Messages By: stepmomusa

Quote From: xavierann

I just thought I would add this in.  Yes they DO have to pay ALL THE BILLS, it is their JOB AS A MAN.  If they are not MANLY enough to do their job, they need to "git".  YOu need to begin challenging their MANILINESS whenever they start to complain that they have to spend everything on you....that's right - I'M EXPENSIVE!  AND I KNOW YOU CAN AFFORD ME, SO BE A MAN AND DO YOUR JOB! 

Quote From: decentmom

a similar situation has happened to me with my married son. his wife dislikes me;  I guess. and so on the occassion of their only baby's baptism day; after a family dinner at a fancy restaurant..I had approached my ex husband and politely inquired if he could pay me any amount of his back child support that he owed to me?

 

He is re married  owns a business; and can well afford to pay his  long delinquent court-ordered obligation; while I am disabled and living on small social security.

 

upon my daughter in law, hearing my conversation, she flew at me .from across the room.. She butted up against me  in the doorway, and told me to 'take it outside'.

 

this was after the party ended; and everyone was leaving the party room. She then said I could never see the baby again. for talking to my ex husband since I had ruined her baby's baptism day by doing so.

 

 and my son and daughter in law have dropped me from everything.

 

 I was recently not even invited to my grandson's 1st birthday party.

this I found out after I stopped at their place with birthday gifts for my baby grandson..I was told I had to leave ;since the daughter in law  was hosting a birthday party with her out of town girlfriends. in 10 minutes. and  I later learned that there had been a party  the day before  for friends and family and I was left out.

 

and not one word from my son since  then.July 30th ..either.

 

 I had only been allowed to see my grandson 2 times. once when he was born and at his baptism service. and I was certainly not a meddling mother in law. I only was nice to them ; and took them gifts. never gave them 'advice' -bossed them around-nothing like that.

 

they live  only 5 minutes from me and have never brought baby over to visit me, not even once. Yet they drove out of state to visit my  ex husband's   relatives before Christmas.

 

 It looks like my grandchild will grow up not knowing me.... all the while; the daughter in law has Her mother babysit several days a week while she works. and they took Her mother on trips to Disneyworld and Chicago with them; while they let me sit ; like I am dead.

 

What would you people do?  I  miss my son and am hurt beyond words,

Quote From: simpleguy

I'm one of "those guys" who often date women younger than myself.  Ages range between 10 to 20 years younger.  Too me, it's not age, but place in life.  I live the lifestlye that I do and I meet single (mostly) younger women doing what I do.

 

I Snow Ski, Scuba Dive and Bike ride.  Not that I'm a fitness nut ... but I enjoy most of my spare time outside.  Though any age can Ski ... and Scuba.  I find mostly younger outdoorsy, (fit) women on the trips and locations I go to.

 

Also, I've never been married, don't have children, would rather go hiking than to a Museum.  I'd rather go Bird watching, Whale watching or almost anything outdoor.  I do not enjoy "plays" or live Theater and for that matter I don't do "Sporting Events either" (Boring).  That's right, I don't watch the "game" on TV or atted sporting events. 

 

These things are just not for me.

 

Anyway ..Dating:  Yes ... I've dated a few women closer to my age, but we really don't have much in common other than a birth year.  Most have children (I don't) and or grandchildren or think about children etc.  (I don't date younger women with children either).  I general don't date women (no matter what age) that doesn't match up to the things I enjoy, and share my values.  I prefer to life an adventurous life, traveling, dreaming, chasing rainbows and butterflies.  Yes, I have a job, make great money (thank goodness) but do not want the white picket fence, two car garage or children to "pass things along to".  What I want is someone to enjoy the things I enjoy, to laugh out loud, to smile just because, to dance in the shopping mall while waiting in line, to be best friends with.  Sure, I maybe more Peter Pans than Dr Phil, but it's the life I want and love.  As I get older in years, I hope I will always be young at heart.  I look for a woman (of any age) who wants these things as well.  Not because I do it, but because she does it and enjoys it as well.   I'm not looking for "opposite attacks" or "Expanding my views".  I'm very happy and enjoy life.   If I was with someone who wanted to do something other than one of my favorite things ...sure, you bet'ya I'd do it.  But I'm not looking for someone with different interests and values.   I want to be with someone who shares what I enjoy.  Some may argue that ... but it's a good match for me.

 Again, I have a responsible/high profile job, pays well.  I work hard and I play hard.  I'm fit and I enjoy doing things.  Though I know I'll catch a bunch "stuff" from women who disapprove.. I can only say to you.  You follow your heart and your dreams, and I'll follow mine.  Thanks

Quote From: genny2

 what i want this year is help!!! i want my stepson to face the fact that his mom is dead, and that he could not have done anything to change that. i want for him to stop using her death as an excuse to act very badly  and to realize that he still needs to do homework ,schoolwork and chores  and that life does go on. people are born they live and they die every day.  we mourn for a short time but then you have to live your life. the greatest  way to honor someone who has passed is to live your life to the fullest every day and don't waste a minute of time because that would not only be disrespectful to the dead but to your self as well it would "cheapen" yourself .  I have tried  to explain this to him and he just appears to go backwards  and is endangering his IB placement  because he has decided he does not wish to live with his dad and myself. he wants to live with his aunt. i have been through this situation before with my own niece and it ends extraordinarily bad!!! and i can't get that through her head either she thinks that we should just turn him over to her and everything would be just dandy. except that  she's on the road for months on end. like I said what I really want this year is help and I really need a lot of support that I'm not getting from anywhere!!!!!!  DR. PHIL PLEASE HELP!!!!

Quote From: ceildh1

Okay, maybe someone can answer this,

Why does it seem its so important for GIRLS to vow their virginity until marriage ?  What about boys, or do they get to sow their wild oats so to speak ?  Who are they sowing them with in that case hmmm ?

Or is it because girls and young women NEED someone to tell them what they should and should not do, and they are more naive than boys ? 

You know contrary to popular belief, many males can control their penises, so make them take the pledge as well, or forget about it. 

Here in this century, Boys are just as able to access birth control (actually more able for the most part ), and it is not just up to women to control the sexual impulses of the human race, or to ensure that diseases aren't spread around and we get pregnant.

If it bothers men that their wives weren't "pure" on their wedding night, then we women should INSIST that our MEN be virgins, after all we don't want to be compared to their last one either do we ladies ?