Messages By: loretta24

Thank you for the history of the board,  makes a bit more sense now.  Thanks

For the boy locked out on the porch, I am sorry, so sorry that any child should have to endure abuse.  Nothing pisses me off quite like child abuse of any kind.  Lots of (((hugs))). 

  

For the man that is really ticked off (don't blame you), here is what I say to myself often when I am faced with a situation that makes me want to scream, kick, etc., "can't change them only the way I deal with it".  Sometimes this works, sometimes not but worth a try. 

  

Now this talk of leaving...well I am sure that Tap will take you to task on that.  But the deal is this, I enjoy reading your posts, they are almost always entertaining and usually make me think a great deal.  The thinking part helps to remind me that I do still have a brain and I get to ponder ideas/topics that are more in depth than finger painting!  Please take this into consideration when making your decision. 

  

You write well but I think you know that.  I have always wanted to but have not been willing to put effort into becoming any good.  Just not my thing.  It appears that it is yours, remember that and that a gift is best when shared. 

I somehow doubt that there is selfish motive behind your actions and based upon what I know of you through these boards I doubt you will be lacking someone to comfort you.  You get what you give in this life and you do seem to be a giver. 

  

Reading about your friend has brought back many emotions that I felt when my mother in law was dying.  It is so damn painful to watch someone that you love slip away and when they are young like your brother it seems like robbery.  My mother in law was also in her 50's, took care of herself and her health and in the end it didn't matter a bit.   What bothers me the most is that my children did not get the privilege of having this amazing woman spoil them rotten.    

  

Saying goodbye can be so damn hard.   

I think that it can be very beneficial to think about death every now and then.  Helps in appreciating the wonders of life.   

  

Your post got me to thinking about how planning could go a long way to deal with some of the fighting.  When my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer she was a very active senior.  Sharp as a tack, she spelled out individually to her children and some of her close grandchild who would be responsible for what.  She gave her treasures away with thought and purpose.  After she left this world and my mom and her sister were clearing out her home they discovered notes, packages for each of us "kids" with photos, letters we wrote when we were young.  There was to be no fighting over her belongings, even if she wasn't technically there to keep us in line.   

  

My grandmother had the ability to really plan well but some planning is something we should all do.  Even though I'm kind of young and healthy maybe spelling more things out isn't a bad idea.  Food for thought!! 

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Those words never seem enough but when faced with loss  words usually fail me.   

  

Anyway, your friend sounds like he was a remarkable individual.  The kind who never truly leaves because they have touched your life in a way that you will always carry in your heart. 

  

You are in my thoughts Cygne. 

I read what Sue posted and was laughing with sincere understanding.  My youngest gets sick just about every time she is in the car for more than 20 min.  I am waiting and hoping for her to grow out of it.  It doesn't end by taking her out of the car either...that would be much too easy.  We can be in the store, restaurant and she will puke. Not once but at least 3 times.  I don't rest until after she has been out of the car for at least 1/2 hour.   

  

A couple of weeks ago we were in the store, thought I was in the clear and boom right in the toilet paper aisle.  I carry a plastic bag with me at all times and after she was done I realized that I've gotten pretty good at dealing with this kind of stuff.  Not one person realized what happened, we made our way to the ladies room for a quick face wash and finished our shopping.   

  

Now Cygne gives me great hope by referring to "fond memories".  I have no doubt that someday I will understand.  Thanks Sue for sharing a great kid story and thank you Cygne for reminding me to enjoy even the moments that aren't so enjoyable. 

Did you hear that Cygne!!???  Tap is right, we need to suck it up.   

  

It is too bad because sometimes criticism if constructive can highlight areas that might need improvement.  I' m pretty new compared to everyone here but who better to learn from than those who have been coming here for years.  Could be a missed opportunity for some growth.   

  

But I'll stop now, I feel a bit of a tingle coming on.   

We have used a 100 watt bulb in ours which seems to work but sometimes a pain in the neck to find at stores.  Good luck!! 

  

Thanks for sharing your story on how you came to be here, my goodness you all have known each other for some time.  This is the only chat room/message board  that I have visited.   I was doing some research on an issue that DP had on his show and checked out his web site.   Stumbled into the message boards and ended up in Current Events.  That is where I first encountered such wonderful people like Tap, Cygne, Battle, Loki and a few others.  Intelligent people with interesting perspectives on life. 

  

I am a stay at home mom of three girls and while I am truly thankful that I can be home with them while they are young, well sometimes I'm not sure if my brain has turned to mush or not.  So I pop in at the CE board to see if Tap, Cygne, Battle or anyone can spur me to use that grey matter upstairs. 

  

Tap mentioned this board and I am amazed at the diverse and entertaining group that make up this board.  I think I am finally up to speed on who is who, some pieces of each of your puzzles I am sure will fall into place with time and I can be very patient. 

  

So, I for one will stick around, you people are much too entertaining to be frightened away by a zap now and then. 

  

  

I love when that happens!!! LOL   

Thanks for the roses and hugs.  I can almost smell the roses. 

  

Have a great day and hugs right back to you! 

You have put "cold" in a whole new perspective for me!  I am from southern New England, Connecticut to be exact, and I was whining about our 25 degree weather.  I've stopped the whining!!!  I love where I live, I can be in NYC, Boston, the beach and the mountains within a couple of hours.  I would love to visit Colorado when the girls are older, in the summer!  From what I know, it seems like it is a beautiful place. 

  

My oldest is 8 and also a Brownie.  Good for your daughter selling 200 boxes.  We don't get ours until March and boy, I could really go for a Thin Mint about now. 

  

I am very fortunate, I ended up marrying the man who, up until we started dating, was my best friend.  We've been together over ten years now, still my best friend and the bonus is that he is a great dad.  I truly got very lucky.  I wish you all the best with the path you choose with Ralph.  I think part of the reason my husband and I work so well together is that we spent our early days together building a foundation to our relationship.  We put alot work, time and care into and now when faced with tough times we can rely on it.   

  

But enough of that!  Hope things warm up very soon for you!