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October 13, 2005, 12:14 pm PDT

10/10 WIFESTYLES

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I think that one of the many causes of divorce is that we mothers put so much emphasis on our children. Yes, it is important to sacrifice for your children and yes it is important to do what you can to raise them in a loving, supportive, family environment. In fact I strongly believe at staying at home with your children to raise them. I do exactly that with my three children.  But your focus of your marriage really should be on your relationship with your husband, not with your children. If you make sure that you spend at least one night a week with your husband, if you take time out to be with only him, focus on only him, and he on you, and you make sure your relationship is always in tact, then you are giving your children the best gift ever- loving parents! It is possible to do everything you can for your children and sacrifice everything you know, and still fail at keeping your marriage in tact, which should be your number one priority. When you keep up comunication with your husband, when you love him and he loves you, when you put each other first and are happy and secure in each other's arms- you are giving your children love, security, happiness, and FAMILY. So these women who keep saying children come first even before your husband- I seriously disagree. I would like to know how many of them have happy marriages and how many of them have been divorced. Which did you have first? A husband or a baby? Where did your baby come from? Is he a part of only you or a part of you and your husband? If your children are so important to you, your number one priority should be your marriage.

Well said!!  I really didn't feel as much irritation with the husband as a lot of people did.  I felt that he was well-intentioned, that he just didn't have  the skills to thoughtfully communicate with his wife. (things did look like she could use some organizational skills). This would have been a PERFECT opprtunity for her to enlist his help in getting things in order rather than be so touchy. Most of the time, if we would stop butting heads and being terretorial about issues and worked together with each other's strengths, families could really pull together. If he is detail oriented and willing to get things set up - WOW what a gift.!!! That would free her to be a little more relaxed and pressured. We are always hearing about the "baggage" each brings to the marriage, well, how about emphasizing the strengths and talents that each brings to the marriage. BE the best  we can possibly be.  

Dr. Phil, help him know how to offer his help in a non-critical manner 

 
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May 18, 2006, 4:54 pm PDT

WHERE DO THEY GET THE DRUGS?

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Id like to remind people one place drugs are readily available IS jail.  By putting an addict in jail you are exposing them to huge drug availability / access (often easier and more readily available inside than out), majority of other inmates are also drug addicts, learning more criminal behaivour, meeting peers/new contacts for drugs and crime and putting them in a depressing, negative unsupportive and cold environment.  After struggling with a heroin addiction for 10 years myself, I could not think of any worse environment to be put in if rehabilitation is the real goal.  

   

It is also important to understand that an addiction is just that; something completely out of the control of the person afflicted. There really is no choice, its an unconcious decision and people are kept in the spiraling cycle because they are addicted, they dont have the power, strength and support to break the cycle.  Does anyone seriously believe jail is the answer and help addicts need? You and your family are in my thoughts, Brandon.  

Unfortunately, being addicted turns users into dealers and the vicious cycle just keeps rolling along.  

It was a bit more information than I might have imparted on the ways to fool the drug tests. 

Since this incredibly vicious challenge is destroying this Nation's future, I would like to see the importers and manufacturers of drugs to be labeled as terrorists. Before you start calling me harsh names, look at the statistics on drug and alcohol related crimes (deaths, theft, vandalism, etc.) and then tell me it isn't something to be terrified about.!! Forget the cute little phrases like "recreational drugs" and call it what it is.  

Ask any military recruiter how many perfectly (otherwise) able-bodied young people have to be disqualified because of crimes related to drugs; including failure to get even a high school education because it was more fun to get high 

 
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July 5, 2008, 9:20 am PDT

Re; children being released to wrong folks.

If mother's are going to have a revolving door system with boyfriends living with them, they MUST change e the passwords that means it is indeed ok for this person to pick up the child from school.

What i think about the policy of allowing what amounts to strange men picking children up from school doesn't matter but it does matter that we keep those little ones safe.

just because he is hot in bed does not mean he is to be trusted with your most precious children. DO NOT DO IT>>>>>>>>

 

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