My goodness, emotional turmoil: some people do not know any other way to live. I hope she finds the strength and courage to get out, take care of herself and her children and look back at what she was in.........and know she made the right move. He is not worthy of anything he has or anyone around him until he changes his life around which will take some serious efforts on his part and help from a good therapist, I'm sure. He is so self centered, he is really sick! Good luck to both of them.
From someone who NOW can't live without serenity........I paid the price too!