Dear Julie,
I too have the same troubles.....I found your story remarkable, it sounded just like me!!! My kids are 16 and 18, so I've been doing this along time...I do applaud you for leaving...I always stayed because I thought it was better, having come from a broken home myself....but I don't see that it was. My kids hate their father and avoid him at every turn. And it's all my fault according to my husband...I don't ever see it his way...he's a A type personality, perfection always...I'm further down the alphbet somewhere....P probably. I too just want to see my kids happy, I think they're great kids..this is a tough time in both their lives he only makes things worse. My greatest fear is that I'll lose them because of him!
Stay strong and I know the Doc will help us all, I'll be glued!