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September 5, 2005, 2:34 pm PDT

Dear Brenda,

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Been retired about one month, now. That’s enough!

The agency I retired from has offered me an opportunity to aide some of our fellow Americans who are coming to SC, from our devastated Gulf Coast. I will be aiding them in the very difficult recovery process of having lived through Hurricane Katrina and the VERY grim, overwhelming and appalling aftermath. I am truly looking forward to this chance to help. I’ve assisted people in recovery of a different sort but this is something that I so want to do. I really wanted to do more than make a monetary donation.

This just FEELS so much better than retirement right, now.

Brenda

Congratulation for accepting such an important part on the recovery of your people. They so much need to be help , cuddle and taking care of.I have watched t.v for a week and i must say that i have been very sad .But like in every negative situation there is positive like watching great people make the difference for those in needs.Sometimes it takes the worse to see the better part of human beings. And i guess it may very well be exactly what you need right now in your life to take care of these people and forget about everything else in yours.

So once again cangratulation i am very proud to know someone so genuine like you. Make yourserlf proud girl.

Friendship Lyne

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September 6, 2005, 4:01 am PDT

Hi Pal,

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I used to keep a private journal, and discovered that my husband was reading it, being a snoop. I was angry at first, but I understand him pretty well. He came from a controlling set of parents that were in every aspect of his life until I came along. This was his example in life. I began to write things aimed at him, things that he would never ask me, but that I thought he should know. After a couple of years, I let him know that I was aware that he was reading my journal, and that I wrote much of it for him. It brought us closer together because I decided not to let it tear us apart. I put his sneaky behavior to good use. When I had a need to journal to get out anger or anything that would hurt someone, I would destroy it afterwards.

There's something about the act of writing your feelings that helps you to get to the bottom of what is going on.

I must admit that reading your post made me laught. So much wisdom in your way of handling the matter. This is what i call make the best of a bad situation, but in the same time it must have been devastating when you found out. Bravo you you dealed with it the right way.Linda you impress me.

Hope everything is find with you

Amitie sincere Lyne

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September 15, 2005, 6:19 am PDT

to Lynn,

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Lynn reads the posts, so I'm sure she will get your messages, but I will let her know anyway. Thank you so much.

Dear Lynn ,

My heart goes out to you during those horrible times. I offer you my condolences and my prayers.

At least this friend of yours had a wonderful chance to have you as a friend. Sometimes it gets hard but sunshine Will Be Back .

Amitie sincere Lyne xoxox

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September 16, 2005, 11:25 am PDT

A New Day as come !!!

I can't help myself from sharing with you my joy .Yesterday was one of the most happiest day of my life. We , my boyfriend , my twin sister ,her husband and i just got the house we bought. My twin is going to live in the same house with me. It is a two appartements house. We have a wonderful garden of flowers a swimming pool and a nice corner with tables and chairs to make picnics.

Suddently i feel like a kid , feelings are coming back to me about our chilhood and i feel so in peace knowing that we will be able to share are hopes and dreams just like when we were young. A twin is the most wonderful thing in life and i thank God for her. Our parents are now adjusting to the situation of my sister leaving them, and it gives me peace of mind.

I feel so thankfull and previledge for the blessings in my life, my heart is bursting with gratitude.

My authentic self feels very complete and fufill. This message is a message of hope for anyone who thinks the sunshine wont come back It does.

Not long ago i was a very different person with alot of negative taughts , but i took my life and turn it away so i could see the beautiful in myself and others . I promess myself not to ever think of killing myself and learn to live my desability and even see that there are people worse than i and that even if i am sick i can still have dreams even if they are different than others. This is my message of hope .

Thank you all who have supported me and give me hope.

Sincerly Lyne

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September 20, 2005, 7:34 am PDT

girls just want to have fun

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I am delighted!!!

Brenda

Hi Pals,

If the trip is in April or May count me in please. I would be so happy to meet you all. Hope this dream come true.

Don't have much time to write will all i have to do with the new house but you are all in my prayers.

Talk to you soon

Amitie sincere Lyne xoxox

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November 13, 2005, 4:47 am PST

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http://www.365daysofcoaching.com/

Thank you for all the great site you put for everybody s information they are really great.

