Messages By: enjoyurday

 It is not easy for anyone with any kind of eating disorder to just say okay I am going to stop. It is all part of how one is feeling. There are so many eating disorders but not eating because one feels "fat" can cause  a lot of pain due to so many reasons.

       I am surprised she is not dead, too. She does need a lot of help but it is not always easy for one to want the help. I think in back of their minds they do. It is sad they can't have children if their body is too far gone with this disorder.

     Yes, men, do have eating disorders, but it seems to be spoken more about women. Too many people also have eating disorders but it is not always due to Anorexic. In this case it is. I wish this young woman a lot of luck and hope she can get the help she needs. It is not just DR Phil getting her the help, but her family, too which they are trying to do.

        It is a very scary situation for anyone to go through this. I hope she will be able to find the support she needs.

  I guess the crown gets in the way of this family. This woman wants something that maybe she never could have in her childhood, so it makes her feel good to have a crown with sparkles and diamonds on it. She does need to be more responsible in her life with her family. They do have Mrs America, but she sounds very obsessed with this crown.

         If she ever got sick believe me, she would not be on stage prancing around in her outfits. A heart attack is a serious thing and believe me, the people who run the pagents would not allow her to be on stage. Her DR would not allow her to do such a thing by being in these pagents.

          I believe she wants attention in some sort of way and she feels she can get it by doing this. I wish they did not have these pagents because it causes a lot of pain to the families. I am sure when little girls do go to pagents, it is the mother who wants it for the child not the child wanting it.

Take care of your family and yourself. That is the most important

 Not everyone is Christian who reads these boards or believes in Jesus Christ. I think anyone who reads these messages should pray for the woman if they feel the need to pray for her regardless of their faith/religjon. Believing in Jesus Christ is a personal thing for a lot of people and what I believe may not have anything to do with what you believe in. I pray for this girl because I believe she can get the help she needs not because of any religion or faith.

        This woman has a lot of problems due to many things. She wants the help and the only way to get the help is for her to reach out and get it with support. She also needs to pray for herself which is important, too. No matter what she believes in, it is none of our business about her faith.

          I am tired of people saying anyone who is Christian pray for this girl. People will pray for her regardless.

 Thank you very much.

 Hi:

  I have seen shows like this before about women and their crowns. I watch the beauty pagents at times and yes, they do have a platform. Many do help children if that is their platform or do other kind of work to help people.

     People want the glitz and galmmer in their lives. Why not, but if it is going to distrupt the family life, then how can they work with their family to make it better for themselves? The many women on the show wanted to be in pagents to make themselves feel better. There was even a plus size woman as she called herself who was in pagents. The media only seems to show thinner people doing pagents, but if people who are plus size and want to do it, why not. It is not about only the crown, but it is about how one feels about themselves.

     The dresses and accessories cost a lot of money, too. It is not a shopping spree. These pagents are a serious thing for these people. Even the little girls who are in pagents have to wear clothing and make up. What do the little girls get out of it all? Maybe it makes them feel good, too. I think low self-esteem might help boost some people's esteem, too by doing this. It sure seemed like it with the women I was watching on the show. I did watch the show.

    I never was in a pagent and don't think I would want to be. There is too much pressure as it is. I am not tal enough anyway, so they would not accept me. Ahhhh...do you ever see pagents for women who are under the height requirement? I have not. They don't have pagents for people who are under 5 ft 4 in. Maybe they should. They might want to win a crown.

  I am sorry to hear about you and having Bipolar. It is not easy. You can certainly learn how to control the eating through getting support.. It takes one day at a time and with support, it can be done. I am not saying it is an over night thing. For people who have anorexia, it takes a long time to get healed and for any one who has any kind of difficulty. They, too, need sipport. It is not always easy to support yourself, but getting the help one needs is important.

       You were very open about being  Bipolar. Many people suffer from that and don't even know they have it. Food can comfort people, but what about people who have anorexia? How are they comforted with eating? I don't think anyone knows. Do they? I don't. I just feel bad for them because they do want to live a "normal" life and are suffering.

There is a difference between spanking VS Time Out. No child should be hit by any teacher or authority in the schools. Even parents hit too much at times thinking it is okay. What does this teach? Time out seems to work for many kids and they think about what they did. A lot of kids get sent to the prinipal's office or detention after school.

  I bet parents don't respect their children and these teachers as well don't have respect sometimes for the kids. I know full handedly about this as 2 of my teachers had no respect for me at all. I was appauld. I am sure they are old   and retried by now. This was over 40 years ago.

   What does spaning teach?  What does it really teach? Nothing. Parents hit sometimes out of their frusttation. Yes, they are human, too, and when the kid kicks back, the parent wonders where thye learned it from. A little honor to the child just as the parent wants honor, too. it works both ways.

Hittig with a wooden spoon or a belt on a child or anyone is abuse. How can you say you were not abused? Get real. You hit your kids with wooden spoons and thought that was okay? Uh huh, I see why you did this because it is a cycle that was not broken at all and could have been. Abuse is a cycle. Verbal abuse, too, is abuse and most won't recognize that. You think there is a time and a place for a kid to get hit with wooden spoons or belts or whatever it is that parents hit with?

  I am not saying I was never hit and yes, that is abuse ot me. Feelings get hurt and believe me, mentally it does not do a person good.

   I feel sorry for you that you got hit with wooden spoons, but I feel more sorry for your parents because they were abusers and it seems they did not care about their actions. If the child deserves it, it should be done. Oh my GOSH. What about the parent who does not even respect their child? What should a child do? Maybe hit back to see how it feels.

People say a whooping will do the job with kids. One big smack does not do anything for a child but make the child feel worse. Did you get a good spanking when you were little? Did it help you in anyway? How did it make you feel if you got hit all the time? Hitting does nothing for people. It brings on more anger and violence.

           Now, go ahead, whoop your child so  your child will not be a brat and will be a perfect little angel. It does not work that way because no  one is perfect, but no one should get whooped either. Kids can hit back, too. After a while, kids can't take it any more either even if they are brats or not. No wonder kids act the way they do. Look what the parent is doing to them. What are they showing them? The parents are showing things to kids to make them act that way. How sad, but true. One smack is not going to make it go away. Life goes on doesn't it?

That is great about your parents raising 15 children. It certainly is not easy doing that. It seems as if they had everyone in line or most of the time. No one is perfect of course and  I am sure each child had their moment. I also think with that many children, each child helps each other in many ways as they learn from each other, too.

   Each family is different. We don't know what when on in your home, but I am sure it was pretty fun having all those siblings. I do hope these children on the show will be okay.

         Parents teach, children learn. Children teach and parents learn. It certainly goes hand in hand in a house hold.

Hate is a very stong word to use I think. Hating someone who you don't even know is even worse. I have no idea what this family is going through anyway. We just see what goes on TV and not in the home. They show what they want us to see on TV. I did not see the show on Monday but the way people are talking about Noah, there seems to be a lot of problems in this family. I think they all need a good therapist to talk to. Maybe they will get the help they need. It takes the whole family to be involved in whatever is going on with this family.

    Hate means to me a lot of anger towards someone. Are you angry with Noah or his actions?