Messages By: renagade

And I shall Respect your wishes. 

It was two years ago when my ex saw this Bob Kiyosaki on Oprahs show, and told me about his book.  I didn't get it for a couple of reasons.  Then about two months later I happened to be in the bookstore and saw it.  I started thumbing thru the pages and said Hmmmmm - bought it and started reading it immediately.  I was transfixed.  When I told her about some of the things Bob mentioned she was upset, basically because the author agreed with my point of view on some items.  24 to 36 hours after I finished reading - I decided to give myself 2 years to quit being a 'slave to a paycheck' and semi-retire.  I also decided to quit worring about my bills and instead to look for ways as Bob said to create wealth - It seemed that Bob was saying 'bills do not create wealth, but wealth takes care of bills.'   

I have created a website that has only got one more thing to do - I have everything in place for when it's finished.  There is another item that is in the works, but more about that later. 

As for Suze Orman - I've watched her show about 12 to 15 times and she doesn't seem to be as strong on people creating wealth in a short period of time - Am I wrong or right on this? 

Rigt now I am preparing to begin a work project that will see me working 12 hours a day 7 days a week for 3 to 6 weeks. 

Let me know how your doing - keep doing great because I know that your on the right track. 

                                                            Rog 

I can hear you growing by Leaps and Bounds!!! 

As far as a good sense for money - I was never afraid of it - when I was little the prevailing wisdom was don't discuss money matter with your children - so any time I walked into a room where they were discussing money - they ushered me out - which just wanted me to know what they were talking about all the more!!! 

My ex and I have almost totally opposite view on money and how to acquire it.  I didn't get a really good sense for money till I starting listening to people who had it - even the wildcatters, renagades, and 'regular' people.  Once I realized what they were saying - I almost totally lost my fears - just wanted to know more - then after reading Rich Dad - I totally lost any fears remaining I had - then it became 'full speed ahead'!  I know your going to get there. 

Marcia - you are sooo right - work out who you are - not what your told.  You are right it has to be fun - there was a show about 4 years ago on those that had made it - and the one indegrinate was that they had fun doing what they did and making money at the same time - they didn't consider it work. 

                                                        Rog  

How do some people make you doubt yourself - easy - because they don't like themselves and they have to put others down. 

I was like that in hight school too - till I found out that part of this problem was the fault of the teachers.  Going into my senior year and after talking to my Uncle I became Me and let the chips fall where theymay. 

If you don't step out of your confort zone - not only do you loose - but your family suffers. 

The reason the police option is not scary is that you have nonething to loose - except your life in the line of duty.  The police dept will provide everything - however you may too a large extent loose yourself. 

The cafe is the scariest because You will have to provide everything and everything falls on your shoulders.  However if you succeed walaa!!!  If the cafe fails, your family will not loose they will still have you and I'll bet they will be supportive, and you will still have yourself. 

On the one hand Nat - you and only you can make this decision - on the other let me know the pros and cons of each and I'll give you my opinion. 

                                                    Rog 

You are right, God will give you what you need when you need it - trust me - He has done that for me sooo many times, and no it isn't funny - it's Gods Plan.  God has given me wisdom when I needed it and will do the same for you, and you are doing the right thing by keeping yourself Open to His Voice - Just keep doing this and you'll never be wrong. 

What happened to your family - can and did leave a very lasting fear on you - very declarative - but with the help of God, you will overcome. 

                                                               Rog 

Let me be very straight forward - your first major mistake was waiting till she was 18 before you tried to put a stop to her behavior.  Remember what Jay has said on his dads show - kids don't want to loose - believe it or not she is listening to you, but she doesn't want to loose.   

As for hard headed - I am a left hander - so we think differently - if she is left handed - this is one of the reasons and also her personality comes into play.  If she is as smart as you say she is - the other problem could be that she is not being challenged enough.   

I don't know how close she is to her 21st birthday, but if it's close she could be counting the days, just like I did.  Do you let her go - good question - she is either crying out for help - or shes counting the days.  I don't know what the law says in your state about age, but I do know that at 21 thats it.  No matter what - just don't you and your husband give up. 

Keep me posted.                                       Rog 

I just read what queentween wrote to you about going into business - this is a perfect example of people that should never go into business.  I responded and I don't think they are going to like it. 

Anywho.  I was going to wait for a responce from you, but decided to do this. 

If you choose the police - you will have everything provided for you.  It will be dangerous, basic training will be hard and gruelling, and you will probabley be trained to loose your idenity.  You will be admired by some, and reviled by others.  Your family life may suffer, may not - depending on type of cases that happen.  You will put your life on the line daily.   

If you choose the Cafe.  Yes it will be hard work in the beginning, but if you know who you are, have  

confidence in yourself, do all your homework, do not think you know everything, allow other to help you run your business (and by this - in Lee Iacoccas book - he was the president of Ford - he said the job of a ceo is to hire people who can stand on their own feet, who know their area well and you allow them - not tell them - but allow them to do their job) you will have a successful busniness. 

                                                                Rog 

I have never heard such a negative responce from a business owner ever.  A business never has to be operated 24/7 unless the owner/management do not know what they are doing.  I have been to many restrauants and things followed smoothly. 

Yes when you have a business it does take a lot to get it going - but after the rough spots have been ironed out - owners/management should be able to keep the pace going with relative ease. 

When you hire people - you should be able to choose those that know what their doing from those that don't.  The only area I agree with you is family - they should never be a part of it unless they want to be. 

As far as the licensing to taxes to to to - if you hired people to do that then why are you complaining - or did you do that yourself - bad mistake. 

                                                              Rog 

Be very careful.  He may be doing some other job to bring in money.  Switching meds could have done it also.  It seems that anything can set him off.  Take care of yourself.  Keep this site posted and have phone #'s ready in case.  

                                                          Rog 

From what I understand about bi-polar - your mood swings, and then there's anger.  Why your husband quit his job only he knows - and he might not really know.  First of all sit down and think.  Did you call your husbands company and find out what happened - if not do it.  Analyze your situation.   

Is he going to come out of it and get his job back, can he, or is that it.  You might have to be carrying the load for awhile.  Is the car in both your names or only his?  What about the house?  You said he has a car pymt, if you have your car and he has this for himself in only his name - my advice is to not pay it.  Get the phone #'s for food stamps/aid ready just in case - And contact all of the people/companies that the two of you owe - contact elec, phone, water, heat, etc. immediately. 

                                                            Rog 

And what pray tell did you dicide????? 

If it's the police dept - Be careful, be safe, learn how to defend yourself, tell your family you love them every single day, and Gods Speed. 

If it's the cafe - I will be here to lend my business knowledge if you need it. 

                                                            Take Care - Roger