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July 26, 2005, 9:59 am CDT

Reconnections

So, last April I sat at an internet site to search out a man that I have known for 30 years.  I needed his advice on something important.  We met in 1975.  He made attempts to stay in touch with me in the 1980s.  We reconnected in 1987.  I had issues to sort out, so I gave him  closure in 1989.  He did not give me closure in return.  So he had returned to the city that we originally met.  We now live in the same town.  During the year he seemed very glad to reconnect.  I did not give him high expectations, except that I value his feedback and opinions.  He likes to give me crash landings with his style of romance.  I put on a parachute just in case he did it, again.  He did.  I pulled the cord and dragged out an explanation from him.  I think that a 30 year friendship is a gift.  I supported him when his father died in 1976.  He supported me when my marriage turned hostile and he gave me refuge to sort things out.  He has had trying relationships with women in the past.  I have tried a different approach to being with men, simply getting to know them intellectually.  I get more out of them this way.  Anyway this past year was full of discovery that he and I have a similar, parallel like pathway.  We have so much in common.  We are both reckless.  Yet I have learned to control my impulses.  He takes more risks than I do.  If he was a woman then he would be my number one girlfriend.  He is sexy.  I must stop looking him like he is cake!  I always want to take a bite from him.  We do share traditional rituals.  I am confused because now he has given me a cold shoulder.  He told me not to communicate with him any longer.  But we talk about everything, politics, music, religion, housework, antiqueing, shopping, sports, porn, sex, food, you name it we talk about it.  My emotions are hurt but I have reached out to other friends to talk about this.  I don't get it.  He says that I should look elsewhere for a new boyfriend.  He told me to stop talking to him July 10, 2005.  On July 23, he sent an inquiry to see if I want to stay connected with him by e mail.  He likes to tease me.  Our friendship is being tested, again.  He brought home a woman who needed help, she moved in on him.  She wanted me out of the picture.  He chose to listen to her demands.

 

I would like a community imput on this because this did hurt me.  And from the sound of his voice, he didn't seem to happy about it either.  He is stubborn.  But I think he has extended an olive branch to me.  let me know what you all think please.

 
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July 27, 2005, 8:21 am CDT

Discovering yourself

Quote From: annaballa

So, last April I sat at an internet site to search out a man that I have known for 30 years. I needed his advice on something important. We met in 1975. He made attempts to stay in touch with me in the 1980s. We reconnected in 1987. I had issues to sort out, so I gave him closure in 1989. He did not give me closure in return. So he had returned to the city that we originally met. We now live in the same town. During the year he seemed very glad to reconnect. I did not give him high expectations, except that I value his feedback and opinions. He likes to give me crash landings with his style of romance. I put on a parachute just in case he did it, again. He did. I pulled the cord and dragged out an explanation from him. I think that a 30 year friendship is a gift. I supported him when his father died in 1976. He supported me when my marriage turned hostile and he gave me refuge to sort things out. He has had trying relationships with women in the past. I have tried a different approach to being with men, simply getting to know them intellectually. I get more out of them this way. Anyway this past year was full of discovery that he and I have a similar, parallel like pathway. We have so much in common. We are both reckless. Yet I have learned to control my impulses. He takes more risks than I do. If he was a woman then he would be my number one girlfriend. He is sexy. I must stop looking him like he is cake! I always want to take a bite from him. We do share traditional rituals. I am confused because now he has given me a cold shoulder. He told me not to communicate with him any longer. But we talk about everything, politics, music, religion, housework, antiqueing, shopping, sports, porn, sex, food, you name it we talk about it. My emotions are hurt but I have reached out to other friends to talk about this. I don't get it. He says that I should look elsewhere for a new boyfriend. He told me to stop talking to him July 10, 2005. On July 23, he sent an inquiry to see if I want to stay connected with him by e mail. He likes to tease me. Our friendship is being tested, again. He brought home a woman who needed help, she moved in on him. She wanted me out of the picture. He chose to listen to her demands.

I would like a community imput on this because this did hurt me. And from the sound of his voice, he didn't seem to happy about it either. He is stubborn. But I think he has extended an olive branch to me. let me know what you all think please.

You must have scared him.  This is a good time to discover more of yourself.  Sounds like a faint heartbeat to stay connected is there.  Relationships are challenging.  Parades are cool and come to an end, don't they?  Your party is over.  Back to reality, let him enjoy his life and you must enjoy yours, too.
 

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