Messages By: fluffyfat

I agree.  Bill's mother isn't half as negative about Angee as I would be if my son was dating a woman who had been married three times and was posting sexy pictures of herself on the internet.  We all like validation but Angee should be mature enough  by now to respect herself and be content with the validation she gets from Bill.  If his admiration and attention isn'tt enough for her now it never will be.  You said it best :  Run Bill run!

There are so many sad stories on this thread!  I hope everyone remembers one of  Dr. Phil's best pieces of advice:  "You have to earn your way out of a marriage."  

 

 I agree with this so much, particularly if there are children involved.  Some of you are devastated right now because your spouse is cheating, others  of you are so depressed and unhappy  that you haven't been able to resist the temptaion to cheat.  Get counselling!  Don't do something in the heat of the moment  that will ruin the lives of so many people.  Please. Give your marriages a chance. 

I'd like to warn Kelly that I'm right  about at his "ideal" weight (about 145) and I still have batwing arms and flabby thighs.  Oh  yes, I workout six days a week and I give it my all.  The thing is you can't diet or exercise away your skin.  Only surgery would make my excess skin as tight as Kelly thinks  a woman's skin should be, and then there would be scars and Kelly probably couldn't deal with that either. 

  

I wonder about a guy like Kelly who can't get aroused unless the woman he's with is flawless.  Thank heavens all men aren't that "sensitive' or the population would be really, really small. 

That is so well put, Okrahoma.  By the way -- you may not be thin but I know you're pretty -- anyone who is as kind, intelligent and funny  (okra-homa ) is always pretty to those of us with eyes to see.

What a strange woman.  Jodi had the worst grammer I'd ever heard on TV, had been unable to keep her husband,  was teaching one child to be a conceited moron while treating the other child worse than the evil step-mother in a Grimms fairy tale.  Yet she calls herself perfect. 

  

All this concern over beauty is so temporary.  It matters a lot in high school but after that it's  all about how you do in your chosen career, how you treat your firends, how you treat your husband and family, the respect you show your parents, what kind of friend you are, your reputation for honesty and so many other things like talent and accomplishments.  What a shame it is when people focus on this one superficial aspect of life. 

...but can you imagine Deborah or Amy calling the cops to remove Marie from her wedding?   Whether or not Terry actually made a bitter remark about her ex  (and she sure woudn't have been the frist woman to do that)  the bigger issue here is Theresa!   

  

Oh my heavens! Was there ever a more manipulative, self-satisfied, judgmental young woman in all the world?  I'd be surprised if she and Steve are still together.  This kind of girl will turn him against everyone in his family and then start picking the specks out of his eye, while never, ever admitting to the log in her own eye. 

  

Gossip can be malicious and damaging or it can just be "talking about people" which I've seen in every business (and church) I've known.  It's human nature.  Sometimes it can even be a good thing, as in "Jane's illness is back; let's take her a cassarole." 

This bothers me so much.  All that money could be spent teaching these little girls to play piano, dance ballet, learn tennis and a dozen other things that would teach poise and self-esteem.  Instead her parents are spending a fortune teaching their daughter  to shake her booty. 

  

If a child loses a tennis match , or does poorly at her piano recital, her parents can tell her that if she practices harder she'll do better next time.  What can parents tell a little girl who keeps losing pageants because her eyes are too small? 

  

All  that girls learn from the beauty pageant world is that  appearance is everything.  They already have the whole world of TV and movies telling them that.  Her parents should be teaching her the deeper  values of hard work, kindness and intelligence while developing her real gifts and talents.  I hate pageants at any age but to put little girls through this  sleazy world is down right abusive. 

Good advice Hunterb,  I would tell my son the same thing! 

I do wish that men, like women, had a pill they could take in the sober light of day.  Many men hate the feel of condoms and find them awkward to use at the last minute (particularly with a few drinks in the system.).  Also, although I know  the pill isn't 100% effective, it's failure rate isn't nearly as bad as the condom's failure rate.   

  

This was such a good, cautionary, show.  People please!  Don't use your unborn child as a  relationship tool!  If you want to keep your boyfriend, try being nicer. 

  

BTW  Can you really have sex without waking up?  I know I couldn't. 

This kind of thread makes me sad.  First there's the women saying, why didn't he call back?" and then come the men saying, "You darn  women neverlike the nice guys!" 

  

Here's the truth for both men and women -- if, after one or two dates, he doesn't call or she refuses another date. Yeah, you guesed it, [i]they just aren't that into you.[/i]  You're right when you say that they don't even know you yet -- they don't want to get to know you.  Why?  This is the part no one else will tell you -- .They aren't that physically attracted to you.  

  

 No, no don't feel hurt.  That doesn't mean you aren't cute, or even down right stunning.  You're just not his dream girl.  Maybe you look like Angelina, but he's always dreamed of a Jennifer.  Just keep on going and sooner or later your own Brad Pitt will come along and see you as the fantasy girl he's dreamed about since he was sixteen.  Don't waste time chasing after the guy who doesn't think you're all that -- you might catch him on a bad day and he'll decide to "settle" for you.  Take it from someone who's been there, that's an example of  "Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it." 

  

And girls -- don't come back with, "If he didn't find me attractive why did he ask me out and sleep with me?"  Because you were there and his fantasy girl wasn't.   

  

I'm sorry to sound cruel but I just hate to see pretty young women wasting their time trying to get someone to like them for their "personality."  If he wants someone with a good personality to spend time with, he probably has lots of guy friends. 

I think both of these women are wrong.  How can they say such nasty things about each other?  Morgan should [i]never[/i] be taking his marital problems to his mother.  When he and Anna-Laura have problems they should talk it out together.  On the other hand Janice should allow Morgan time, including Mother's Day, to spend with the woman who raised him. 

  

What selfish people they all are. Neither woman will be the bigger person and stop the accusations. None of the three adults will put the children first.  

  

 I'm so sick of the over-use of restraining orders.  In this town all the trashy women brag about the restraining orders they have on their boyfirends the same way trashy women used to brag about how their boyfriends got in fights over them.  Restraining orders should be reserved for serious cases, not used to make points in petty quarrels. Ugh.  As soon as Janice started mentioning the restraining order she had on Janice and going back and forth between, "I ain't going nowhere" and "I'm divorcing him" it was clear she was just out for the drama.  

  

 I was sorry to hear the audience applaud when Anna-Laura interrupted Morgan at the very moment he was standing up to his mother.  Morgan is just  bouncing from one hateful, controlling drama queen to another.