Messages By: ladyday1

Quote From: hhs_goblin

See now you are assuming that I am mad.  Not at all!  I was just tryingt o explaing to youmy point that you seem to keep missing.  All is cool!  I am sure you are thinking I am a bitch and you have not got reason for that.  We just differ! 

  

As for hte people I "run into" they are just normal everyday people...most of them I see coming out of a church on Sunday!  So being a christian does not mean you cannot lose your cool and belittle someone.  Only God is perfect so other than him and Jesus...I feel certain everyone has cussed or called someone out their name at one time or another!  Even if they don't wantt o admit it to the world, they must admit it to themself.  I sit in judgement of nobody and nobody should sit in judgement of me.  It is not only rude to call someone a bitch it is rude to judge people.  I just have enough "life" experience to know that in the world you have to deal with certain things and childish name calling happens to be one of them!  So does rude and hatefull people.  At some point you just have to laugh it off...turn the other check as God says! 

  

Have a good day! 

  

Just for the record I am still not the least bit mad about this conversation, but it must be getting to you...you are the one that started with the "frustrated" little face. 

  

Take care 

Dena 

  

  

  

Quote From: donna9899

I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHAT PERSON IN THEIR RIGHT MIND TOLD KRISTINE THAT SHE WAS SEXY! SHE MAY BE A THIN, BLUE EYED BLONDE, BUT IT TAKES ALOT MORE THAN THAT TO BE SEXY. HER PERSONALITY WOULD RUIN ANY ATTENTION SHE MAY  INITALLY GET WITH HER "GOOD LOOKS". SHE SEEMS TO THINK THAT EVERYONE IS ITIMIDATED BY HER, BUT MOST PEOPLE (LIKE ME)  ARE APPALLED AT HER BEHAVIOR AND I AM SURPRISED THAT SHE HAD EVEN ONE FRIEND LEFT!

Quote From: stepmomusa

What a beautiful gift to give your child! You must be very proud...raising your daughter to refer to herself as a female dog. A word used by the rest of America to denigrate her as a female. She's got some long, hard, lonely  years ahead of her. 

  

Like I said in an earlier post...a woman who refers to herself as a bitch carries the same connotations as an African American who refers to him/herself as the "N" word. It does not imply power or a sense of positive self-regard, sorry.  

  

life is a bitch, and then you grow up to  be one. This is a bumper sticker, sweetie...not a message of wisdom. Please don't live your life by the bumper sticker mentality....I'm sure you are smarter than that! 

  

Quote From: dchristian

I am also a Christian, and I am the one who was cheated on. It has been a year, and I am still in counseling, still in my marriage, and still unsure of what I will do with my future. I wonder about what God would want me to do: honor my vows, or divorce him and get on with my life? My husband comes from a background of abuse, abandonment, and substance abuse, and refuses to tal about much of this stuff. How does one decide which direction to go?

Quote From: mt1963

A Christian friend who was having a hard time deciding whether to stay in his marriage or not told me that he believed he had to honor God through his marriage because "God hates divorce."  My questions to him were "how does ANY human know what God hates?" and "Does God love the marriage more than the people in it?"  He could answer me on neither.  He ended up staying married because he feared that, if he divorced his wife, God would inflict his "wrath" on his children, and he's still miserable.   

  

My point is that God made us and He knows our hearts; He knows yours and that you are not being malicious or selfish in wanting to better your life and leave a situation that is causing you pain.  I just don't believe God wants us to suffer and be martyrs (not that you're being a martyr); if we do that, we're wasting the gift of life that He gave us! 

  

I'm still in counseling myself, and I am still in my marriage wondering what to with my future as well.  Guilt is the biggest thing for me--the hurt a divorce will cause my husband and my daughter.  My husband is a kind man and good provider, but there is nothing between us anymore.  I'm trying to overcome that guilt through counseling, and little by little, I'm getting there (I think!).  So, keep on with your counseling and help yourself.  You can't help your husband because he doesn't want help--neither does mine.  We went to marriage counseling for a month until my husband decided he'd been "humbled" by my unhappiness and "knows what to do now."  Uh, no... 

  

I guess I don't have a clear answer about which way to go because I don't know myself.  Just know that someone out there shares your confusion; but above all, know that God wants you to be happy. 

Quote From: rich1515

...when the 8 year old entrants look like 20 year old hookers?!  Fake teeth?! Hair extensions?! Spray on tans?! Makeup?!  Seriously...I think that I have the most beautiful daughter that has ever lived (don't we all) but I would never think about "dolling" her up and make her look like something she's not.  If she couldn't win a contest based on her God given looks and talents, is she really winning?  I don't think so.   

  

I know I am chiming in a little late but just wanted to add my .02