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I landed in a crisis center too. And I remember listening to experiences, thinking how different mine was. I was married to a psychopath. There is a difference between abuse and torture, be it mental or physical. A psychopath doesn't abuse out of poor social controls and lousy anger management. They abuse because they enjoy it, its fun. I am not condoning what she did in any way at all. But I am saying that, yes, she could be seriously abused. Her degrading him would be understood, because unlike with an abuser, she may not have anything left to loose, and by getting to him in that way, it did successfully stop him from using the Phil show to destroy her. I think to be honest, that way would have been the only way to stop that, he was out to look very righteous. I noticed his reaction, it wasn't an "I am crushed", he was nearly laughing. That would be the only response that would trivialize what she said, things were not going according to his plan. Had Dr. Phil bought into that she would not have been helpded. I'm just saying that there may be way more here than that short bit on TV told us. A psychopath would never ever allowed his wife on TV if he KNEW she was going to use it to get away from him. If she had given him any glimmer at all that she was going to reach out for help he would have canceled at the last minute...I hope I'm not right.

I know this is non of my business. But when I heard about her death a huge red flag has gone up, and it has stayed up. Forget about lifestyle and paparazzii, its the 105 temp that got me. I've raised 4 kids, and would panic at 104. But I always understood that 105 was 'always' serious and dangerous. First thing I thought was meningitis. Second thing was, why did they not take her to a hospital. How can someone with a nurses training not say this is an emergency. Its as if she was in a car wreck and mortally hurt but conscious enough to say "I don't want to go to hospital", so they just let her die?? I don't understand this. Its almost an 'oooops, she died, oh, thats too bad, tsk tsk, we are so heartbroken" I hope you explore the temp part. Unless this was chronic and they were used to dealing with it, and knew exactly the cause, there was horrific neglect here. If she were a child they would have been charged with neglect. Wouldn't she have been delirious, maybe even seizing, possibly terrifyingly cold and in pain? Isn't there a very very real possibility of brain damage especially for an adult, with a temp that high even for a short while. If they didn't honestly 'know' the cause, as a trained nurse, why didn't she think, yes we have the fever down, but the cause of the fever would still be present? A flu that can cause that kind of fever would have serious side affects taking place I think. It just doesn't ring right!

Just one more thought that I had forgotten. You would think that someone that sick would have either had 24 hour watch, or, been checked on at least every hour. Perhaps that did happen, I don't know. She deserved to live.

Your interview answered some of my questions. It sounds like they did know what was wrong, and that it was chronic, and serious. And with all her other problems and losses... what she also may have been hiding was the fact that she was one very brave lady. It is also becoming clear to me, that there is no real understanding until one is in their shoes. And a public, can never, and should never know fully the privite, unless the privite gives that right. If she battled Lupus, that would explain a lot. It is probably something even the coroner doesn't, unfortunately take serious, or is educated about either. Like I said, if that is the problem, and there was no drug addiction, and she was living her life as best she could with the baggage she had and a serious illness., then we may have had a very brave soul, granted with some interesting and unusual habits, in our mist for a short period of time. As for her mother, after seeing her throw dirt on her daughters grave, and then hauntily walk on it (on ET's showing of parts of the funeral)... there are no words!