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November 16, 2005, 6:23 pm PST
 Quote From: wounded I am a stay-at-home mom of 2 small children. My husband has been cheating on me for over a year now and although he knows I know about it and am hurt by it, he continues the affair. I have tried everything to keep this marriage together because I truly believe that is best for the kids. However, I have finally come to a piont where I just want out. The hurt, anger, bitterness, resentment, etc. that I feel is overwhelming and I just need to be out of the marriage. The huge problem that I have is that I am broke. We are financially very tight anyway and whatever money isn't used on bills my husband takes for himself. He says it's his because he makes the money. I have absolutely no money to move out or see a lawyer to begin the divorce process. Does anyone out there have any suggestions or know of a place where I can get free or low cost legal counsel? Please help!!! Hello, I am also a woman of a recent enough divorce, I am also a very resourceful lady,who has had to find her own threw many adversaties,Divorce was one of them, I sympathize with you and your current situation; I to had 'Literally given up everything' I got the shaft in our divorce,He got it all. I did find my way threw all the heartaches and the empty pocket book,threw all the major,& minor set backs life can throw at us ladys.Then I picked up my local (phone book) an began calling attorney's for help an guidence in gaining information about "FREE Volunteer legal clinics" in my area? No not all of them were polite or even helpful but most of them where,You need to know "I am not a quitter either",I hope you are not either,Never give up on yourself or your kids. then I also began calling my local (governmental & state agencies)Here to I got even more help! an guidence.There is also help for Houseing,food,clotheing for families in your position,as well; you just need to get in touch with your local (Welfare or General assistance offices), they to can help you. The can also furnish you with help in gaining the information you will need to get your divorce at little or even NO COST TO YOU, threw your local volunteer legal clinics, or free legal services in your area. Hey its out there. Yes it takes "time and effoorts on your part, with lots of paper work too" So if your "SERIOUSE" its free,its out t here I hope I have helped you? I know and you can do it. Good luck with your Divorce, have a divorce party for your self once your threw with your divorce, and have a good new life,with a "brighter future for you and your children" Sincerly a lady who has been there done that,Heartbolts. bye for now. |
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November 16, 2005, 7:43 pm PST
Quote From: cimberly68 I want to thank everyone who helped bring this subject to life. It was comforting to know that I'm not the only woman who has experienced this. Even though I have been divorced 3 yrs and have married a wonderful man, not a day goes by that I don't have feelings of guilt and worthlessness. I was married to a man who controlled me with a velvet glove. A coward that wanted to have his cake and eat it too. Still I blame myself with the "what if" and "if only I". I cry almost everyday, hinden and all alone because if my shame. How do we as woman allow ourselves to become so depended on a man. Why do we allow these men to define our self worth? How can we learn to brake free from all these feelings and become self confident? I thank Dr. Phil for help me start to learn to tell myself..."It was not my fault." Well Hello "I to was very touched" by this second part of the wifes club show. I had to come on-line to get the first part of this wifes club show. I am glad I did to, I feel there were messages for me, like you felt there were messages for you to. You can ,and you will "learn how to break free from those unhealthy binds you have " Because really you can already do for your self. You are already taking the necessary steps you need to; to begin breaking free from your husband, from him doing all of your thinking an feeling for you. You sound like a strong, wise, intelligent spirit. You'll find your way. I don't really share alot of myself with people,"I do know trying to handle some thigns alone is not always the healthy way to go" so I am going to (take a chance and share a little to). I am a survivor of a "Horrible tragic past" one where I was sexually,Physically, menatlly abused for way to many