Messages By: owlwho

There seems to be a pattern here my sweet, you've being protecting your aunt, parents and anyone else that's part of the equation, even the low life who raped you, but who's protecting you. Have you always played these games in life when you protect others, maybe it's time to put your feelings first and let them deal with theirs and don't carry their guilt anymore. How they react is not your problem you didn't ask for it to happen. Would some of these people back you up like you do them? Make sure your partner stops playing your game as well and the two of you will fight through this together as that's the support you need in this situation not others approval or judgement. Maybe you've been barking up the wrong tree to get through this heartache. I wish you well, Love Lauren

Hi, I posted you a response but in the wrong section, so if you go through the darlaash entry you'll see it. See ya! Lauren

Hi, I totally agree with this person. If you've done everything in your power because it's your problem not your sons and nothing has succeeded from this, then you get him out. He doesn't have a choice but you do and the first decision to make is to protect him no matter what. You have to go with the facts, are the school been responsible for his well being, are you being responsible for his well being and if there are more negatives than positives then you have to make the decisions to change things to benefit him. Being tormented as a child is one of the worst things that a child can cope with in life. Some can cope more than others but they're not ment to, they haven't learnt all the skills of life yet and they are not suppose to of, that's why we're there to teach and guide them, our love is what teaches them confidence to live life for them. So if you've tried to get the school to listen, maybe tried talking to the parents of the bullies and tried at home with your own support and nothing is working, then cut him a break and change schools, doing your homework first and finding out their polocies on bullying. Kids learn first from the home, if you can own the problem and show some back bone dealing with it then that's where he'll learn pride for himself. You don't have to put up with it any longer and either does he. You're not running away, you have tried and it didn't go to your expectations so you go to plan B. Unfortunately we can't solve all the bully problems but you can save your son he should be your only concern not the kids bullying, as that is now the schools problem and who would want their child going to a school like that, they don't deserve him. Teach people to appreciate him and that he doesn't deserve any less, good luck. Lauren