to have animals in the home????? THAT is clueless.  To subject the animals to constant abuse and cruelty is reprehensible on the part of the parents. Dr. Phil said that most of these children do not have a sense of empathy, but the parents DO- they should not have pets- it is that simple. Quit whining and playing the victim, and if you have not gotten a satisfactory diagnosis, then keep pushing, see other doctors, until you do.

Do you know what I would give to get a satisfactory diagnosis?  I have been trying for many years.  When You have to get up in the middle of the night to hold your child who is screaming, kicking, fighting, and still asleep during it all or when you have to watch your child tell you how your going to die or cries to you that he wants to die. Then you can have a real conversation with me.
 
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December 1, 2007, 6:49 pm PST

I don't even know how to title this one

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"Anxiety Disorder" is only the manifestation of the root problem that the medical industry has made up a name for.

 

Give your life over to Jesus Christ and he will heal you from all of the fears! Pray to God tonight and He'll set you free!!!!!!!!!!!

If the were only true. I have given my life to God and me and my three sons live every day with aniexty and depression. I've been praying to God since I was five years old and guess what I still with anxiety and depression every day. It people with those judgements that hold back people with these disorders from seeking the proper help and learning it's okay to have and illness and still function in the world. My mother chose to ignore my problems and continued to pray to God instead of getting me the proper treatment and now my anxiety has made my OCD worse if my mother and used the doctors God had given her to help me I may have an easier time in life and not have had to go through all the suffering that I did.
 
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January 17, 2008, 7:28 am PST

Fears, Phobias and Anxiety Disorders

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Hi everyone! I'm new here and I have anxiety, OCD and a germ phobia that I just started working on. My doctor put me on Celexa. Anyway, I was thinking a little about my germ phobia and the weird thing is........I don't act the same around animals as I do people. Like, I don't want to kiss or even shake hands with a human but I kiss and hug my parrot all the time! I also feel fine around other animals too...not just my own. Of course, I wash my hands after but thats normal for me. Anyone else feel the same way?
kind of.  I have ocd, aniexty, add.  depression..  I can't stand for dust or the thought of raw meat, eggs.  makes me a clean freak , but I can go pet the dog and make a sandwich after words with no problem. human contact doesn't bother me. I could  share a carrot with my guiene pig, but fork that was around raw meat has to be washed and my hands right away. i can't sit in my living room watching tv and see dust on the shelf and enjoy the show without getting up and fixing it. or not having things balanced out on a shelf. I also have a hard time with things not having there proper place. It is funny how one thing that should repulse us doesn't and things that are so little do...
 
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January 17, 2008, 7:30 am PST

Fears, Phobias and Anxiety Disorders

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Dear Ivy27

Thanks for the suggestion I will look into it.I just hope my doctor will listen.Around here all they seem to care about is listening for five minutes and sending you on your way.Wish me luck!

I take effexor xr so do my two sons and it helps with my aniety and there's big time..
 
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January 17, 2008, 7:35 am PST

Fears, Phobias and Anxiety Disorders

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I take effexor xr so do my two sons and it helps with my aniety and there's big time..
i use to get panic attacks every time i had to drive some were I had never been.  Now I can do it with much more ease. My son use to not be willing to try anything new in fear of not doing it perfect, now he ries new things alot more and has fun doing it..My other son it totally helps for his depression.  I have found it also helps with my add. I 'm not sure if I'm more focused because the anxiety is not so bad or if it works on my concentration also, just some more food for thought...
 
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