Sincerly Lyne

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September 9, 2006, 6:15 am PDT

hope and serenity

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To be honest, I have no "self" anymore. I feel I have been stripped of that a long time ago, and frankly, I have lost it and do not know where to even start to find it. After you become a failure in marriage and kids...you tend to be nothing inside but a hollow shell. My heart has been broken so many times, I do not think I have anything left, plus I cannot get past the fact I get sick when I think of a man getting close to me, much less have a relationship with me. I do not think any of Dr. Phil's books can work the magic I need to discover my inner, authentic self. I guess you could say, I have given up on finding it. To me, I am a obese person on the inside, wanting to get out. I once was skinny person trying to get out of an obese body. I find now, it doesn't really matter if I am obese or normal.........the inside is the same, a empty shell.

Dear Noralee,

Your empty shell is a feeling ,witch means that it can only be acknoledge as true because ,feeling come from the soul and they are the reflection of it but....... one day you may find yourself (as i did) looking for some inner peace because your soul will not tolerate another moment of sadness and emptiness. I am sure that you think that you have endure some of the worst life can pitch , and you are right about it, but still if you look at the joys in your life a smile will come to your face .... in the picture you post ,i can see it ..... first you have to covince yourself that you are worth it.... and you are like anyone who breaths....the fact that you wrote on this site is the best proof that you still care and hope .

I have been where you are believe me , the day you will decide that you regain your self estime back the shell will break .... sure it won't be easy but it is worth it... the obesity is only a consequence of the hurt inside, it can be deal with ,it is not irreversible..... the first step to make is to make a list of the good you see in yourself and work with it ..... try to forget about the past and take one day at a time.... one pound at a time....find some beauty in this world and look for the good not the bad.... your mood will change and so will you.....

my personnal email is wrote in my personnal file , if you want to write i will be very happy to share your new journey and try to help you.... take care of yourself......sincerly Lyne

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November 26, 2006, 7:58 am PST

in my heart and in my head

I am an obese.....

I am 46 years old batting with obesity since the age of 10. first diet at the age of 12 i was put on ww eating fish 5 nites a weak ... i was then 172 pounds and the goal was to be at 112.....my mom could not let me gain weight so she deprive me of food.... except that she did not change any family habits and the food in the house was very poor quality.....

So i have been going from diet to diet for 34 years now loosing thousans of pounds but more importantly loosing my heart and my mind..... so sick of this life of mine.....of course i have attain a goal weight a lost of 115 pounds only to gain it back and more.....

In january of 2006 i decide to get help an i have had lapband surgery..... since then i have lost 80 pounds.... once again i taught i had found the magic stick how wrong i was....yes it is a tool for controlling the amount but not the quality of food .... so how good is it ..... everytime i reach my lowest point in my weigh in years i sabotage myself by gainning 10 pounds back.....i hate myself for doing it ....... when i am in control of my food and thinner i feel like a million bucks..... and then i ruined it all......WHY.........i am so tired of life and myself......will the rest of my life be spent thinking of my image and food..... if yes i don't see the point of me going on anymore..... my only hope is to find psychologic help because i don't know how to stop these taughts of suicide.....

Why is everybody and by that i mean goverment, industries and society is looking for a miracle pill to loose weight and not for the psychological aspect because from what i can read and ear it is all in the head.....

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November 28, 2006, 11:58 am PST

60 pounds is more like it for me

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I just felt the need to reply.

