Messages By: puptent

Carlie ---

I have been away from this board for a while (due to the fact that I changed my email address and couldn't receive the confirmation email from here to re-register...) so anyway, how are you and yours?  Have you gone to court again since the first time against your stepdaughter's mom & grandma?  And how is your stepdaughter taking it?  Is she supportive of you but confused regarding her mom?  It is tough enough to be a stepmom and not to make the child feel like their bio parents are wrong even when we know they are because they are their parents but in your case she has been thrown into a position by her mom to have to choose "sides".  Does she know that her mom & Grandma beat you up and then accused you of wrongdoings?

Hang in there.  It is bound to get better....

I am on SS disability for chronic fatigue syndrome since 1992.  Most people don't know what that is and say things like "you don't look sick" or "just get more sleep!"  URGGH!!

My life has drastically changed since I was diagnosed with CFS in 1992.  In 1994 I left my controlling husband and moved in with my best friend to charge of my life again.  Then in August of 1995 I met a wonderful man whom I dated and then married in 1996.  He has two children from his first marriage and they came to live with us in 1999. Then our son was born in 2001 and our daughter in 2003. 

Over the years, I have learned how to deal with CFS.  There are days where I turn the tv on for the little ones (horror) while the one two are at school or their mom's and I lay on the couch and veg.  And then there are days where I am fine even full of energy and do things with them and even housework.  My husband is wonderful and supports me whether it be dealing with a messy house cause he is working overtime or whether it be helping me clean and with the kids.  This is a support system I didn't have with my ex so though I have more to do I feel better more which I feel is my more positive life.

As for the weight gain, I have always been skinny or at the "correct" weight for my height etc. until ...you guessed it the marriage with the ex whihc of course was magnified by the CFS.  I have been battling it ever since.  The good news is the two pregnancies didn't add any additional weight -- just baby and lost that after they were each born.  I have tried Dr. Phil but I wasn't emotionally ready yet.  I have to go food shopping this weekend and get some salads and fruits etc. to start again.

I just turned 40 and had a tough time dealing with that -- more where I am at at 40 then the actaul number.  I went and bought a new wardrobe that makes me feel sexier then just wearing mom t-shirts...and I got a new hairstyle.  These actions have made me feel more confident and it turns my hubby on too!   I think that know I can tackle the weight again.  I must get out my Dr. Phil Weight Loss Challenge book and recipe book and dust them off! ;-) 

Thanks for listening and I wish everyone weight loss success which I know we can all acheive!  

Thanks for the greeting -- I was beginning to wonder where everyone was... ;-)

I thank goodness never had fibromialgia -- just CFS which is enough.  My motherinlaw who had a car accident some years ago has CFS and has very bad fibro.

I put on my weight dutring the onset of CFS with my inactivity.  I was always a very active person -- I always worked two or more jobs at a time.  Then suddenly I couldn't work at all.  Some days I couldn't even get out of bed.  THrough the years I have progressed and learned to deal with it and relax on bad days -- the housework (or whatever) will alwys be there tomorrow -- it isn't going anywhere!

I started the UWL again today at 220 pounds and my get real weight is 1488-135 as per Dr. Phil's Body Weight Standards.

above says

"I started the UWL again today at 220 pounds and my get real weight is 1488-135 as per Dr. Phil's Body Weight Standards."

It should say:

"I started the UWL again today at 220 pounds and my get real weight is 148-135 as per Dr. Phil's Body Weight Standards."

Bye for now!

For my son it didn't work because his problem was not peeing in the toilet  -- it was pooping.  He would go and hide so we knew he knew it was happening.  Sometime from February to June (I know this time frame cause he wasn't in school so when he went back he was potty trained.) he just decided to do it himself.  He would tell me he had to go and he still calls for help cleaning himself sometimes but overall he has it down now.  He was keeping dry through the night for months and just having the pooping problem during the day so we started him wearing underwear at night and then he wanted to wear them all the time...

Next I have to train my 2 year old daughter but I hear girls are easier to potty train -- we'll see.  So far, she sits on potty but forgets to take down her pull up but if you get to her and take it off she does go pee in her potty (sometimes even in the toilet!)  My big problem with her and pooping is she takes off the diaper when it is soiled and yesterday she decided to do this when she was supposed to be napping.  I went in to check on her as she was crying not sleeping to find her covered from hair to toes and the crib and walls were done too.  Oh the joys of motherhood! My hubby calls her his little artist....

hope I didnt miss anyone. 

I am new to this board since the changes to the entire board.   

As I explained in a previous message I have CFS since 1992.  I found it difficult at times to do exercise when I am having a bad day.  I am trying to follow the keys and I have about 70 pounds to lose. 

Glad to see the board more active as you all can relate. 

Marie 

and anyone else I missed or has joined since....why did you choose to post here?  What i mean is do you have Diabetes or FMS or CFS etc? 

As I stated I have CFS since 1992.  Look forward to chatting with you and being able to discuss hints of what you do on bad days to stay on "key'. 

Marie