Messages By: moonroper

I sure hope a lot went on after the show with the trio of ex wife, exhusband/new husband, and new wife.  What a trio.  Regardless of how is right and who is wrong.. or more right and more wrong, two things screamed out in my opinion.  First, the children.  They are truly getting the short end of the stick.  Second, the ex-wife didn't "get it" before, didn't "get it" during and doubtfully "gets it" now.  Not once did she seem to realize she was being called on for her actions.  Her looks were strong signals of no ownership in the situation.  And who moved 2000 miles away?  Sounds fairly controlling to me.  Do I think the ex-husband/new husband is innocent in all this?  Nope.  Not at all.  He was told, and I don't think "heard" the message... step up to the plate.  I do disagree about doing whatever necessary (financially in particular) for the dad to make the moves toward the children.  I'm thinking there's a tad more going on here than we were led to believe.

 

Bottom line, all three need to grow up.  And sorry ex-wife... especially you.  Knock off the childish phone calls, antics and watch the last 2 minutes of your on air time.  It speaks volumes about your attitude.

 

New wife - I think your concerns she wants him back are missing the mark.  What I think is she doesnt' want you or any one else to have him.  Because she's angry (as she admitted) and does not want him to have any sort of happiness.  Unless and until she resolves her own issues, this will be the course.

 

My advice:  ex-wife - get a grip, make the kids available, move on with your on life.  Help him be an involved dad.

 

Ex-husband/new husband - make the effort.  Stop playing the victim.  Shore up your relationship with new wife if that's what needs to be done for both of you.  Make peace with ex-wife.

 

New wife:  Stay out of it.  Support him, encourage him to be calm, civil and involved.  Refuse to interact with ex-wife unless both of you can agree on ground rules. 

 

Best of luck to all, especially the kids.  Everyone needs it.

Dr. Phil got one thing absolutely right.  Carlena - you're a thief.  Plain and simple.  Being $38,000 in credit card debt seems to be of no concern to you.  Sadly, it didn't look anything got through to you.  I suspect your mom paid for her "stunt" when you got home.  How long did it take for you to go out and start replacing everything?  With money you don't have.  Wouldn't it be wonderful if all we had to do was reach in our pocket and be able to pay for whatever we wanted whenever we wanted it.  And how shallow ~holding up a mirror in front of Carlena~ we'd all be.  Treat yourself infrequently if you can afford it.  Pay as you go.  Have pride in yourself and your actions. 

 

I don't know what has broken inside you that has you thinking the world really does revolve around you.  Whatever it is I hope you find a way to fix it.  Until you do, you'll wear yourself out running from the problem.

 

As a person involved with animal rescue I was very interested to see this show.  Working closely with cat foster parents I know that once more than 10 in a house are in place it's time to really push the adoptions!  200 for one person - however well intentioned it's just not possible to give quality attention to that many animals. 

 

Fortunately she is getting them spayed or neutered - a very critical step in reducing the population.  Plus their medical needs seem to be a priority for her as well.  My real question is - if she has 10 acres and if, as she claimed, she's zoned for a sanctuary (that wasn't the term she used, I don't recall the exact zoning at the moment) then why was she turned down? 

 

I know how very difficult it can be for an animal lover to turn their back on one in need.  Yet at some point the realization must sink in that enough is enough. 

 

My bet is this will be one very difficult situation to resolve.  Kristy did not seem very interested in changing anything.  Hopefully it won't take the county coming to the property with 196 kennels to haul away the animals before she avails herself of the help Dr. Phil offered and find a solution. 

 

And again, I would be very interested to know why her application with the county was denied. 

 

Best of luck to Kristy and bless her heart for her efforts to save the animals.

All during this show I kept saying to myself, "You are the person you have been raised to be".  Knowing who your biological mother or father are doesn't define who you are.  Frankly, if someone was abandoned at a few days, weeks, months or even a few years old that person gives up the privilege to be called "mom" or "dad".  In the case of the "biological father", if he isn't around he literally becomes a sperm donor.  If you are fortunate enough to have a loving, caring step-father in your life to raise and nuture you could your blessings.  The sperm donor does not define who you are.  Yes, there may be some biological bits or pieces  from him, but the core of who you have become is a result of nuturing and the choices you make. 

 

I think Peggy summed it up beautifully when she said her daughter was a terrific person and the dad had done a wonderful job in raising her.  She conceded that had she stayed in the picture she didn't think the end result would have been as great as it seems to be. 

 

Far too much time is spent on the past.  "If only my mom had hugged me" "If only my dad had spent time with me" and on it goes.  If you had less than a perfect childhood look at it as an opportunity to learn from mistakes and not take that same path when you have your own family.

 

In a perfect world everyone would be born to two loving parents, live in a nice neighborhood, want for nothing, go to good schools, never be afraid, and grow up to make a difference in the world.  The world is not perfect.  It never will be.  So it's up to each of us to make a decision - do I want to stay stuck in the past, something I can't change, or do I want to look forward to whatever I can be?

I've seen another show on the con man Fred Brito so was not surprised at many of the things brought up in the show today.  It was quite interesting to watch him weave his slick meaningless words in an effort to avoid answering questions directly.  Hard to tell if he truly believes some of what he's saying or not.  What I DO think was very clear - he has not changed his ways at all.  With any luck things will once again catch up and he'll land back in prison where he belongs (and probably run his scams there as well!)