Messages By: dynas2001

I wouldn't be suprised if charlies diary was completely correct about her. I know a few ladies who don't look manipulative and who look like proper ladies but during certain times in their life had plenty of "cheating" affairs. My own mother used to leave me at the house while she went out drinking with her boy friends and she seems a great deal like bonnie.  I would describe my mother is seasonal bipolar too (where she used to get depressed and get stir crazy over the winter and be almost un-bearable to live with).

I can imagine there is lots of bias in a personal diary in the document he wrote, but i do not doubt it was truthful.  I am NOT suprised a court judged against him for writing it too, if she is a great liar and the jury didn't even bother reading the document.

It was not clear that he mass produced the document and sent it to everyone.  He may have sent it to her and the school when asked. I wish they had of went into a bit more detail about that on the show.  How many copies did he send it to. Who did he send it to.

as far as aids, I believe he said her boyfriend had aids and she has been "exposed" to HIV.  I don't agree with sending the note everywhere but if she was that disgusting of a person she deserves to be exposed. She also sent out those flyers too (which they even showed in the show). I doubt all those people are lieing although one never knows. I caught my X cheating and she lied right up unto the point I played the tapes of her lieing to all her friends and talking to her boyfriend on the phone about their afair. Some people lie lie and lie, and then lie some more. 

It would have been great had they have played the security camera feed of her threatening that lady with a bat. She probably still would have denied it.

haha.. why is this ok to say yet when a man does it, it's horrid?

THis is like on Ophra today when the wife said she tried to knock out her husbands teeth after she caught him and the audience all cheered and clap for her. Are you KIDDING ME! Nothing gives a woman or man the right to strike you. Do you think if a man said he slapped his wife when she caught her the audience would cheer? No? Don't tell me it's because a man is bigger. THat is a cop out. Striking someone has little to do with size.

I have to agree somewhat. You do have to choose to be happy and work at it, but ever person had needs and it is my opinion that the main reason people stray is these needs not being fulfilled. This doesn't mean once in a while, but over a long period of time having your needs not met. Each person has different needs. When I got married our minister went over all this stuff and explained it very clearly and I have to agree.  My last girl friend cheated on me, but I was not completely faultless. I worked too much, and did't pay enough attention to her. So some other guy came in and did and before I knew it, I had lost my children and my to be wife and of course the house and everything in it. I did get to part with all the bills though (that was great :) ).  Anyway I learned my lesson and I don't think my wife will ever stray unless i ignore her.

That being said,there is a point where you are not pumping out the "LOVE" hormone and people can be influenced by outside parties.  I think men in general can be TAKEN by a women no matter what if she takes the time to keep working on him.  It's hard to imagine a situation where the man couldn't get away, but eventually a man will give in.. I am sure DR Phil would too if he were unable to escape and she kept working on him.

I think both were a little loonie, but i believe charlie. If Dr Phil wanted to really show the trueth, he could have dug into the store security camera or looked for the aid's section in the papers.  Charles may need help but bonnie needs to help more.  He is just a stuborn immature guy and I think he knew he wouldn't get a fair shake in court or on Dr Phil.  He did act foolish though, but I believe him. I know a few people like bonnie. 

I wish Dr. Phil had actually gotten to the TRUTH.  So what he kept a diary. It wasn't even clear in the show if he distributed it to piles of people or just a few.  Nothing was answered.  You can't say he must be wrong because a jury said he was wrong, because the courts are FAR from flawless. The poor guy didn't even have a lawyer.

It's funny, but some of the things said in the show remind me of what my parents said about each other when I was a kid. My mother walking hand in hand with her lawyer into court. My father not having a lawyer. The judge had decided the case before my father got a chance to speak.  I was sent with my mother,  mean while she was just like Charlie claims Bonnie was. She had REAL mood swings based on wheather. She would get stressed out and just leave me alone and when she remarried my step father had to deal with those crazy mood swings every winter. By the end of the winter you had to walk on egg shells.

Anyway I wish the truth had come out  AND both parties moved on, but I believe charlie just based on my own experience with some people.  I'd love to be proven wrong though. Some will just lie and lie and lie no matter how much proof you have and women get away with MURDER and just about everything else in western society.

His body language was childish. I know a few grown men like that, especially if you put them in a situation they think they can't possibly get a fiar shake in. 

I seem to recall from the show that he said her boyfriend had aids and she had been exposed to HIV which wasn't a lie. He could have been telling the truth about every little thing in that book.

I know a guy who recorded his wifes affair and was going to mail that to her church. Had it not been recorded and he simply wrote down that he caught her it would be LIBEL? It could be the truth.

Either way the guy seriously acted imature. I don't know how I would act up on stage like that myself. I would probably turn beat red and lock up and look like a lune myself.

Good post. I agree.

I have noticed Dr. Phil is almost always hard and negative towards men on his show. I don't know if this comes from his fans being mostly women or what. Even shows where a guy is up there and he is obviously the victum, I can not help but wonder had the genders been reversed what would happen.

3)  Especially if he divorces you and marries the other woman!!!  You can get at him where it hurts--his finances--through her.  BTW, during the divorce, get a good lawyer, so you and your children are not left high and dry financially.  If you have been married for many years, or even if you have no children, he still owes you.  Suing her will get him, and she'll think twice before she goes with another married man, especially in a state that has that law on the books.

This crap right here has to stop. It has to stop being promoted on TV, Radio and everywhere else.  Vengful women going after money is way too acceptable. Women beating men is way too acceptable in this society. You can not be trusted to be rational in a break up after a statement like this. You are an abuser of the family law system and an abuser in general.

I am a bit confused by people getting upset about spanking. I personally have spanked and would spank again if it was a very very serious thing that could not be tolerated even once.  I have only done it a few times. I use the corner constantly and that seems to do the trick (although In my situation where they get none at their moms, they seem to hate coming to my house and being put in the courner constantly).

In nature animals always use external force to disipline.  I think it's the very simplest form of disipline and should not be taken away from parents as a tool. YES i agree there are better ways, but if it comes down to parents having no disipline in the house and spanking I take spanking. I know plenty of kids growing up who had NONE and did the most horrid things when I was visiting. Saying the f word to their parents and so on. Where as I was spanked, and I respected (possibly feared my mother) but I don't love her any less. She worked with what she knew, and I am glad she gave me displine. She did tend to go a bit overboared, but was a single mom and they tend to go overboard more anyway.

Anyway I don't think people should absolutly wipe out spanking as a form of disipline. It works in nature. It's the simplest form of it and it's better then nothing which is what a great deal of kids are getting now.  I am all for educating parents on how to do it other ways though!  I don't get why in HIGH SCHOOL there isn't a manditory parenting class. I really wish I had known a few things when I had my daughter not that I ever had to spank her. Just my boy a few times.

Oh that is sad.  I think children of that age should not have a choice until they are maybe about 12 or so.

I learned in the for the sake of the children course that children often say one thing to one parent and another to the other. So perhaps your son is saying this because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings?

Why doesn't he want to go? Does he rationalize a reason or is it that there are no toys and stuff at his dads? I think your son deserves to have a relationship with his father. My X let my kids NOT come to see me a few times and it just about breaks my heart, and then when I do have them and got ot ake them home they cry and say they don't want to go home and that just about breaks my heart.  Anyway my opinion is that you should sent your son to spend time with his father until he is of an older age.