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My beautiful 21 year old daughter seems to be addicted to tatoos too.  I do not like them but I really do love her........both facts she knows very well.  The first of her tatoos was gotten after turning 18 (she knew I would not sign permission before that) and that one is in Han gul (Korean writing) and she thought was her name in Korean........however there was a slight mistake and the translation means "MUD".  She did not find this as humorous as I did!  Her whole back is now covered with writing (all in Han gul) and  is a combination of her name, her birth parents names and our names.  One of her friends told me that she thought our daughter had really come to peace about her whole heritage.  I still do not like the permanancy of tatoos and I do think that it was a mistake and that there will be regret, but I do realize that this in not my issue but hers and I also figure that someone is soon going to become quite wealthy with a tatoo removal system!  

There are many many things that would be much more life changing for a 21 year old than tatoos and I am thankful that those are not issues, but I still don't like It.  

I have to agree with all who said that Jay's approaching people and asking for a minute of their time was not a fair test.  If someone (anyone) approached me in a mall that way I would walk quickly the other way!  If you ever do this kind of experiment again I would also suggest that you ask for directions to a store or area.  Even if he looked like he did I would make an effort to answer his question.  However I do feel it isn't fair to send Jay out as himself because he is too recognizable, maybe this should be repeated with an unknown "nice looking" person who then dresses up as a "not so nice looking person".     

So let me know when you are coming to Denver and I will avoid all shopping malls!   

AMEN!    I am afraid many couples focus so much on the wedding that they forget that the marriage will be the important part, with hard work, fights, wonderful times all wrapped up together!

We've been married 30 years!  and have signed on for an additional 30!

The "REAL" Dad in any child's life is the man who is raising him/her!  Give it a rest, this man seems to be the onne responsible for his child and not matter the results of DNA testing is the "REAL" Dad.

Those of us with adopted children, step children, extended families of what ever type no who are the "REAL" people in a child's life...........and I for one really get upset about the "REAL" title being thrown about. I am my daughter's Mom even tho she does not look like me, my husband is her Dad even tho there is no family resemblance.  Please, people, watch your phrasing!