Quote From: lauriejI think I have come to the conclusion that I am depressed. I get very little work done at work, I’m tired most of the time, I don’t do anything at home either. I used to be very good about making appointments for the kids and I but I drag my feet on that now too. I really miss my old self. I have made an appointment with the doctor and waiting for a call back from the psychologist but I need to do something before then, I have so much work to do that I have let pile up. I have things in my IN basket that need attention.
I don’t take the time to do anything for myself anymore either, I used to like doing crafts, reading and crocheting but I very seldom do that. I went on a holiday to my aunts this year for 10 days, did nothing but read, crochet and shop. I thought that would help but it hasn’t. I do nothing all day at work except play on the computer checking email etc.
I don’t know that is causing this depression, I have an idea. In 2000 my mom passed away she was only 53, then that same year I got divorced ( that was a good thing), three weeks after I moved out with my 2 daughters I met someone (that has been a challenge, I have a lot of baggage and 2 teenage daughters) then in 2003 my dad passed away while we where on holidays with him in the Caribbean. That left me real devasted, we were very close and very much alike. I don’t think I every really got a chance to grieve, we have been dealing with his girlfriend at the time, she wasn’t with him long enough to go after the estate so instead she came up with a bogus claim for her personal stuff that she said was in the house but it is stuff that we never saw and may have been in all the stuff that she moved out. 3 years ago my boyfriend moved in with me, we have now been engaged for 2 years. But we always fight and it is usually about my daughters, I am very family orientated including kids but he is not, he doesn’t talk or acknowledge them very much and they don’t like him that much, I think one reason is they are being guarded because of the way he is with them and they don’t want to betray their father. He brought up where the adults and “adult time” I think most of the time it was adult time, but I grew up where the kids are always included and that is how I am I love having kids around.
Well there is most of my story I think, but I could really use some advise on what to do till I can get to the dr. next Thursday.
First links helped me and I have added other links for those, like you, who have spouses with abusive behavior as yours is to your daughters. Have you read FAMILY FIRST by Dr. Phil? Check out hot peach pages for a support group in your area. The rest of the links are for you and others who may be in your same circumstance. You know your situation best so if some of these don't work for you might work for someone else and I just added them all. First link and, also, other two might help you until you see doctor next Thursday. I found the other two links because I usually do what first link advises on Home Care... Keep sharing here too... Nice to meet you. Fear not. Have faith...IN YOU. Hugs and prayers, SEA
www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003213.htm
www.joelosteen.com/site/PageServer?pagename=FullSchedule
IF YOU'D LIKE TO RECEIVE A FREE DAILY POSITIVE MINUTE E-MAILED TO YOU EACH A.M. JUST GO TO LINK BELOW on hourofpower.org
www.hourofpower.org/email/about.html
I noticed on home page that Dr. Phil is looking for people to be on his Family Feud show and lots of other shows at second link here:
www.drphil.com/plugger/respond/?plugID=9419
www.drphil.com/plugger
First for battered women:
www.hotpeachpages.net/a/countries.html
Second for battered men (I apologize for not knowing most popular link for men because hadn't thought much about men being abused too until show on Dr. Phil of Erin beating her husband.)
www.menweb.org/throop/battery/battery.html
DR. PHIL RESOURCES FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
www.ncadv.org
National Domestic Violence Hotline
www.ndvh.org
Medline Plus
www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/domesticviolence.html
When Good Men Behave Badly
Dr. David Wexler
The Relationship Training Institute
www.RTIprojects.com
Lori Carter Bell, MSW, LICSW
EMDR Specialist
(Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
Minneapolis, MN
www.MidwestTraumaAssociates.com
Passionate Marriage
Dr. David Schnarch
www.passionatemarriage.com/schnarch_biography.htm
Resmaa Menakem, MSW
Tubman Family Alliance
www.tubmanfamilyalliance.org
www.stopfamilyviolence.com
Dr. David Wexler
The Relationship Training Institute
www.RTIprojects.com
For those whose problems aren't as big as the above you might want to read RELATIONSHIP RESCUE "IT STARTS WITH YOU":
drphil.com/articles/article/368
www.drphil.com/articles/article/365
drphil.com/articles/article/242
CHILDREN OF FAMILIES IN DISCORD THAT SEE THIS... HERE ARE SOME LINKS FOR YOU TOO AS RUNNING AWAY IS NOT A GOOD IDEA...EVEN IF YOU LIVE IN ANOTHER COUNTRY CONTACT AND ASK FOR HELP NUMBERS IN YOUR COUNTRY...
www.nrscrisisline.org
1-800-RUNAWAY
National Youth Crisis Hotline: 800-448-4663
* About Teen Depression: www.about-teen-depression.com
jo@samaritans.org (e-mail)
www.samaritans.org.uk
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