Messages By: wyldcelt

I have three sons, ages 9 and 7 years old and an 18 month old son.  I would NOT want my older two to see a mom breastfeeding her child with her breast exposed.  This would make my children uncomfortable and they are getting to the age where not only would it be funny to them but also possibly inappropriate for them to see, in my opinion.  I think breastfeeding is wonderful if you can do it, I did it with my eldest but couldn't produce enough milk after 7 weeks of trying and I had to stop.  I think it is fine IF the breast is covered, it is common-sense and courteous to others who might have older children or just might be uncomfortable with it.   

I am baffled why I have never heard the issue of the men in our lives, discussed, when we talk about breast feeding in public!  My husband, (although he would never admit it), along with every man I've ever known, does not / cannot separate a woman's breast from its sexual connotation, regardless of whether a baby is attached or not.   I severely resent the women who feel the need to "hang it all out" in front of my husband and sons.  I cannot imagine that THEIR husbands appreciate them "hanging it all out" for everyone to see, either.  Men view women's breasts the same way, whether they're nursing or just exposing their breasts in general.  There's no difference to them and I totally object to women exhibiting themselves in public, for that reason, if for no other.  The woman on the show today is naive if she thinks she is going to change the US, much less the world, by exposing her breasts and using having a baby attached as an excuse.   I breast fed 2 children.  I fed them in public, when absolutely necessary, but ALWAYS with a blanket over my shoulder and the baby [& my breast, because I don't want men looking at me that way - which is exactly the same way, whether I have a baby attached or not.   Women don't get it. 

    On an aside note;  I wonder if these women who are so keen to expose their breasts [during breastfeeding in public, are not women who were flat or small-breasted to begin with and deep down, they feel this [breastfeeding legitamizes them exposing their breasts and showing that they actually do have "size" now.  Hmmmm.  Something to think about.  I'd like to hear the husbands weigh in on this.... and men in general.   nhr 

That true. My husband has never seen feeding as sexual. We dated all through high school and I remember walking through the mall with him and seeing a breast feeding mom I looked at him because I was young and thought he might be offended he looked and then looked away. Later when we where married and about to have a baby of our own I asked him about his thoughts on breast feeding. He looked concerned "why do you not want to" I explained I just wanted to make sure he was comfortable and he laughed and said "why wouldn't I be." We also served many friends and work associates of my husband about if they found breast feeding sexual or offensive. All thought it was a silly question and said of course not. My point is that not all men are drooling beasts just looking for a glimpse of breast feeding boob.  

I just finished watching the show, and I am speachless.  My wife and I are newly married, and we could not be happier.  We also have a new born, so my wife is at home all day.  I tell her to do whatever she wants, I do not care, as long as she's happy, I'm happy.  I work out of town, so I get home late, and leave early.  In the morn, if she happens to be up, she'll make my lunch and coffee, awsome, very greatful.  If she's sleeping from being up with our daughter, then I let he sleep, and I make lunch and breakfast, big deal.  When I get home, dinner is always ready, and if it isn't, I will offer to make it, but she usually makes it because she can cook, I can't, ha ha.  Anyways, we share the house work, she mostly does it, but on the weekends or my days off, I try my best to do it all.  We love eachother so very much, and I say, if we have love and respect for one another, then everything will just "flow" so to speak.  I am a young guy, only 20, but I am old and smart enough to realize that "Grant" is a loser.  He needs some direction.  I cannot beleive that the test they did, with him being the "hose wife" did not give him a kick in the pants and notice the stress and headache that the wife goes through trying to make Grant happy.  Yea, he works all day at one job, she works all day at several.  Anyways, this is only my opinion and life experience, or lack there of.  Woman deserve respect.  I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for woman/wife.  I have seen woman beatn', thrown around, talked down upon, and when I see stuff like that, I wish I could hit the husband/boyfriend, and get away with it.  Woman are equal, they are human beings, they have feelings, and should be treated like they truly are a queen.  They pushed out the babies that made us, they carry the baby for 9 months, and are in pain.  Us men make the money, but thats not all it should be.  We should be there for them, supporting them 24/7.  Anyways, my two cents.  Hope you all agree! 

I believe the biggest problem with overprotective parents is that the child never learns to make decisions and is thus, unable to live on their own or will forever second guess their decisions.  

I am a Mom of three boys.  They are 11, 9, and 7.  My oldest has freedoms the other two don't simply b/c he has had more life experience and has shown his responsibilities to be honorable.  My 9 yo has special needs, but is still allowed to ride his bike around the neighborhood b/c he has been taught (by me and Dad) how to do it honorably and has shown to be responsible.  I believe taking these freedoms away would cause them to second guess their independence.  Plus, I will not be here for the rest of their lives (I believe at this point) so if I don't empower them, who will?  I don't want them learning from the world, so I believe it is my job as their Mom.  They have never been in daycare, as well, b/c I didn't want someone else spending more time with them than myself (this is my choice, of course, not meant to offend anyone reading).  I believe if we teach our children right from wrong, when they get to that critical moment in life, they will have the knowledge to make a good choice.  If they choose otherwise, it is their consequence to suffer, not mine.  All three of my boys have been given consequence as a result of poor judgment, so they understand that consequences surely follow poor judgment. 

Tselb2 

This isn't likely to help overprotective parents chill out but it is very important for parents to be aware: 

Last FBI stats I saw (somewhere around '95, '96) stated that on average there is 1 known sexual predator every 2 square miles. A friend in Criminal Justice tells me it's much higher than that now. 

Parents, when choosing a neighborhood most police departments will give you the info regarding known sexual predators in a particular neighborhood either by zipcode in smaller cities or by subdivision in the larger cities. Please make use of this information when deciding where to live. Please note the boldface on known, the stats don't include the preds that haven't been caught yet.