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None of the women in this family are sounding true and honest to me.  Enza makes everything sound as if she is the hero.  To me, she is minipulative, deceitful, self-centered and cruel beyond belief.  Grandma must have some real hang-ups from her youth.  She is cold and critical and it seems she has undermined her daughter's self image and her ability to become a good mother.  The show did not get into her morals or behaviors during her daughter's young years.  I don't think Kim is ready to take on the role of mother to her children.  She has failed in the past and is likely fail in the future. I don't think an on line self help program can make anyone a better mother.   Whatever short comings she may have set the stage to allow her mother and Enza to get involved as they did.  Any strong, smart, sane person would have denied either of them to interfer.  What was Kim doing when her daughter was growing up. 

I don't really care what happened to a criminal in his or her childhood.  I will allow God to  take mercy on his or her soul and  leave it to the courts to determine the difference between life and death to satisfy the bleeding hearts when worried about an abused person becoming the abuser..

As adults, in spite of a tramatic up bringing, we are responsible for our actions.  At some point we have to take control and do whatever we have to do ,for our own sake as well as for the sake of society, to heal the wounds and learn to live a happier, productive live.  You can never convince me that a pediphile is not aware of the damage he or she is doing to a child or for that matter any victum that they happen to chose to rape, rob, kill or harm in anyway.  WE are not animal without conscience. 

 

The teaching profession has changed and it did so during the period of time when I was involved in one way or the other with the teaching profession.  There was a time when a hurt and needy child could expect a hug from a caring teacher.  There was a time when a teacher could expect parents to support efforts to discipline a child and assists the teacher and child in the educational process.  My experience in the last 3 years of my teaching career were anything but.  I assisted or taught junior high LDBD in a upwardly mobile, highly educated community.  Our staff leaders made it very clear to us, as teachers, that we must hold ourselves above all suspicion with strict warnings to not touch students in any way.  This means you cannot hug a child who has a good day or happy event.  You cannot hug a child who is having a bad day and feels unloved at that moment or maybe unloved period.  You cannot report a child  after observing him/her buying or selling drugs for fear of a negative/defensive parental reaction. If a charge or suggestion of a charge is brought up against a teacher, it is the teacher who is assumed wrong and not a disgruntled child or  over-reactive parent. So lets investigate before we release charges to the hungry muck raking press.

I certainly do not support teachers who abuse their  rights and responsibilities as educators but I also do not believe that all of a sudden we have a rash of young or middle aged women praying on the innocents of 14 year old boys.  Lets start with lie detectors and DNA, if we have it,  before we go parading down the street spreading false accusations about teachers. They just might be innocent. 

For me this is a no brainer.  The husband is dangerous and is in desperate need of counceling.  His reactions, his mannerisms and his eyes seem to show a seething anger that is about to blow and will result in harm to his X wife as well as his children. 

The mother in law, on the other hand, needs to back off and out.  She is a loose a canon verbally and needs to shut her mouth.  No wonder the daugher and mother of those precious children seems so quiet.  She can't get a word in.  I happen to agree with her that she should have full custody without shared visitation to the husband until he goes through an attitude adjustment via counceling and a change of heart and can prove he is stable and not a threat to his family. 

I would have loved to meet his parents and know of how he was raised. Something is wrong with him but I believe, inspite of the male attorneys opinion on her qualifications as mother based on one statement and ignoring all other evidence that she is a sane, stable, loving and caring parent.

I have watch with interest most everything that hit the media on this so called disappearance of Drews 3rd wife and can not understand after all the circumstantial evidence, all the failed or suspicious polygraphs, all Drew's unusual behavior for someone who lost a loved one and now with follow up investigation we learn his 2nd wife died under less than natural causes or  by accident why the police in Bolingbrook, Illinois do not have a case against him.   We have learned recently that you do not need the body to arrest someone if there is enough circumstantial evidence. So how much is enough?

I am so happy you are bringing Stacy's disappearance to light again.  Her loss of life should not go unpunished. Somehow we have to find the murderer or resolution to her disappearance as well as who killed wife #2.  Lightening does not generally hit the same spot twice.