I want to say I would never put up with someone that doesn’t respect my feelings either. I have a wonderful husband, been married for 30 years, 2 grown boys, 3 grand children and it’s still going strong. Our relationship is treated like we are best of friends. We do everything and anything together.
So, yes there are good people out there, so you don’t have to live with this, and neither do your kids. Believe me I know what it is like because my father did that to my mother when I was 7 years old, and it’s no fun. (I even caught my father in his girlfriend’s bedroom having sex together). This is not something that your kids need to see.
Go on with your life with a man you know that will respect you and your kids, its well worth it in the long run.