I've had similar probelms (as Shelita) with my family. I have been verbally bashed for not celebrating holidays and birthdays as well.
My mom views it this way: It depends on how you celebrate it. People don't look at it that way. I don't celebrate in a pagan way. It's for fellowship, fun, sharing, giving....
I try to explain to her my perspective: It's not how people view it, it's how God views it. Just because something is "acceptable" to society doesn't mean it is to God.
I am very tolerant of others' views and lifestyles. Just because I "tolerate" it doesn't mean I agree with it. I dont' judge anyone else since that is not my place. I have some knowledge of what the Bible says and what does and does not please God. I enjoy sharing what I know, but this doesn't mean I am judging them. I really think this is what Shelita was trying to do. I don't believe she was judging anyone -just stating what SHE believes. I try to avoid this misunderstanding by stating "the Bible says" so that people realize this is from the written Word of God, not my own opinion.
As for people thinking that if you don't celebrate holidays you have no fun, that's simply not true. Gift giving is from the heart, not because some say it's that time of year. I give gifts to people whenever the feeling comes. To me, it is more meaningful and sincere. I have had to tell people not to buy me "Christmas" presents, birthday presents, etc. and it is really hard for them to understand. Some call me a scrooge. That's their opinion, they are entitled to it, but my interest is in pleasing God, not "going along" with the crowd just to "keep the peace".
I commend Shelita for speaking out. It is really hard to put yourself out there and be that vulnerable. I hope she continues to learn, apply what she learns, and share what she learns. At the very least it opens the door for discussion.