years. By none other then "my father,his brother,and way to many other family mambers as well" even some non family members. "Somehow?? I have gotten here, Somehow I have gotten threw? I have come to know, threw this couple "my SAINTS Doctor Phil and Robin". Whom even though I know, I will never get a CHANCE at meeting or at being able to get Some REAL HELP from". I am O.K.with this, sad but o.k. Also "I am happy to know " that there is a show I can tune to; too get some "VERY SMALL TID BITS OF HELP & KNOWLEDGE" from. Of which I have been useing in my life to the best of my abilities.For this show I am truely greatful as I can be. I even bought one of his books,called self matters. Now getting back to how touched I was from your letter, and feel compelled to share a bit with you I would like to say, If I can get threw this tragic past of mine some how?Then you can to.I am also like you; most of the time I to am very much alone. Also I would like to say feel free to e-mail me, who knows maybe we can help each other , maybe we will become friends? As I was saying I have had ssome really bad things happen,and untill yesterday i to carried what i felt was the "biggest load of guilt on the planet!" plus I carried so "very much shame,and anger to that I felt i had the planet on my shoulders and in my heart just dragging it around, for all these years.. Then when I saw the "look in doctor Phils eyes,I could tell he was being real" in his phlight to help Holley, I felt as though i to were standing before him, I cried my eyes out as he spoke and told her she "IS NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR Waht her parents were suppose to be responsible for' I harbored so much guilt because I could NOT STOP THOS EVIL !@#$%^&*()_ WHO were rapeing my little brothers and sisters, I fought as hard as I could, ach and every time though. I carried all of this guilt and shame, and garbage for all these years. Yet as I watched him,listened to him,I felt that just "KNOWING I AM NOT GARBAGE! that NONE of this stuff was MY FAULT OR RESPONSIBILITY, KNOWING I AM NOT A DIRTY, NASTY PERSON! who had better never cry out loud WHO was always so fearful of Men of peoples to" Was eye and heart opening,For me to! i still will cry I am sure; because of (such a revelation to my tired spirit and mind, to know) all of this; is "GREAT!" I hung on those words he spoke to her to. I wish I could of "hugged" Doctor Phil, and Robin. I could see Robin too was "BEING VERY REAL" I thank God as I prayed last night for these two wonderful people, I hope some day to be that "Bright, happy, peaceful productive,lady I was also meant to be?" I hope this for you too. I know I don't need twenty years of theraphy, any more then Holley did, so yeah I was touched. Remember you are not alone, I am here with you, I also tune in to Doctor Phil & Robin "MOST everyday". Remember to my friend, God did not! put any of us here! to be "IN ANY WAY VERBALLY ABUSED, PHYSICLLY ABUSED, OR SEXUALLY ABUSED"he did not put us here to allow us to be lost,while someone else dictates our lifes and emotions either. God doesn't make junk! You are worthy of "FORGIVEING YOURSLF" Of loveing yourself your family,your friends, and of being all you can be for yourself, once you in fact find yourself again.Just like you are doing today in your journey to break free from those unhealthy bonds of ependencies you had with your exhusbands. I to am finding out so much about myself these days too with the help, from these tid bits of information, I do gain from watching doctor phil. You can, and YOU WILL LEARN"HOW TO STAND ON YOUR OWN" Just like I to will learn this valuable lessons, we are going to be fine, You just keep looking up, looking to your heart for those right answers and you can call on me if you like or tune in to doctor Phil like i do. I to feel so alone at times I feel as tough the walls are closeing in, its at these times you should NOT REMAIN ALONE, Get on line, call a realtive or friend, then talk about your self, about how your feeeling,Soon that lonelieness will fade away. Family & friends can be a 'GREAT SUPPORT to have, they can be the BEST of medicines for a lonelie spirit,Lonlieness is only a stae of mind they say. well I am going to close here for now, I hope I have helped to boost your spirits somehow. I hope you make it on your new journeys in your life too. Take good care of yourself, an your family, they are a becon of light in lifes darkest of hours, and there love is your strength when your feeling you cannot go on. Sincerly a new friend Heartbolts. Hey You have a "HAPPY SAFE THANKSGIVING" Bye for now. |
