Messages By: lifewithas

Hi can I join in?

This is my first attempt at a message board

I just wanted to say I've struggled with my weight and ill health for quite a few years now. I find the thing that helps is to measure my body from head to ankle and keep check on the inch loss - the scales may not be moving - keep going the next few days will show a difference if you don't console yourself with eating- but as I eat for health my body shows the difference.

Hugs to you all out there x x

Sorry I don't know how to add all the pretty things you have

Hi there

Well done for opening up and getting it out, are you feeling better for moving forward.

My best advise is for you to start with you, start loving and respecting yourself. Its like Dr Phil says we teach people how to treat us, if we don't treat ourselves with love and respect then noone else with Go for therapy for you, get strong then you can deal with this bully start today and Stop him destroying you. You are in control, I know it does not seem like it yet but only you can control your thoughts. You know that arguing over the same things does not work - so stop that pattern of behaviour,  change it , refuse to engage walk away and do something else. Let him know that whilst he shouts etc you will not discuss it you are in a habit which you can break - therapy will help so take the next step forward and arrange it and go for you. Do it for you and your children .

You can get out of theis trap

Big Hug

Bev x

Hi

Have you read any of Dr Phil's books? You will find them really useful, read them together, you need training to help you stop controlling and start respecting each other and working as a partnership but you can do it. You will be happier your wife will be and you will be bringing up your baby in a loving relaxed relationship ' so it is worth  doing.

Good luck

Bev