Messages By: prfctangel

Listening to Paul talk about food and what the smells do to him...I wanted to cry.  It was all so familiar.  People say my eyes light up when I talk about food.  When I'm eating something really good, I make "the noises" (ooh, ah, oh wow, mmm).  I'm only 44 pounds overweight, which is still not good, but I can see me getting worse if I don't do something.  I just started this week on Dr. Phil's rapid star program.  I lost my book, so I need to buy another, but I have the food guide.  My husband (of 1 1/2 months) is being super supportive and is helping me by being my voice of reason when I'm wanting something I don't need to be eating. 

My heart went out to you, Paul, and I hope you are doing well.  I know we can all do it if we believe and try hard enough, but it is a very, very hard thing to do to break the food addiction or at least get it under control. 

First, I'd like to say that my dad is 10 years younger than my mom and my husband is 9 1/2 years younger than me.  I believe that it all depends on the individual.  I don't believe that this young lady is ready for this kind of relationship.

Secondly, the friend that was on the show needed to show more consideration for the others.  He ran his mouth CONSTANTLY and it was very aggrivating.  I was waiting for Dr. Phil to slap duct tape over his mouth.

I have spoiled family members and not only is it frustrating to see them live beyond their means, but it also can make you feel bad because you can't afford such things.  For instance my aunt and uncle went into debt for their daughter's wedding.  They let certain bills go and had bill collectors calling all of the time because they were letting bills go to pay for the wedding.  And now the daughter is divorced, what good did it do to spend all that money?  Even now, my aunt dresses in all these nice clothes, always has her hair done, had gaudy jewelry and you'd swear she has money, but just today one of her bill collectors called for her at work.  She's bought jewelry for $400 on QVC, had it delivered at work and then showed everyone what she bought.  I believe they have a big problem with needing to be seen by others as "trendy" and they put too much emphasis on material things.  I do believe they are trying to fill some sort of void.  There are family secrets and perhaps that has something to do with it.  I just choose to keep my distance to avoid unnecessary frustration.

My husband went through a fairly short ordeal with pain meds.  At one point, he even broke into the home of one of our friends to take some Vicadin.  When I found out, I was embarrassed and sick.  I never thought he would do something like that.  I didn't even know he was taking pills.  Our friends did not press charges & my husband never went to jail, but it affected their friendship with him.  How could he possibly be trusted?  Fortunately it proved to be a turning point for him. He has been able to fight his problem and stop taking pills.  It had not been going on very long, so I am glad for that.  But it is always a struggle for him.  He's learned to talk to me when he feels temptation.  It will probably always be a struggle.

    I feel bad for the children of the twins on the show.  Children are so innocent.

(Listening to these ladies talk, it sounds like they are from Louisiana (where I'm from ).  They have a cajun accent.  )