Messages By: minken81

Hi, I really like to wathc the shows, with the abuse stuff 

My father is also an alcoholic and when I was 9 years old, my mother, brother and me, came on a krisescenter and he got an destraingorder against us.. he treathen our lifes and much more... ist a very long story... 

About 6 years ago I looked him up by a visit to see for myself who he was, and 2 month later he acused me to steal from him, and I havent had any contack with him since... 

Because of the dipressions I have i writes poems, and once i wrote a poem about him, and i gor enough and send it to him and i was so releived for me to send it to him, cause it is impotent for me for him to know how I feel for him, what angry and bitter I am on him and i just wish him dead som me and my family can get som peace in our souls 

So for all the abusers out there: please get som help, like dr.phil is saying, for your own, and for your family and kids sake, cause if you dont, you kids may become to hate you later in life, like i hate my own father... let them know that its not their fault that  you have become an abuser.. that is a wish i wish my dad had said to me, instead Im going around thinking.. maybe if I had said something to him, when I was a kid, he would not be so bad a drunker today, but on the other hand like dr phill is saying... the kids is kids and its not their job, to fix their parents problem.. 

Good luck.... 

Love Anna 

I dont mind woman breast feeding ther children... and if people dont like it, they schould look the other way around... The babys have to get something to eat when they are hungry... 

When i get my own children oneday, i will not breastfeed them infront of my family or friends, only when its  my husbund and myself, cause Im not comftible enough to show my breast in front of people, but that im doing for my own comfort sake and not others, and so it should be visa versa, people schould do what they are comftible with and if other people dont like it, then its their problem in that situation in my apinion 

Love Anna 

Hi i jus saw this show today, here in Denmark, I guess we are 5 month behind you shows in America, anyway... 

HOW NAIV CAN SHE BE??? 

She was then the other woman he had on the site, in his last married, and then she thinks he will not do it to her ohh my god... I couldnt do that to an other person, be the other woman, cause if he did it to her, he will do it again and think of all de deseases he is hanging around sleeping with all those women 

Once a cheater, always a cheater in my apinion, I couldnt  live with such a man! 

Love Anna 

I really feel for you... 

I know the feeling, well I mean I have never had the sickness anorexia, but i often hear that I schould be so lucky to be so skinny as I am, because I can eat and eat and est, and not gain a weight all my life... 

But it hurts me to hear that I look like a ice stick, that to say to a heavy person, that she or he looks like an elephant... 

After I started on medications one year ago, because Ive got the diangonse ADD and koncentrations disorter I had gain 5 kg, so now I am 55kg, before i couldnt get over the 50kg, I amso happy, that finaly I can gain weight, and fit my jeans without wearing a belt... 

My mother have weihgt 120kg, and lost 45kg on a ½ year.. I am so proud of her... Now we only need my brother to gain weight. he is so skinny that you can se his shoulder blades, but he have the same problem as I that he cant get weight.. I guess its because our father is very skinny so I guess we have it from him... 

I really hope, you get the help and get well, and I know its is hard, because the ignorence, people have, and is talking behind your back 

I didnt saw the show yet, cause here in denmark the show is  ca ½ year behind, so thats why my messeage might seam weird to some of you... 

But get helt, and get well.. I wish you good luck, from all my heart and hope to see how youre doing, when Dr.Phill is giving a follow up to the show, that have just been, så I can sit and cry infront of the tv with happiness and be so proud of you, for coming such a long hard way, that you have done to be well 

I really hope the best for you... 

Lot's of thourghts from Anna, Denmark 

Ps. dont mind my spelling.. I am really better of speeking english, that I am writing it :S