Messages By: queentween

BTW- Dr Phil folks- I don't like the new format of message boards- little smiley faces seem ridiculous when you are talking about real issues- and isn't Dr Phil all about getting real?????

 

Anyway, there may be a hundred reasons why your mother is lying about money to your father- maybe he can't save, or maybe she is gambling away the family fortune. Maybe she is stashing money to run away from an abusive relationship or maybe she wants to take everyone on a surprise cruise. Talks to her if its such a big deal to you. I will admit, I lied to my husband who goes through money like water, and told him I was buying just stuff, while I was packing it away in savings. I finally told him, and he seemed pleased to hear that we had 30K in the bank. But it was hard to keep it from him....

Hang in there Kyle- I was always a fat kid, and its a never ending issue. Please try not to have to submit to a gastric bypass- I've known so many people who've had them and they have either long lasting health effects that are often worse than the extra weight, or else their personality changes so drastically that they are totally different people...who knows. You are smart and you have guts to come on a show like this- go and succeed my friend!

Yikes! Everyone relax a little!!!!! I feel a lot of you are being too rigid-sex doesn't (or shouldn't) come with a manual of what is right or wrong.  Kiza, if you are not interested in compromising, you should not marry this man, because if you aren't interested in coming to an agreement about this, you will not be willing to come to a compromise on any other issue.

 

Sex should be fun. It should be a way of expressing yourself to your partner and sharing special times. If God didn't want us to enjoy it, He would not have given us a clitoris or the capability to have an orgasm. This is a fantastic gift!!!  Stop forcing your ideas of what is a "yes" or "no" and think about it in terms of "perhaps" and "if". I've read several of these posts where the women are excusing themselves for affairs because "he's watching porn" while she is" only going out and having illicit physical sex with someone else while the man who supports me is at home". You will never get the clap from a computer web site. SO stop passing judgements and excusing your lousy behavior. Get real

I can understand how you all are feeling. Its really tough to get back on top of the world when you feel like everyone is trying to stand on top of you. It would be great to win powerball, but that isn't going to happen. If you take that $1 you spend 2 times a week, at the end of the year, you have $104- enough for an electric light bill. If you stop buying soda at the convenience store for .99, and instead buy it in cases at the discount place, you can save about $20. (24 pack is about $5, or 24 sodas at the convenience store=$24) If you can refrain from buying lunch and dinner at a fast food place, and instead eat at home, you can save a lot. The thing is, you can't save a thousand dollars today, but you can save $1. And soon, that $1 will turn into $100. All I can say is educate your children. The money you spend on educational costs like tuition, books, etc is much better spent than on bail, rehab places and emotional stress......

Yes we are back!!!! And I am still counting pennies- and taking care of the kids and all that! I know what you mean about soda- we are Kool-Aid kids because I can monitor how much sugar goes in- and at .10 a 2 quart pitcher, plus the cost of sugar, you can't go wrong....I am putting together a book about how to save money- My husband claims I can do it better than anyone, however, this is the fabulous man who worked hard -and I mean hard- all his life through 2 other marriages and never had a pot OR a window- so he is biased...Its a good thing we all like PB and J!!!! Lov ya! Good to see you......Queenie

As Patsy Cline said to all working girls, "Keep your chin up and your skirt down!" You will get ahead. You just need to give yourself a little break from worrying about money all the time. Have you called your creditors to tell them what is going on? Can they give you a break on interest, or lower your payments for a while until you get settled? Don't try to get an extra job right now- just keep concnetrating on NOT buying stuff, NOT grabbing something at the deli rather than making supper at home, NOT grabbing a latte on the way to work and making a coffee at home instead. Its tougher, too, because right now, you probably don't know a lot of people in the new place, and loneliness makes everything harder. Keep plugging and keep going- the only way you don't succeed is when you stop.......Queenie

Living with one income can be tricky-especially when you are not living together- My husband is in the military, and based in another state, while I live where I feel our children need to be raised. He is cool with it, and when he retires in 26 months and 30 days, he will be moving here. So, we have 2 households to maintain, and unfortunately, my darling goes crazy with money. So, he has an allowance, and I take care of his "bills" so they get paid on time. You really need an Alpha Dog in the family to run the money. Thats me. I don't enter convenience stores. I don't buy a cup of coffee somewhere. I live for dollar stores, which is where all my dishes and kitchen wares come from....as well as a lot of fun stuff.I never buy a "meal" in a restaurant unless its a special occasion and I never go anywhere without a plan of attack.(thats what 2 small kids do to you- no aimless wandering!) Taking the kids means I can't browse, or shop in anyplace that doesn't have a shopping cart. I cook at home all the time, and do all of our own baking- plus, I find that people don't like to bake at home- I make $20 on a birthday cake here and there, and just did a wedding cake in my spare time for $600. If you are home, you can do a lot of your own painting and home repair. You can do your own lawn care. If you stay at home with your kids, you will find that not only do your kids act better, they are healthier, so you save on Dr bills. Cut the cable bills to a minimum- listen to the radio-play with your kids and husband. Talk talk talk to your neighbors- not only is it fun, but you create a community which becomes safer- communicate with your partner about your dreams and they will help them come true. (My anniversary gift for 5 years next month is a Rug Doctor carpet steam cleaner. My darling wanted to buy me a diamond. Believe me, that Rug Doctor  will look much better on the end of my hand than a diamond on my finger...) Stick together and laugh a lot. Money is fun, but love is better......

 Ok, I don't know you at all, but it sounds like he is depressed- if he stays in the bedroom all day- does he work? He only talks to you about the news- nothing else? The erection thing is a minor issue compared to everything else- a penis ring will give him an erection, but if hes lost interest in everything else, that isn't going to do anything- believe me- if a man wants sex and can't get an erection, he will find other ways to do it! He needs to see a therapist- now!  ps- Viagra and cialis only work if a man wants to be aroused- plus they have so many drug interactions, that they are detrimental to a persons health....

The herb yohimbine (yohimbe for men) has been found to increase a womans sex drive- not overnight, but with a regular course of intake has results of women being more aroused, more lubricated and more interested in sex.....this herb can be found at many health food shops. Please check with your medical DR before starting any course of medication. Good luck! Queenie

A Penis ring, or pleasure ring will extend his erection by compressing the veins carrying blood to his penis. Because the blood is held in the penis by the ring, the erection stays until the blood is released through removal of the ring. I agree, viagra and cialis have many many side effects, and an outside appliance to preserve and erection is preferable! Be sure to remove it after 4 hours, because tissue damage can occur. THere are many types out there- if you'd like info on purchasing them discreetly, please let me know at    opsarge@earthlink.net    Queenie