Messages By: dynas2001

I think the entire thing is rediculous. The mother should be ashamed of herself! Unfortunately its the child that ends up getting hurt the most, however i could only imagine how devistating it must have been to find out that the women you loved betray your trust, and duped you into fathering a child that was concieved during an affair. The biological father should be hunted down and made aware that he has a child. The biological father should be held financially responsible. However the man who raised the child should be held emotionally responsible for the child. Meaning he should continue to love and care for the child emotionally, but should NOT be held financially responsible.

How rediculous is this notion to begin with. Why should someone be punished for anothers descretions. If you cheat and become pregnant, you owe it to your spouse and yourself to be honest from the beginning. But more so you OWE IT TO YOUR CHILD to tell the truth! No matter how ashamed or guilty you feel, it can only get worse when the truth reaches the surface. And by then its too late!

2 years after 2 children were born, 2 different women left my son a message and served him a summons that they needed his DNA.

For these 2 years, these women repeatedly denied my Son was the Father of these children and in fact he questoned these women repeatedly, because of the strong resemblance, they kept saying another man was their Father.

My son was taken to court, tested and after these beautiful children were already 2 1/2 years old, found he was indeed the Father of both children.  My son and our family feel cheated out of knowing these babies, they have Granparents that aren't theirs and now they are devestated, they have Grandparents they had never met that missed out on the most important loving, bonding time, in their life, and now they are so confused.  

The court ruled that my son was to pay 2 1/2 years back child support on both children or go to jail. I had to come up with thousands of dollars very quickly because he was deemed a deadbeat Dad even though these women obviously KNEW there was the possibiity that my Son was the childrens Father.

There was no recourse. There has to be justice, this is devestating to so many Families.

 I have recently lost my only son to a motorcycle accident and that is  why I am speaking out for him. He did get to see them a few times after we found out, but these children barely got to know their REAL Father before he died. The Mothers brought the chldren to the Funeral parlor where they were told that was their Father  lying in a coffin, what a terrible thing they have done to these children. 

These woman have now run right to social security to collect the benefit, which they will receive  a good amount of money monthly. I don't begrudge that they will receive help, I am happy for them and will help however I can, they are my Grandchildren.

I was angry that My son and I were cheated from knowing about these most beautiful children for those years.

Something has to be done and shame on the Attorney for saying what she is doing is right. How can she live with herself?

I guess that Gloria Allred touched a lot of nerves.  You make a very valid point.  For years we have dogged after dead beat dads.  This appears to be the other side of the coin.  It is equally immoral to me.   If it is true that 30% of births involve paternity fraud (which seems high) then certainly for the sake of the children we should not allow fraud to cause the pain it caused here.  Legislators will need to work on that.  If Dr. Phil has a follow up maybe he should pick a different attorney.  You think? 

Kathy

The reason this word is still used is because it is acceptable somewhere.  If we want to eliminate the word, it must not be used at all, by anyone.  I for one would never use the word, my parents taught me back in the 50's never to use the word.  My parents taught me not to judge others based on anything other than their character.  I believe my parents taught me well.  I am "white."

I abhor the N word, along with many other words I frequently hear in society.  Why these words are used to get a point across is beyond me. 

We can't change history .  Slaves were brought to this country, and they were treated poorly.  Early Americans used slaves in ways slaves had never been used in other countries at the time.  Wthy was this allowed to go on at all?  Because it was deemed at the Vatican that blacks (Africans) did not have souls and that is why they could be used and abused like animals.  Why is that piece of history so obsure?  I don't blame my race for bringing slaves to America, I blame religion. 

 As for how I got to America?  I was born here, the same as black Americans were born here and are American citizens.  I had nothing to do with my ancestors decision to make the trip to America.  It was the luck of the draw, I suppose.  My ancestors came from Denmark, and had they stayed in Denmark, I would have been Danish instead.  My ancestors did not arrive untl after the Civil War, so I'm quite sure they had nothing to do with bringing slaves to America.

This is where the debate becomes offensive to me.  I had nothing to do with bringing slaves to America, and my ancestors did not have anything to do with the slave issue.  I believe slavery was a horrible thing, I cringe to think people were actually treated in the way slaves were treated.  This is a piece of history that cannot be ignored.  It should be studied and it should never be repeated.

Back to the issue.  Name calling by anyone is hurtful.  If we want to live in a peaceful society, name calling must end.  Hurtful words are hurtful.  There is no justification in perpetuating this behavior by anyone. The language in rap songs is the main reason I do not listen to rap music.  I like the beat, I don't like the words.

It would be wonderful if this debate could end forever and humans could move on.  It seems it would benefit the world in general if we could work towards peace.