Messages By: trinst

I have tried the dating sites. Not much has come of it for me either. I have been honest in my profile and many of the men have not. I seem to attract the shy, needy and boastful ones. I have scared a number of men away with my honesty. Then again what is so wrong with being honest? You can't attract the kind of person you want without being truthful of yourself. The profiles that I have responded to I got very few responses.   

Well any way I am not sorry that I do not look like a beauty queen that wants to please her man in every way! I am looking for a companion not a fantasy. I just wish I could find someone who is down to earth.  

I was not even on a dating site when I was contacted for the first time by such men and women.  The first time was on a roommate web site. I was looking for a roommate for the second bedroom in my condo. I instinctively knew something was wrong with the e-mails. Some were too good to be true. Some were too quick to say I love you and others were asking bold questions or asking for too much information. They were always coy about themselves until they need money or help. I got wise to them rather quickly after the third person to contact me. I think what saved me from them was the lack of money. That may not sound like alot of sense but I have very little money and I also do not have a job that pays well. I am very afraid to part with money because I really do not have a safety net to fall back on. What would happen to me if they do not make good on their debt to me? I always have to think about that before I could consider helping some one with money. Time I have got but money, NO! Everyone who knows me will not ask for money because they know my situation and they are respectful of it. I also run inter-net contacts by my friends and if they see a pattern or something out of place. If anything is out of place or does not sound right they will tell me. With all relationships I wait as long as it takes for the real person to surface.