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December 8, 2005, 3:39 pm PST
Quote From: mombacchi I understand the sisters who were molested by their stepfather, my younger sister and I also were molested by our stepfather. The molestation becomes much harder to deal with when the molester is the father of your siblings. My sister and I have a brother who is fifteen and a sister who is fourteen, both are (and were) too young to understand the pain my we've all experienced because of these terrible "dysfunctions" everyone was subjected to. It's a terrrible feeling to feel as if your brother or sister defends their father after that man stole from you things which can't be replaced and replaced them with memories that are difficult if not impossible to erase. But I am truly happy to hear about the reconciliation of the sisters because family is the most precious thing one can have. If anyone is reading this and hadn't spoken out about sexual or any type of abuse PLEASE DO IT, if not for YOUR GOOD, do it to protect another... I waited too long and the molestor struck again, my little sister. I too can relate to a certain type of childhood molestations,rapes,all of the abuses one can imageine,I am one of thoses lost kids, I am however, still trying to get my self healed and move on, "But! I AM STILL SO FULL OF ANGER AT THESE INDIVIDUALS I CAN BARELY SEE STRAIGHT UNLESS I AM MEDICATED< SELF MEDICATED< BEcause I cannot simpley afford the real HELP I HAVE ALWAYS NEEDED< I have written to Dr.Phil to,his wife, kinda begging for some help, I have learend and grown a few baby steps from watching his program, an I would almost give anything to get this help I know so many of us need from him, or from his wife. I hope for you an all of us whom do "STILL SUFFER" WHOM ARE STILL BEING RAPED! FROM the scars of the Nightmares an of the abuses we have had to endure, I truely hope before we pass into the next life, we can all be healed, sincerly a woman still struggleing,and still hopeing to make all of them pay somehow/ Someday..Stay strong, and hang on for dear life to your faiths and inner strengths, when anger comes find a punching bag.Good day |
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December 8, 2005, 4:10 pm PST
Quote From: heartbolts I too can relate to a certain type of childhood molestations,rapes,all of the abuses one can imageine,I am one of thoses lost kids, I am however, still trying to get my self healed and move on, "But! I AM STILL SO FULL OF ANGER AT THESE INDIVIDUALS I CAN BARELY SEE STRAIGHT UNLESS I AM MEDICATED< SELF MEDICATED< BEcause I cannot simpley afford the real HELP I HAVE ALWAYS NEEDED< I have written to Dr.Phil to,his wife, kinda begging for some help, I have learend and grown a few baby steps from watching his program, an I would almost give anything to get this help I know so many of us need from him, or from his wife. I hope for you an all of us whom do "STILL SUFFER" WHOM ARE STILL BEING RAPED! FROM the scars of the Nightmares an of the abuses we have had to endure, I truely hope before we pass into the next life, we can all be healed, sincerly a woman still struggleing,and still hopeing to make all of them pay somehow/ Someday..Stay strong, and hang on for dear life to your faiths and inner strengths, when anger comes find a punching bag.Good day I "Want you to know I HAVE TRIED ALL THE RESOURCES OUT THERE" Includeing my parent,whom did not molest me: and even writeing to americas most wanted in my early 20s, to try to get these Monsters brought in to the light to face there accusations,to face the facts that they had raped 4,out of 6,of us kids. I never got a response to my letter. NO ONE WOULD HELP! NO ONE! an if they would listen! to us kids "it would be just that! Listen. NO ONE EVER HELPED AT ALL!" So the years have come and gone, after 20 more years" "again my father struck, my two yongest nieces! I caught him by the throat,only to ave my sister stopme! The same sister who found him out,that he had raped two of her girls! then 4,more years pass: again recently a man, whom isnt even a part of the (family group of rapeist,& childmolesters), had molested and raped my granddaughter! Thia way my undoing,I have fallen from my faiths my graces, myself! I feel at times life is a big nightmare,which will not stop! No matter what I do,or whom I speak with on a non-professional,or a professional level."THEY ONLY GAVE HIM 8,YEARS!for rapeing an molesting my granddaughter!" I am still fumeing mad! I feel I have the right to be angery,at these molesters,an rapeist our system seems to just keep aiding! I Still haveing strong feelings that this ONGOING LIVEING BREATHING NIGHTMARE! OF RAPEIST AN MOLESTERS WILL continue to do harm to as many of us as they wish! Because they are constantly just "getting slapped on the wrist", or just giveing counseling then turned loose again to >>>reoffend and they DO!