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August 31, 2005, 12:32 am PDT
Hi Debbie
Hi Debbie, welcome to the group here! I am Loretta, I am 54 and also married to a great guy named Jim! I, too, have a lot to lose, and I don't have "will power" and "self-discipline" either! See? You have come to the right place. :-) ****************You said you have read Dr Phil's books. Including the Ultimate Weight Solution? Great, then we can be encouraged by the fact that he says to succeed at his program, doing it HIS way--not our own way that didn't work for us in the past--we DON'T NEED WILLPOWER. Isn't that great news?!
************Remember on page 115, is says "...Programming your environment in this way will produce near-automatic changes in your behavior, making it totally unnecessary to rely on willpower."
************He talks in other places about how the Keys will be our support system, so we don't have to depend on "self-discipline" in those times we are vulnerable and feeling weak, after the first flush of excitement fades, and we feel "tired" of trying.
**************I don't have all this down either, so why not let's read together?? Would you like to read up through Key 1, and talk with us here about it?? Every time I read there, I get inspired.
************Pg 71, "Don't let your negative internal dialogue speak to you unchallenged!"
************Pg 65, "Bottomline, your thoughts powerfully program you".
************Pg 49, "Get rid of self-defeating thought patterns, believe that you will succeed, and you will have mastered the first key necessary to overcome your struggles with your weight."
***********Pg 51, "You mustn't be duped by your own self-talk, any more than if someone else told you that you can't lose weight or get your life under control."
*************Pg 53, "Once you take control of your internal activity, you're going to be amazed at the power you have to get your weight under control."
****************Hey Debbie, we would love to chat with you about all this! Don't feel discouraged or overwhelmed. Just start at the beginning, and take it one step at a time. Be kind to yourself, yet require more of yourself. Be patient with yourself, yet identify and eliminate any excuses you might
have hanging around.....
******************I know being on a tight income can be a challenge. I am on disability, and my hubby is a cook. My sister struggles with making it on food stamps. But hard or not, IT IS DOABLE. You will be encouraged when you hear Jan's story. She struggles financially, but has lost.....LOST 200 pounds already, and is still chugging away towards her goal.
**************You said you were tired of trying to lose weight, and didn't think you had the ambition to do it......hmmmmmm....then why are you here??? I think you DO want to, and there is still that little spark of hope inside you, reaching out it's hand....well, we are here to take your hand, and encourage you to DO THIS! We won't do it for you; we couldn't if we wanted to....But we will offer our support, our encouragement, a shoulder to cry on, and an understanding heart. Ready for the journey of your life????
*************Debbie, you can do this. You don't have to have all the answers now, you don't have to know why, or "blame" anyone......just DO the actions in the book. Start with Key 1, and DO whatever it says. Ya don't have to do it perfect, just the best you honestly can. Then push on to Key 2, and DO the exercises in there....and so on throughout the book. We will chat with you all the way! Whenever you want or need to, whatever you are comfortable sharing.
**************** Now see what ya did? I wrote a book! LOL!
**************Welcome hugs to Debbie!
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