My name is Jennifer. I am the Girl on the show that is set to be aired on Dec 1st. Dr Phil surprised me with surgery to remove my skin. Please believe me when I say, that i have experienced everything that you are now facing. I wrote into Dr Phil in regards to the downside of Weight loss. My marriage was a joke, I hated to be unclothed, touched, hugged looked at you name it I had an issue. Even though I reached close to goal I still covered up, I was disgusting without cloths. I was mortified by my body the more I lost the scarier it was for me. My body continued to look horrible the more I lost. I always wanted to be skinny, and now that I lost my weight, my loss became my nightmare. I looked nothing like I pictured I would look like at goal. I thought I could wear a T shirt yes something as simple as a T shirt and feel good about me, But my arms were hanging swinging all the time. To some this would appear PETTY, but to me being obese clinicly obese my entire life and finally doing something that is good to the outside as to weight loss was nothing close to good. I resembled a melting candle, I hated my decision to lose. I was guilt ridden that if i just stayed fat than i wouldn't have left one problem to gain another. Surgery is extrememly expensive and one thing I knew in this lifetime No matter what, I couldn't possibly do. So I reached out to Dr Phil before a pre weight loss show and basically told him if he was going to do another weight losss show DO A REAL ONE OR DON"T DO ONE AT ALL!!!! No one ever talks about the down side of weight loss that it is not alwys happy, lifes great!!! PFFFFFFFFFFFFFFttttt!!!!!!!!!!!. I was soooo sick of seeing people at goal on stage showing off and happy with a new wardrobe or car or Trip to show off their new body I wanted to throw up. All that is mateialistic and rots and goes away But you still have to wake each day to your body, and anything over a 120lb weight loss is not a pretty sight. No One ever talked about THE EXCESS SKIN. what the Hll does one do about it ? when after all the struggle, to finally do what the media blasts in our brain to do, we accomplish but look worse than when we started??? I lost with the dream in my head that I would look great for the first time in my life. Hilarious, it was a cruel joke I tried soo hard but in the end the joke was on me.... My life wasn't in danger to rsort to surgery but my mental life was. So many people don't get that. I had agross body at 300+lbs and a gross body at goal. I wanted to gain my weight back because than at least I would be filled out my skin wouldn't hang ripple or slap together, and the public would understand why i was covered up at the beach, ( because I was fat) But I was coverd up thin and people didn't get it. If I exposed the sight of my flesh, I would have left people with the same reaction as if I was fat. EWWWWWWWWW gross look at that lady, she needs to cover up.... Thin and fat I hid in big cloths. Losing weight is not all what the media says it is. You exchange one battle for another. I wanted answeres from Dr Phil for all of us, but he surprised me with the Dr's from Dr 90210!!!!!!! I came to the conclusion that maybe even Dr Phil doesn't have anything concret to help us, its all a series, a process, but he does state that we must be realists about the whole process good and bad. My journey I had no Idea, I guess I was dilusional.. LOL... I had noone to educate me on the whole journey I did it all ALONE. By myself no surgery no dieticians noone me myself and my dream to be better Healthier. Because I KNOW not everyone can have surgery, I know alone,,, I couldn't. The media plugs in us to lose, finally we believe in ourselves enough to DO IT. But we are faced once again with NOW WHAT????

I live by the MOTTO..... Don't live to regret the things you've done.... Live to regret the things you haven't done.... In other words Just do everything. The worst thing may turn into your biggest blessing...

I wanted to reach out to Angelique on the show and tell her that She CAN be where I am Because i was once where she is. Just believe........ In YOU. Believe that in the next minute Your Dream comes true, because thats how fast life can change. If it takes min by min hour to hour day by day month by month Trust that in the next min everything can change.

I could lose the weight myself but I couldn't shed the skin myself. Surgery is not the answer for everyone but it was the answer for me. Now I make it my mission to help all who are just waiting to walk in my shoes and face thier weight loss journey with pride and the belief that not another day will you accept.... that you are worth being happy whatever your happiness is to you.

Smile you are 60 seconds from a Dream come true....

Sincerely Jennifer....

Dear Jennifer ,

Thank you so much for sharing your story of hope with all of us , but most of all thank you for thinking that we are worth the trust of your personnal journey......

As i wrote earlier , the mental side effect of losing weight is tremendous... i am now 80 pounds smaller with 50 more to go , but i am struggling and sabotaging myself , i loose 10 pounds gain it back at least 3 times for each 10 pounds. ...... i am at the point of given up just looking at the skin hanging from my arms and belly..... it makes me sick after all the efforts i have put thru it..... i can see that my weight problem could be solve but not my mental ......

After 34 years of anguish and sadness i just can't see the point anymore....i just need to be regarded as a person not an obese or ex -obese...... for me the 60 secondes last years....

thank you Lyne

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April 28, 2007, 6:15 pm PDT