Sorry, I didn't realize it wouldn't all read. My son is going to commit suicide and we don't know how to stop him. We can't call the authorities because he will kill himself immediately if he sees cops coming near him. (He carries a knife with him so he can do it) He has tried to commit suicide once before, and it landed him in jail, then the hospital and court. That brought 6 months of screwing around and losing a potentially lucrative job that had written letters of support to the judge (they refused jail diversion for his mental illness). He ended up in financial ruin, can't find a job due to his record now and sees no hope for the future. We are, in a nutshell trying to keep him alive on a day to day and sometimes hour to hour basis. He is totally sure of his decision, and even asked us to be there when he takes the poison he has chosen to ingest. He has researched to most painless an quickest way to kill himself, and is now working on his funeral plans and 'getting his affairs in order'. Please don't mistake his telling us this for a 'cry for help', as he is very sure of what he is doing and will certainly go through with the suicide if we call for police assistance. And he will not go voluntarilly. My husband and I discussed drugging him and duct taping him to get him to the hospital, but my husband thinks we might be charged with kidnapping if we do that and we have other children to take care of too. (This son lives in his own home)
Can anyone help us?? Has anyone been through this???? Going through the "system" doesn't work. What can we do?? And if he gets to the hospital he is so damned good at making them think he is okay, they release him before he should be out....and then he will finish the job and laugh at all of us anyway! How can we save his life and teach him to survive it????
Since I am new to the site I'm not sure what you've been through, tried, etc. I was married to a fellow age 27 that threatened suicide if I left him for over three years. It has to be much worse being your child. Is he on any kind of antidepressant? Is there a diaganosis? How long has he been in this state? Have you been treated for depression? WOW. I so much feel for you. The pressure on you must be trumendous. Feeling responsible for someone else's life is HUGE!
I am somewhat reluctant to tell you what I finally did with the advice of his therapist. I told him to go ahead. Once I stopped letting this control me, his treats became less frequent and he never went through with it, even through our divorce.
More recently I went through my own bout of feeling suicidal, it's is the worst emotion I ever experienced. It is a dark, dark place. My greatest deterent was how it would have efected my only child.
I so much wish I knew more about your situation.
I have seen what suicide can do to families. Unfortunately it is so devastating and the guilt is so hard to overcome... I hope you son does not follow through.