<<< I want HELP alright, Help before I end up either going crazy from all the nightmares or crying to death to escape the "ongoing wreckage these individuels keep putting into my life! into the lifes of those I love an cherish. It's all wrong why on earth do they bilud city's to house these creeps,Prisons to protect them, and programs to help aid then to go back out into OUR SOCIETY AN REOFFEND! Our system is a BIG FAILURE! Which sets up future families to be hurt by these individules,its so wrong. I am soooooooooo very tired. I feel I have a right to be angery, I also feel i have a right to be heard,an healed,as well as those who have been injured by all these monsters. I feel if I don't get some help soon, again I am going to just stay sad an angery, I know I have gotten a few tid bits of help from this Doctor Phil show, but "GOD KNOWS AN I KNOWS I NEED More, I long so deepily to just have a "NORMAL" Normal Life free from monsters whom ruien our lifes so much, I hope for you, that someday you to can find the peaces of mind and of Spirit we all deserv. Good day an GOD BLESS, Sincerly still struggleing,Me. |
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December 8, 2005, 4:45 pm PST
Quote From: anothervio Doctor Phil is not the only therapist in the world. There are lots of good ones who specialize in the same things he does. Even Dr Phill calls in different Psycologists on his staff. Go in your yellow pages and call someone, or call CPS, or your welfare department. If you have medical insurance, call you insurance company and see who works with them or talk to your PCM and ask for a referral or advice. Ask a friend or parent for help if they are around and supportive. Help is available, but you need to be doing to work to get it. You aren't alone, but if you stay in that situation and do nothing but wish for a solution to fall out of the sky then you have no one to blame for your problems but yourself. I know that sounds harsh, and my intent isn't to be judgmental, but that is the truth. I have myself been in and out of Physchaiatrist offices,theraphists,an counselers offices, this type of healing an help isnt done in a 30 minute show,it took years for it to happen to some of us and it WILL TAKE YEARS for it to hel, GOOD Theraphists,Phycs's and counselers DON'T COME CHEEP< Not everyone had a money tree in there back yards, an medical cost these days is out rageouse! Good luck in your quest, I hope doctor phil helps you an me! Stay strong and just dont' bite all these judgementel,negative peoples lip services,they are just as they judge onto others, you stay strong an you will find your way,just like I will someday to,Sincerly still struggleing,Me. |
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December 9, 2005, 6:06 pm PST
Quote From: imforgvn You know I get so frustrated at some of you women...I understand that you have been hurt.We all understand that,and most women today can relate to the pain.But don't you realize that you are going to keep on hurting and hurting until you let go of the hurt,the pain ,the anger.Once you have done that you will feel so much lighter.How do you let go of all of those painful feelings?The best way to heal a hurt is to reach out to those who are hurting."But I'm still hurting" you may say to yourself.Trust me ,if you are reaching out to others in your time of pain ,you will recieve your healing.You shall be blessed with a peace that you have never felt before.So before another day goes by start reaching out ,even if it on this website...don't dwell on your pain be compassionate of others.This message was sent with a good heart and a prayer from one woman to another.God loves you .Just open the door to your heart and give it all to him.He won't let you down.W/love ,one sista to another! Hello, I just wanted to thank you for your Message,I know in forgiveing,there is certainley a large amount of healing to be held,to have. It took me a "thousanddeaths! Emotional deaths to "actually even TRY TO BEGIN or even too IMAGINE! forgiveing ALL