Messages By: ampugs

Can anyone tell me if Munchausin-by-proxy included phych 'problems' or is it limited to physical stuff only?

I've been there, too.  3 years of being beaten, followed, locked in the cellar, accused of cheating, all the while being cheated on - even his lawyer told him not to bother to go to the Master's hearing because I had a 'lock'  on every set of grounds they gave in PA before there was such a thing as no-fault.  When I got brave enough to file, I weighed all of 87 lbs [at 5'4"].  So instead of going to the hearing, he poisoned my horses.

 

It's been 37 years.  I'm still afraid of the dark and being closed in, but I can deal with it.  What I really wanted to say was that things can get better.  Surprisingly so.  Give yourself a chance.  It was real hard to get any self esteem back, But it can be done.

   What do you do when the mother won't allow the son to use the phone, go out of the house, get a driver's license, or go anywhere without her?  He's 36 years old, but regresses to about 6 when she starts in on him.  He's not allowed to have friends.  He works full time.  He gives her most of his money.  Most of the time she sits in the driveway where he works so he doesn't talk to anyone else. She has him completely intimidated.  A little bit of a twist on this topic.

I've known him about 8 years.  He has been completely repressed, physically and emotionally abused, probably sexually as well.  She has him convinced that he has a criminal record and will go to jail if he leaves. A complete falsehood [I checked].  She does have him in trouble w/ the IRS by telling him [and his employer] that she would do his taxes, and then didn't do them. Every time he gets a little independent she slaps him back down.  He would need extensive counseling to be able to stand up to her even a little. She won't be happy until he is dead or in jail.  She like to play martyr.  She likes the attention of having a dependent son who most people think is mildly retarded - which I don't think he is - maybe a little ADD but his memory is too good and he learns too well to be retarded.  He's not allowed to use the phone.  He's not allowed outside without her. He's not allowed to have a driver's license or even an ID.  They have no heat in the house except for a couple space heaters.  I don't think they have a refrigerator.  I do know she doesn't cook anything.  The house isn't fit for human habitation it is so dirty.  As far as I'm concerned, she belongs in jail for the things she has done to him - but that would probably hurt him pretty badly.