Dear Dr. Phil,
My mom was an extreme hoarder too. One day years ago, at the age of 10, I picked up the trash in the bathroom floor and placed in the trashcan, only to find it redistributed on the floor a half hour later. Then I knew that my mom had a problem that I did not understand, nor could I 'fix' it.
As I grew to an adult, I asked her to seek help, but she refused repeatedly. At the time of her death in 1992, her home looked very similar to your guest, John's. Only she was alone.
I like your 'bedside manner' Dr. Phil. Tough or tender when needed by the patient, but always honest and direct. I taped the show and just wanted to commend John emphatically! His coming on the show and being honest was very COURAGOUS! Bravo John!! You did what I begged my mom to do, but she adamntly refused. Only when we dare to look outside our way of thinking do we grow.
Dr. Phil, what you said (if I may paraphrase) that some forms of hoarding are triggered by death of a loved one made sense. Mom had twins and both died in first two weeks of life and it forever changed my mom. Their deaths 'broke' my mom's spirit. And your show made the 'family jigsaw puzzle' pieces fit together.
I am at peace. Thank you for your clear, concise, and understanding wisdom. May you continue to have the Wisdom of Solomon bestowed on you as you help others.