THE RAPEIST In my family, an in my life. To also KNWO IN MY HEART & SPIRIT TO that "Forgiveing is not condoneing, its "only a part of moveing onto the next level of healing".I have been there,done this. I have not come to this site,because I am a judge,or a holyier then thou person. I am here to SEEK, to FIND A WAY FOR ME, to HEAL and to GROW,(out from under those Nightmares,those scard parts of my heart, an of my spirit, which not only forgiveing will heal,but action, will help heal too.) I know forgiveing is a beginning stage of moveing on,as I have said, I will only forgive myself a thousand times a day, an hour a minute! What ever it takes to get me threw those gray times.I do get threw,I do find my healing powers there waiting for me. I do find healing in forgiveing to,as I should. Thank you. When I was very,very, YOUNG 3,YEAR's OLD: I WAS "RAPED BY MORE THEN THREE FAMILY MEMBERS, AND A FEW "NON FAMILY MEMBERS" TOO! this went on untill I was into my late teens. Just so you r here where I am, just so I am clear. I "simpley WILL NOT! an CANNOT! FORGIVE A CHILD RAPEIST,MOLESTER,PREDATOR I NEVER,EVER WILL! I FEEL THEY SHOULD ALL BE SHOT<Thats why there a death sentence,To bad the system an the peoples who run it an vote on it "DON'T USE IT!". It is NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY TO HAVE TO FORGIVE THOSE MONSTERS, IN THE DARK,IN THE LIGHT OF DAY,in my memories! I feel,I know from experience to,that this job is for that "Someone far greater then me" Who can take on this task.I only keep plugging away at the healing process for MY SELF, AN FOR MY FAMILY, whom were also "torn apart from all the MONSTERS! WHO PREAYED ON US KIDS!" Nor can we ERASE THESE SCARS! or the SPIRITUAL DAMAGE DONE! TO ALL OF US! BY FORGIVEING them, I do my best though to "FORGIVE MYSELF OF THE GUILT,SHAME,INDIGNITIES AN PAINS from those scar's,and of those dammed nightmares "which do still haunt me, no matter what I try!" I do work at the forgiveing parts I know I must work at it,so I do,Thank you again. I know eventually, we will all find our ways threw this seemingly dark maze,we travel at times. I know in "my heart" I must learn,I must keep finding ways too "HELP AID ME IN MY QUEST TO (FINEALLY HEAL) AS MUCH as we all can, "FOR MYSELF for my brothers an sisters who suffered with me; and for those "who do still suffer out there for I KNOW THEY ARE MANY!=Tears fall from my face as I think about this;'Sorry' be right back. I am back. Yeah I DO--- HURT! YEAH I KNOW just HOW TO FORGIVE, AN YEAH! ITS NOT A EASY,FUN RAOD,or process. I just have to believe in myself, in those who I know can love,an those who surrpound me with there love; that All of us, here an out there "WILL GET what they work for at the end of there journeys here on earth! I AM ON THIS JOURNEY to save all of us I can! OTHERWISE I WOULD NOT! "BE IN THIS CAHT ROOM,PLACE; HERE WITH THE DOCTOR PHIL fans an his website to help aid me. FOR I "HAVE LEARNED AND GROWN,FROM HIS SHOW, AND FROM TAKING CHANCES! LIKE I, AM NOW IN SHAREING ON-LINE. I was just trying to relate to the topic(ANGER) an I did,See my anger is a "born anger" not of a personal decison to remain angery,or to blow off stem constructively,but a forced,born anger from a long hard ride!,but anger "VALID ANGER!" which is a big part of our defenes's mechanisim,I have the kind that was forced,just as some of these peoples here ar espeaking of,this is what I am touching on. I guess I just did not quite put it correctly? "SORRY" I must let you all know I am "not here to offend anyone". I also know there are lots of ways to grow,to heal for each of us "WHO SEEKS,Learns an GROWS,AN "DOES FIND HER OR HIS WAY" THREW There DARKEST HOURS,Just as I am. I was also relateing to the three sisters,whom were molested,an raped like me an mine were. We can always find strengths,love,compassion,a good listener,or a person we can definatley relate with, in those around us; whom have traveled roads similuar to ours,I am taking this time to thank you, for you compassion, for your thoughts an your prayers,THANK YOU deepily. Speaking for myself I LOVE haveing others pray for me, I know I pray alot for others,"NO I AM NOT A PREACHER,OR A BIBLE THUMPER, NOR DO I WISH TO BE A HYPROCRIET OR TO PUSH MY BELIEFS ONTO ANYONE! I am "only shareing my thoughts an feelings, my experiences,my hopes, as we all do here", Thanks again for your support, I know someday,I"HOPE IN THESE LIVEING YEARS" (I will be able to afford the help),I am not poor,"But medical costs these days are outrageouse!" I know I need to heal from my "TRAGIC,HORRIBLE PAST" In times I am sure I will. I just want so very much to do this long before (I pass into the next life). Well I am again glad you shared, I am a very compassionate,loveing,careing person,I am also like everyone of us; I have a story to share,one I know somehow,someway! will have a happy ending. For now,just setting the records straight,I am on a journey to get on with my life,but each of us has there own journeys,an each of us has our OWN TIME FRAMES for completeing this journey,in parting I will leave you with an Irish prayer, I am an Irish, indian =SMILES;
