Messages By: mommyblues

Quote From: lsgunter

I am newly engaged of about 3 months and I'm 20 years old.  Many of my friends are also getting engaged and getting married.  I am very worried that my generation isn't taking marriage very seriously in the sense that they have no plan - they just want to "live on love."  I think it's great that they have that passion and commitment, but I believe marriage is entering into sharing your entire life with a person which includes finances, jobs, and religion, among others.  Many of my friends don't have any financial plan or even full-time jobs.  Because so many marriages end in divorce especially over financial problems, it really scares me for them.  My fiance and I have already started to map out our budget for when we get married in about 10 months, and it really makes me feel a lot more secure that we have a plan.  I know this doesn't ensure that we won't encounter money problems, but I do feel like it is more preventative than doing nothing.  This could be a big concern of mine because I'm in school to be a marriage and family therapist, but does anyone else share my fear for society's lack of seriousness concerning marriage?

Quote From: ari_djsmom

I would not drop anyone, especially like THAT! that's is immature, rude and very mean. Would it break your heart if you were left like that, because the last time I checked men are human too and they also have feelings. 

  

So, here's my take on this one... 

Sit down and talk to him, it never hurts, how do you think I got engaged, I have no ring, we have the date set both families and our friends know. Sure I would LOVE to have a ring too, I even showed him one I like but he says he won't buy it for me because it doesn't cost as much as the promise ring I already were everyday. 

Talking helps a lot of problems in relationships. Talk about everthing, never hold back how you feel. Look at me I have been with my fiance for 11 years (since I was 15) and we're still together. WE TALK.  There is no running away, no immature BS. Just talk whene there is a problem. It doesn't hurt, and like my fiance always says, "it doesn't hurt to ask". I hope this helps you.