Messages By: blueyesak

I know in my past I haven't dated a lot, in fact I didn't start dating till I was 21 and I had a wide range of dates.  Just recently I have noticed that when I do meet a guy for a date I think it went ok, and yes I'm nervous but I don't think them not calling me or leaving me an email telling me that "hey I had a great time but you are not my type lets just be friends".  I had one guy after our first date email 5 days later to say "He as you probably figured out this just won't work.. I wish you the best"...   Come on, one date tells you all this? heck I was just trying to figure him out after one date and he did pick the one place in my home town that everyone goes to so yes I was a tad uncomfortable being there as I knew most of not all the people in the resturant. 

So what is up with me?  if anyone has any answers I would love to hear them. 

1. If he would have called right away I wouldn't have considered him clingy nor any other guy. 

2. Confessing your feeling right away might scare some but not all so take a chance. 

3. Of course we want you if you pretend we don't exsist, heck if a women does it to a man he is usually after her panting cause it's something he isn't allowed. 

I totally agree.  Why is it that men think women have this complex and that complex.. Most of the men I have seen around my home town have complexes of themselves just as much.

I don't have a problem asking a guy out for coffee or maybe lunch, what I have a problem with is they shoot me down without a "beg your pardon".

Most fairy tales if not all were written or thought up by man.  I do believe that men wish women were more like the women they write of.

As for the great man shortage, I know for sure that Alaska doesn't have that many men and those that we do have are not to bad (even if all they want are the barbie type females.).

I have tried eharmoney.com and nothing, I tried true.com and lots of lookers were looking at my page but nothing to write home about.. I tried BBW Personals.com, well I can only say most men were either old enough to be my dad or young enough to be my younger brother or even son.  

I have met online thru BBWPersonalPlus.com a couple of men, but ladies let me fore warn you, there are some snakes. One man claimed he was from Florida and he was opening a art gallery, his picture was great he had a beautiful house, boat  and was willing to come to my home state and visit, only catch was he went to England and then Nigeria for art work to buy (didn't tell me this till he was in England), oh but it gets better he the went to Nigeria and wouldn't you know it, he ran out of money and only had money orders which no bank over there would cash and he needed money to ship his artwork home or lose it.. Couldn't I help??  

The other man I met was thru True.com,  he too claimed to live in the U.S in fact in Virginia and he was originally from the U.K and in fact still held his British Passport and was over here on a work Visa I presume.  Well he went to Nigeria to do stocks and something else, well he too needed a little financial help, it would seem he had a bit of a fender bender and he just didn't have any money in which to pay for the repairs except he had money orders and supposedly a few American Express Travelers Cheques.. and yes you guessed it, no body in Nigeria would cash the Traveler's Cheques or the money orders couldn't I please help him.  Told him to go to the British Consulet.    

So it would seem I attrack those looking for a weak person to prey on..  So ladies and Gentleman who are surfing thru those personal ad websites, please be careful for you never know what you might catch.  

I totally agree with you.. it seems that most if not all men that see an overweight woman think they are weak and /or desperate.  I know so men who are on the heavy side and not many people think of them as weak or that overly desperate.  I find it so hard to love and respect myself when I feel constantly judged from everyone.  

As for the gentlemen they both unregistered with BBW personal Plus and True.com so there was no way to report them. 

Sending a prayer up for all us BBW's and BBM's. 

I have met a few men online and surprisingly they are "from the US" only they are over in the UK or in Nigeria suppoedly for work or business and now they need money or an empty cc to transfer funds into so then I can pay their bill and then they can come home.

Come on, if you are a business man and you are overseas on business you make sure you have enough funds to do what you need to do and come back home.

I totally am so sick of the men that are praying on the women out there who are looking for someone to befriend or maybe more.

Use caution  when surfing the sea of online ads.  I know I have and always will.