Messages By: sweets537

Quote From: heather_79

You need a new mind set, that comes with time and practice, I meditate on God's word, I read inspirational books such as Joyce Meyer, anything uplifting. If anything come against me in a negative way, I have learned to just say this too shall pass!!! I tried something and it helped alot, I would designate a time during the day toward the evening is best, but that would be my designated worry time. If anything through out the day started making me stress, I would say I'll worry about this at my designated time, so by the time my designated worry time came, I could only remember so many of those worrisome things, but then I only ponedered on them for a loittle while, and then I'd say, ok, I am only one person, I can't carry the weight of the world on my shoulders, I give this situation to God, and He will handle it, and guess what, It always works out!!! You need to stop worrying all the time, just start thinking positive thoughts and renew the mind with God's word, If you nothing else has worked, what do you have to lose!!! Try it!!! You'll see!!!

Quote From: mernziepoo

I am not sure if you and I have talked before but why don't we talk now? I am sure that my rusty swing set can wait a little bit longer.

Why are you feeling so sad? I would love to help if I can. I am no stranger to being down so I do know how it feels. If you want to talk I will be here for another 15 minutes or so.

Many blessings Mar.

Quote From: mernziepoo

I really do get what you are saying. I am often that way myself. I once was talking to a counselor and she said to me that I was worrying about things that were just my imagination. I couldn't believe she said that so quickly with no idea what she was talking about. I said that was a lot of assumption in 15 minutes or less. I get so down, especially when I am down and life for me has become one big race to avoid facing some of my own emotions.

I had some monetary losses and lost close friends and family members all around the same time. It hit me so hard that I said those very words, I want to go to sleep and never wake up. But really after the fact I am so smart, what I wanted was rest from the worry, rest from the grief and rest from the emotional stuff. Unfortunately the only way to understand how something will pass is after you have almost gone all through it. I have had some tough times spiraling but I can tell you that when you do begin to understand better why, you are feeling the way you do, it makes it easier to understand How you can make yourself start to feel stronger.

Do you feel more burdened being on your own? Or do you think maybe you are feeling more lonely?

Depression and anxiety does make normal living very difficult but it can be controllable if only for short times but at least that is something.

I have a lot of faith myself but I also know that I can't just hand it over to God as so many people are fond of saying. I love God but depression like this is very complicated, and I know that it will be tough but also feel like you probably have more strength than you realize.

Hugs Mar.

Quote From: psychwife2

I didn't mean to confuse the issue with my comment about the counseling....I'm not talking about going through counseling with the ex...just you and your husband. The ex is just a factor that you might have to discuss in counseling as to how his presence in your life makes things difficult for you.

If you are truly having trouble leaving the house, or if you are sleeping to avoid your life, you may be experiencing some true depression. I would at least suggest that you see a psychiatrist for a consultation...if they feel you are truly depressed, a little time on an anti-depressant might help you at least get out of your funk and help you to deal with your troubles. And if they don't believe that you meet the criteria for depression, you could possibly be going through a grief process that you will need some help to work through. Depending on your mental health benefits, you could either consider seeing the psychiatrist or a psychologist for therapy....talking to someone who validates your feelings, who helps you work through your grief really helps. I did this when I was facing my father's impending death from cancer. I thought I was coping well with Daddy's illness...after all, I drove 100 miles to my parents home a few days a week so that I could give my mother some relief. I felt that I was dealing with things perfectly but on the days I didn't go to visit them, I found that I didn't want to get off of the sofa....I didn't want to take care of my family...I acted out in anger at those around me...not much different from what you are going through now.

I started going to weekly therapy sessions with a psychologist and I can't begin to tell you how empowering it was....I worked through my grief and by the time my father finally died, I was able to cope much better than I would have before. The things that I discovered about myself through therapy extended beyond my grief situation...the tools that I learned have helped me in many other crisis since then.

Sorry to go on so long about my own situation, but I thought it might help to know that help is out there...that it DOES get better...but you might have to make the initial move towards your recovery.

Best of luck to you!

Quote From: heather_79

God is bigger than any situation you will ever face, see when you say (but) you cancel anything you have asked God to do for you out, You want to know why God don't deliver you from a situation immediately??? Because if He were to, (and He does have the power too) you would take the glory of it, and He wouldn't get any recognition for it, You want to be healed, Let God do it, but you have to learn too, that God won't deliver you from something you have the power of doing for yourself, He will help you, but taking the first step means letting go of your fears, and letting God take over your situation, and it comes in time!!!!

Quote From: heather_79

Let see, and what somebody stated below didn't offend me??? I have the right to my opinion, and I am sorry that you feel that way, I didn't mean it in the way you think, but as long as I know where I stand in my faith I am not going to let your critiszm get the best of me.

Quote From: psychwife2

You were merely a pawn in this matter and in no way did you cause any problems. I cannot accept you having to feel guilty because some of us got off topic.

You didn't cause anything...you only asked for help. And I repeat...we ARE here for you...you can vent to us...we all have and we all will again. That's the beauty of having a place like this to turn to.

Get some rest tonight and tomorrow will be a new day and a new beginning.

Take care!

Quote From: mernziepoo

Sometimes trouble just shows up uninvited! You are not to blame for what went wrong here. So forget all about it if you can cause Honey you have enough to worry about. I am just glad to see you back, so I can avoid those rusty swings a little longer.

This sort of thing happens from time to time but really it is not the norm. This is usually a soft place to fall in an otherwise tough world. You should not have to defend your beliefs and neither should I. So let's not. Did you happen to see my post about how I am when my family is away?

((((((((( HUGE COUNTRY HUGS)))))) Mar.