Messages By: mchoffman

Quote From: vixiex

Fathers are more than a checkbook.  I don't think he should have to pay if he isn't the biological father - especially since he's been lied to this whole time.  HOWEVER, if he's raised this child and is the Dad that the child knows - I would assume there is love between the two of them.  That relationship should continue. 

 

Biology has less to do with parenthood than love, trust, teaching and caring that comes from that relationship.  "Anyone can be a father - but it takes someone special to be a Dad"

 

Just my 2 cents.

Quote From: mxxy28

I think the father was wrong because he shouldn't have told the daughter what was going on in that way because he's the only faher she has known since birth and they have a bond that's stronger than any paternity test! Speaking as a mother, her mother should feel like the lying, cheating, immoral woman she is. I have no doubt she knew her husband wasn't that childs father and now that her lies have come to light, she wants to play victim, well lady if your wondering how this happened to your family why your daughter now feels unworthy and unloved, and when she becomes sexualy active because she's looking for a man to fill her fathers place, just LOOK IN THE MIRROR!!!!!

Quote From: suzanne1555

"Cathybritt" summarized how I feel exactly.   Thank you for your post.

 

This show was very distressing "on many levels" as Dr. Phil kept saying....however, since it seemed to focus on the money aspect, how come not one person, from Dr. Phil to that totally annoying, and big-mouth Gloria Allred (who also never listens to anyone else talk) suggested that maybe a solution to the "child support" issue is that Enrique might want to start a trust fund for Selina which money-grubbing Maria can't get her paws on.  Therefore he is acknowledging a connection to Selina, but on  his own terms.   Also, the husband Chris sat there the whole time - what, does he not have a job?  Do the 2 of them need to sponge off Enrique's child support?   So, child support was granted to Maria off a lie?  This is just too disturbing. 

 

I am so sorry for the child, and the trauma her MOTHER put her through.  I do think Enrique reacted emotionally to the news....and handled it poorly, but I'll bet he does build a new relationship with Selina away from her selfish mother, and that they are able to put the past in the past.  I wish them all the best in healing their broken hearts.

Quote From: bvajek

   As a woman myself, I am very embarrassed to see this on Television.  Knowingly cheeting on

her husband, this lady took it upon herself to have sex with another man.  Her husband innocent, did

not know of this.  When she came to him to tell that she was pregnant...of course he did not ask well is it mine? Lady's how many of you have had your husband ask you that?  Even though he did not question her about the childs looks, there might have been many reasons why... (1) Does your child look exactly like you?  (2) Than the wife would have been upset with him because she would have thought he did not love the child (3) He probably did not want to think that this wasnt his child. 

   The mother is at full blame here.  The child should know of that.  How do you think the father felt when he found out that this child he raised was not his...probably just like the child felt when she found out right?  Yes, I do not agree how the father went around telling the child, but he was a victim of a horrible crime.  I think the mother should have sat down with the child and told her herself.  That she was an unfaithfal wife, and lied to the child, and to her husband.  Do you think than maybe the child would be upset with her mother?

  

Quote From: rhondas24

Hi i just watched Dr. Phils show today 3-17-08. I was just wondering at the end of the show it said in loving memory of Robert King. Who was that? Was that the distant dad?