"MAY THERE ALWASY BE WORK FOR YOUR HANDS TO DO" "MAY YOUR PURSE ALWAYS HOLD A COIN OR TWO " " MAY THE SUN ALWAYS SHINE ON YOUR WINDOW PANE " " MAY A RAINBOW BE CERTAIN TO FOLLOW EACH RAIN " "MAY MAY THE HANDS OF YOUR FRIENDS ALWAYS BE NEAR FOR YOU " " MAY YOUR SPIRITUAL GUIDES FILL YOU HEART WITH GLADNESS WITH CHEER" " AND UNTILL WE MEET AGAIN MAY OUR GOD HOLD YOU IN THE PALM OF OF HIS HANDS." |
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December 9, 2005, 6:12 pm PST
Quote From: anothervio There is actually Gov't Aid that will cover all or most of the cost of seeing these therapits if you sincerely can't afford it.. I have exsplored these options,but as we all know if you want thereal good HELP,from real good doctors,they are where the money is,"SAD BUT TRUE" I have already tried these roads,and they are all the same,they only help for a little while,the do not help in the way of long term,and there so poorily run,"Most of them" that ones chances for success are slim, Thank you though, I do apperciate your time and concerns. I want you to know I won't give up, I am a good fighter,I had to be.Have happy safe holidays. |
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December 9, 2005, 6:28 pm PST
Hello doctor Phil, I have written a few thing here an there on certain topics on your website. I am still quite new at this e-mailing, chat rooms, and internet ways of communicateing. I will not be left behind! Smiles. I am "hopeing that after almost a year now?" I too can get in on your "Christmas GIVE AWAYS"? Please let me know "how does one play to win?" sincerly a one year old fan! HAPPY,HAPPY HOLIDAYS FOR YOU DOCTOR PHIL & FAMILY. |
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December 22, 2005, 4:42 pm PST
Quote From: Yupi Hey! Im just a teenager but i might know some stuff... u never know lol. I read your post and i think you are such a brave person! It must have been hard for you to forgive and foget about the tuff stuff you hav been through.
I just want to let you know that everyone(at least a lot of people) has a dream or fantasy of who they truly want to be. Some want to be sophisticated, some wants to be at peace with themselves and everyone (which you probably want) Ya and i think we tend to focus too much on the outcome that we start get separated from where you actually are. The road of life isn't about the "outcome", which we say is the true, peaceful feeling and complete joy.
But have you thought about the process. The road to getting there is actually the "fun" or "thrilling" part of the roller coaster. Its not fun to acheive something great if you didn't have fun along the way. okay i know you might be thinking- not everything in life is as fun as you think.
But hear this, "fun" is lauughter, "fun" is pain", "fun" is fear and "fun" is everything about being alive. Also people are not animals who follow intincts- they have choices and they are stronger spiritually in every way. As long as people are alive, they will have obstacles in their lives and most of all- fear. Dealing with it is the bravest.
Forgiving is an amazing and graceful thing to do. It makes you feel loved becasue you feel big and smart afterwards. Besides, Dr. Phil says so!
There is always proofs in our lives that show how strong people are. Not only humans have highest IQ, We also have choices, and that ditinguishes us from animals which follow their instincts.
We're way better than killing and bearing grudges... I know that you hurt a lot but truly u wanna feel better becasue everybody does, no matter how bad they are (murderers, rapers, etc.) no matter how much they deny their conscience they still feel bad and want to feel better.
We heal and we grow, if we want to. - that is, by living in the moment. So get off atuo-pilot and be there before it falshes by you, and be there when you find peacefullness!!!!!(lol I hope its right now!)
