Messages By: lonalea200

You've got to be kidding! I am absolutely appalled at the immense ignorance and arrogance you so proudly display in your quote. I can't believe you think that every time someone 'yells' racism it's 'usually' a black person. You obviously lead an extremely sheltered and uneducated life. Perhaps you'd next like to say that all Arabs or Muslims are terrorists! Your facts are clearly WRONG! People of all ethnic groups, races and religions experience racism and prejudice. The bottom line is that you cannot make such generalizations about an entire group. There are wonderful as well as awful people in all races, ethnic groups and religions. You say at the end of your quote that you 'welcome' black people...I'd like to know how many black people reading what you wrote find you or your words 'welcoming'? I doubt many do. I really think you need to turn off the news, step outside your front door and educate your self about these 'black' people who are 'always' making themselves be apart from people like you. Ever think that perhaps, just maybe, it was you and your behaviour and actions that made these 'black' people want to stay as far away from people like you as possible?

It's times like this that I'm proud to be a Canadian!

MY (NOTE:MY) Opinion: 

I agree that the MAJORITY of people claiming "racism" are the blacks.  But let s all understand that as long as we have freedom, we will always have differances and we will always have that double standard.......about sexual woman being easy and sexual men being heroes, about mexicans, blacks, asians...whatever.  If you ever notice, commercials always have the perfect "mix" of races.....isnt it sad that most of us are no longer racist but are forced to be scared of unintentionally hurting someone and then being called a racist, that we have to think and rethink the things we do?  I am not a racist because I understand that everyone is there own person and that just because the majority of 'whatever' do/say/think alike, it does not mean ALL of them/we do.  Example:  I am from Texas and I say "y'all", like a lot of other texans, but I dont ride horses, wear wranglers and boots with spurs.  Like Liz says , every race has its good and bad citizens.......we need to stop walking around eggshells with everyone.  Look, MOST whites hurt Native Americans by breaking 400 of there treaties.....but that has changed, its time to live life.  MANY, not all, hurt African Americans during the Slave era, but that is changing everyday......we are a different culture now.  Can someone please tell me how many people would get burned, fired and attacked if there was a WHITE ENTERTAINMENT TELEVISION (WET) like there is a BLACK ENTERTAINMENT TELEVISION (BET) channel????  We are creating this standard for one another by being too scared to JUST BE.---JUDY 

I was diagnosed with Bi polar too...I worked from the inside out with Dr. Phil  I actually think I have this thing called D.I.D.  this girl posted it was me to a tee.... 

What or how did you learn about the Schizophrenia?  What age were you and what happened if I am getting to personal Im sorry....I am really proud that you are so open and able to speak about this.  Being Bi polar pisses me off. 

When did this happen for me?  I had a really really great talk with my MOM the other day....First time in ALONG LONG time  I am talking YEARS trust me.....she said she noticed a change in me in middle school...HELLO  why didnt she get me help then? 

That's when I started smoking weed and drinking to cover the shame and guilt of what my brother did to me  he sexually abused me for years and years.  My father touched me and well all thats over now...But I think you really never get over your father trying to stick his tongue down your throat and grabbing your chest when your developing and from what my older sister says he did to her what my older brother did to me and well that crap is all just twisted up and disgusting. 

My body also goes into hyper mania.  Sometimes I frett...I worry and worry just like my Momma I have noticed.  I dont want that tape playing in my head.  I do not believe I have Schitzopherenia but you are so well educated on the subject  let me warn you though maybe if you start talking to me I might think I have it so......maybe Im not sure.... 

But everything that girl on the depression board printed out I can admit too honestly about the D.I.D  it really rang true....I have to go for now..See you soon.  I mean talk to you hopefully soon.  I am going for another evaluation ASAP  I went yesterday but I picked the wrong place....even though it was an eating disorder place and I am having food problems that shrink was cruel to me... 

If you want to be heard, you must speak in Love. Yes, as parents we need to see where we are making our mistakes, but trust me, a parent in this situation must be approached inthe right way. If we are attaceked and told what a horrible job we are doing, we are defensive. If we are approached with a differnt attitude we are open to hear your advice. BTW it's not always about being lazy. I am not lazy, I am a mother who spent the first 11 years of motherhood, doing all the right things, discipline, involved in school, sports, had very good well balanced children. I then decided to move to another stare, went thru a custody battle in a small little town where I was condemned for leaving to give my children more opportunity. Had teachers, principals and social workers testify on my behalf.Still lost my sons to their father(he feared for their well-being) . I at that point felt everything I had done was wrong. Did I discipline my other children in the same manner? no!! I was terrified ,if I did I would somehow lose them too. I was a complete mental case. I lived for my children the 4 of them were my world, and I didknow what was right and what was wrong.I didn't even care if I lived or died. The only thing that kept me in this world was the graceof God and the 2 I still had. My sons came back to live with me after 18 months, but at that point the damage was done.The younger children had already missed out on that very important point where the base was established from 18 months to3 yrs. I am now reaping what I sowed, and I know that I ultimately am responsible for this. But the only people who truly helped me were the ones who spoketo me in Love and encouragemnet.

I'm simply saying, you do not always know the circumstances, and people cannot change the past, they can only move forward. don't judge them and kick them when they are down. Reach out and help them to see, they can make a difference from this point forward. When you are in that pit you cannot see out!!! If you haven't been there you do not understand!!

Liz  I have no Idea What my "true" diagnosis is....I mean they said Bipolar but I think I should go back and actually sit down with some one and wite down what these people actually truly labeled me as....I mean REALLY!  They said I know  Tramatic Brain Injury  Dis  something mood disorder  it was like back in 2002  I am so ticked about that...well at least you know....What meds are you on?  I am on anti depresant mood stablizer  ....Liz your so nice thank you... 

Do you feel "stimatized?  Do you tell people when you meet them?  I am in lets just say a bad situation where I live where he is very controlling and on a daily bases he reminds me "how sick I am but I think Im pretty smart..He keeps grinding me down Liz...Desprespectsa my mind   Lowers my confidence..Takes my greatness away.. 

Thank you for responding... i would like to make one suggestion....learn the facts and then respond.  I can give you a list of books and articles that can shed alot of light on the subject.  This silver platter which you speak of is interesting.  I would like to point out one thing on that subject.  There is such a thing as white privelege.  White people have many benefits at their disposal and it is sad because many white people do not see these priveleges.  For example, many whites take the fact that they can purchase any home in any location that they can afford for granted.   Being white allows one to be more likely to be shown houses in the nice areas, get good mortgage rates etc. without the nasty burden of discrimination.  Once a white person buys their new home in the nice area they can feel free to jog in their neighborhood without being asked (and i use that term loosely) for identification by the police to prove that they belong there.  I can go on and on and on about white privilege.  Please let me know if you would like to discuss why African Americans are overrepresented in prisons, underrepresented in white collar America, and why there is nothing being served on a 'silver platter'.  These statements are not directed at you and I am sorry if it seems that way.  You are certainly entitled to your opinion, however, I would want someone to enlighten me if I stated something incorrectly.  I feel the purpose of this message board is to learn from each other.  Anyone have any thoughts on this?