Jenny
ps. Your poem is so simple but its so heartwarming. People needs ot see that the simplest things can be uplifting if they just "stop thinking" if you know what i mean. Your shareing of your self with me,Thanks a bunch,I will keep this with me for a long time,new friends are good for us all,an I do know how to stay in the stream of life,I guess this show caught me a bit off gurad,an like anyone who is caught unaware we have a tendancey to fight or flee,I chose as I alwasy do to stay an fight,so i left soem of me here,an I will be o.k. I want you all to HAVE A VERY MERRY HAPPY CHRISTMAS! "Surrounded with those who love you,with all your favorite goodies an presents too,Merry Christmas,an a HAppy new year too! Thanks again for your support,Good day |
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January 10, 2006, 6:34 pm PST
Quote From: jettav well, here in America, marriage is about two people and I as a wife who loves and respects her husband expects the same thing from him as well, I would never ever think about committing adultery for he is the only one I desire and believe it or not, he feels the same and we are happily married going on 13 years and still in love. people who committ adultery are selfish and have issues within themselves, maybe they have a bad relationship with their spouse but adultery is just plain wrong and even though I believe divorce is a cop out, the least these people can do is get out of the marriage before committing the sin called adultery.... Marriage is about two people committing to each other and for one to feel they have the right to break those vows, well, they are wrong and they are only fooling themselves if they believe this is ok. I and my husband are followers of God and as we read His word, we do the best that we can to follow it regardless of what society says is politically correct. I live in America and I expect to be treated with love, respect, dignity and honored by my husbnad and thank God I have that. Any one who feels that they can go out and cheat on their spouse and not feel guilty has no conscience. So, How do you feel about women who cheat on their husbands? I suppose men are so superior that they are the only ones who shouldn't feel guilty and that women are just a piece of property? Get over it, I am my husband's wife and to me I expect faithfulness just as I am faithful to Him. And any one with the love and desire to serve the Lord and to obey HIS commands can keep himself/herself to their spouse only, it is possible and actually very fullfilling, that's if the two of you are really in the marriage to please one another and not give one another reasons to go outside of the marriage. We were created to love and respect one another, exactly why we have marriage, a committment between TWO people, not any one who wants to intrude. Not all of us are pressured into marriage,we are IN LOVE,AND HAPPILY MARRIED!Our America is a strong,wise,and powerful country "not because we are prone to giveing into animal instincts!" as some other counteries,or cultures are prone to! We are a country who is proud to have "Successful marriages"threw out our history,as well as today.We are a country whom "can hang onto marriage because we know for us it is a beautiful committment! where two people whom are "PROUD of the love they have born,really look forward to marrying, whom want to marry to keep the line of this love ongoing,and strong, and proud of the legacy "they will leave behind" two peoples whom will happily take those sacred vows of marriage,and honor it proudley! Peoples in our Americas are not! prone to divorce! or immoral deeds! either! As other cultures,and counteries are prone to.There are peoples who just should NOT MARRY,There are alot of peoples who should not take these sacred vows either. Here is a example of others whom should NOT partake in marriage either. There are a lot of certainTelevision,radio,the internet,and gossip magazines to whom "thrive on bad press,made up stories about failing marriage to who should not marry,who creat a host of media lies,and hype,and fake or make up stories about marriage and the divorce rates.These types are the ones whom creat areas for our innocent peoples "young and old" to fall away from there marriages; all so they "can put a colum in the local papers,on a radio show or a internet site or a television show about these lies they have made up! as well as the made up statics! Even though some peoples fall behind these lies,because of these bad stories fed to them threw some type bad media stories.We are still a country proud of its marriage history,of its love history and of all our moral values to. "You are right my friend LOVE IS ALIVE and Marriage does still stick,in 2006,and forever. Marriage is alive an well in America! Today and always, and for those peoples who want to come over here and make things up,create false stories,write lies about her,or about our country, and try to stop or change our 5000 year old moral values and beliefs system we do have! "I say to you "go back to your country! leave ours ALONE!" If your unhappy here "GO BACK TO YOUR COUNTRY! where you can be happy with all your beliefs! with your cultures.You will never change or BEAUTIFUL HISTORY OF LOVE AN MARRIAGES here! Besides we have "enough of our own gossipers,and trouble makers here. We just don't need this type of "immoral,animal instincts,an disloyalties around us that you speak of here either! Americans are the greatest the strongest for haveing long lasting marriages of all the places in the world,and we are happy and proud to say so,Thanks for your support,and here is mine,for all you who are happily married stay that way, Remember to that your doing GREAT! in America. |
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